You may want to try hooking up with a real estate agent. Some of them can help with rental properties as well. I know of one in Sanford at least. And they do cover Carolina Lakes (which is a very nice place!) http://www.carolinalakes.com/
There is a listing of houses for rent on the web site: http://www.carolinalakes.com/add_per..._show_list.php
I work on Ft Bragg, and can try to get you lined up with people that are already here to give you a hand if you would like. Feel free to Personal Message me so we can exchange email addresses.
Also if I get you lined up with someone here they can help you get to know people quicker. There is a woman I used to work with, who started a support team for families with husbands/wives overseas. It is a fairly tight community, and everyone is willing to help out. Especially for the new people.
Thank you to you, your husband, and family for your sacrifice! I do what I can (train and support soldiers) but am too old to be on the front lines.
Havign moved from far away myself and trying to do it all remotely is tough. Let me know how I casn help!