They all sound good... (Charlotte, Raleigh: transplants, live in, stores)

[slvrcts04]

Originally Posted by Chimp

NOOOO! Well, that is not true..I will miss my dad and brother...they are really the only family I have left. But I will not miss my in-laws or their family...they have not liked me from the beginning and are so mean and negative. You know the people that smile at you and make a really mean comment at the same time. (ex: "Wow it is so hot today..too bad you are so heavy that you can't wear a nice sun dress") My husband and I both are so happy to put some distance between us and them. It reached a breaking point when my oldest made a comment that reminding me of them!

I would love to have the type of family that I would want to stay for.

My dad & 2 brothers are really the only family I have left too. It's heartbreaking leaving them but we have to do what is best for our family at this time. If things don't work out in NC we can always come back & be in the same situation we are in now(just keeping our heads above water).

[shaylahc]

Originally Posted by saralee

I have a special needs child, and we are in Jersey. This problem is not unique to NC. We have endured nightmare experience, after nightmare experience with our school district. My 12-year-old son has not had an educational placement since November 2005. We've had two resolution meetings, a third one scheduled for August 3 and we're awaiting a hearing date for due process. The courts are so backlogged that the district's attorney promised they could wait me out, as it is likely we wouldn't get a decision from a juge before early 2007.

The school district thought I would go away. They thought I would accept the crappy IEP they threw our way. They were content with my son sitting in the back of a classroom, falling more and more behind, the gap widening between he and his peers, as he got older. Despite the school district having more resources and financial means than me, the law is constructed in a manner where the onus is on the parent to prove that the child's needs aren't being met.

I can't tell you how many days have ended with me in tears over this situation. But even worse, I can't tell you how many times my son cries over it.

SL

(((((HUGS)))))) Isn't it horrible? I have fought tooth and nail for my kid. I can only imagine what happens to kids whose parents just don't care

[nk0171]

Originally Posted by shaylahc

I am in Apex and we are looking to leave, too. The schooling situation is the main reason, as well as the desire for a lower cost of living. Wake County schools don't "suck" unless you have a child with special needs. Last year I found out that due to budget restrictions and overcrowding it is VERY hard to get services for children who aren't severely impaired. I was disgusted with how the school system kept trying to lay the blame on me. The school psychologist actually told me "we aren't required to provide your child with an optimal education, just an adequate one" That kind of an attitude is one of the main reasons we are putting our house up for sale and getting out of Wake County.

shaylah, so sorry to hear how the schools treated you and your child! that is horrible!!! are you all moving out of NC our just out of Wake County?

[ITChick]

Originally Posted by i'minformed

Oh I know I'm not alone.... but we are definitely the minority!

You and gregsbabe1 may be in the minority, but you both have good reasons as to why you want to leave.

I'm not totally sold on NC yet, and I'm sure there are a few others who may feel that way as well.

[I'minformed2]

Thank you for the kind comments ITchick.

[I'minformed2]

Originally Posted by Chimp

NOOOO! Well, that is not true..I will miss my dad and brother...they are really the only family I have left. But I will not miss my in-laws or their family...they have not liked me from the beginning and are so mean and negative. You know the people that smile at you and make a really mean comment at the same time. (ex: "Wow it is so hot today..too bad you are so heavy that you can't wear a nice sun dress") My husband and I both are so happy to put some distance between us and them. It reached a breaking point when my oldest made a comment that reminding me of them!

I would love to have the type of family that I would want to stay for.

Please tell me that was just an exaggerated example and not something that acutally happened! That's HORRIBLE!

[connie]

Originally Posted by saralee

I have a special needs child, and we are in Jersey. This problem is not unique to NC. We have endured nightmare experience, after nightmare experience with our school district. My 12-year-old son has not had an educational placement since November 2005. We've had two resolution meetings, a third one scheduled for August 3 and we're awaiting a hearing date for due process. The courts are so backlogged that the district's attorney promised they could wait me out, as it is likely we wouldn't get a decision from a juge before early 2007.

The school district thought I would go away. They thought I would accept the crappy IEP they threw our way. They were content with my son sitting in the back of a classroom, falling more and more behind, the gap widening between he and his peers, as he got older. Despite the school district having more resources and financial means than me, the law is constructed in a manner where the onus is on the parent to prove that the child's needs aren't being met.

I can't tell you how many days have ended with me in tears over this situation. But even worse, I can't tell you how many times my son cries over it.

SL

I'm so sorry for your experience. I wish I could say something to help .... Your post was one of the most moving things I've ever read - it just stopped me in my tracks. My heart goes out to your son and your family and I sincerely hope things are better for you soon.

Connie

[connie]

Originally Posted by i'minformed

I really don't hate NC. I just think it's overrated and I see a lot of people moving here almost on a whim. I find it sad because a lot of them have kids who have to relocate and that's always hard, and down the road, your priorities may change. That's what happened to me. I went home (ny) for a visit for a summer visit a few years ago and it was like it just hit me; my parents got "old", my neices and nephews all grew up. and I missed all of this, my own kids grew up and my whole family missed that. It just doesn't seem worth it to me personaly to live someplace just because it might have warmer weather or the homes may be cheaper, to miss out on all of that other stuff. I realize that that's not how everyone's situation is. but it is just a very sad one that just "hits you" a few years down the road.

We are leaving family to move to NC, for lots of reasons. We're still doing it and are very excited, but I have to say that this post is one that makes you think.

[maggiekate]

Originally Posted by gregsbabe1

Well we live in Apex but my kids go to Middle Creek, great schools they really helped my son after he had surgery, we were worring aout him graduating since he missed a month of school butthey really went the extra mile to help him. Why are you leaving? where you off to?

I thought of N.C., and it was not my place. This was in 1998, however, at that time compared to Cary, I really liked Apex. I am single with no school issues.

judy

Missing school when I was in grade 10 in Boston, I missed school for 3 plus weeks, I had a great teacher who did help me lots. i did end up going to another school, which was best.

judy

[maggiekate]

Originally Posted by i'minformed

Please tell me that was just an exaggerated example and not something that acutally happened! That's HORRIBLE!

called fair weather friends!