They all sound good... (Charlotte, Apex: appointed, daycare, preschool)

[Chimp]

Originally Posted by i'minformed

Please tell me that was just an exaggerated example and not something that acutally happened! That's HORRIBLE!

The actual comment was too bad you haven't lost any of that pregnancy weight yet but yeah it was an actual comment.

That and my oldest is from a previous marriage but she was 3 when we got together and she is now 11 and I have a child from this marriage that is 3 and they always make comments like "gee I am so glad we finally have a granddaughter!" Boy that makes me so mad!! My oldest father isn't involved much with her and is really flaky and my husband now has been her "DAD". As in showing her how to ride a bike and going to all her school things. Even taking time off to volunteer in her class. But they still make a huge distiction between the two girls. And have even said they only reason they come to my oldest's b-day parties is because we told them that if they didn't, then they could not come to the youngest's .

Sorry for the vent...

They just get me so worked up! We cannot WAIT to get out of here!!!

[mmdj43]

Originally Posted by Weis02

Part of my family is moving down, I know others where close friends all move...A friend if mine is leaving and is hoping her neighbors will become a new family, with so many people that are leaving family, this may hold true.

Family is very important but I cannot make my decision personally based on that as there are other things to consider. If I or anyone if my family is struggling to stay here, how can I expect them (or them of me) to stay somewhere that is not affordable anymore.

I agree with you 100%. As much as I know it won't be easy having to leave family here in NY, my husband and I need to do what we feel is best for us and our daughter. No matter where you go, you will deal with nonsense, but it's what you make of it. I'm not looking to change things, but rather conform to the southern hospitality that I hear so much about.

[mmdj43]

Originally Posted by slvrcts04

My dad & 2 brothers are really the only family I have left too. It's heartbreaking leaving them but we have to do what is best for our family at this time. If things don't work out in NC we can always come back & be in the same situation we are in now(just keeping our heads above water).

Just out of curiosity, but if someone is unhappy with a certain area of NC, why the need to move back to the place you tried to get away from? Why would someone not consider another area in NC? I know a woman who moved to Lake Norman about a year ago and is now looking to move back to NY. She said it was because she and her family felt like outcasts and that they lived in a rural area of Lake Norman. Okay, so why not consider other areas like Charlotte and Raleigh that do have a lot of transplants (such as myself )?

Just curious.

[I'minformed2]

Originally Posted by Chimp

The actual comment was too bad you haven't lost any of that pregnancy weight yet but yeah it was an actual comment.

That and my oldest is from a previous marriage but she was 3 when we got together and she is now 11 and I have a child from this marriage that is 3 and they always make comments like "gee I am so glad we finally have a granddaughter!" Boy that makes me so mad!! My oldest father isn't involved much with her and is really flaky and my husband now has been her "DAD". As in showing her how to ride a bike and going to all her school things. Even taking time off to volunteer in her class. But they still make a huge distiction between the two girls. And have even said they only reason they come to my oldest's b-day parties is because we told them that if they didn't, then they could not come to the youngest's .

Sorry for the vent...

They just get me so worked up! We cannot WAIT to get out of here!!!

A certain finger of mine would have been pointed at those people quite a few times by now. That's horrible; you shouldn't let them attend your younger daughter's birthday party anyways if they don't want to go to the oldests. You need to come join my family! My sister died 10 years ago, and her husband and stepchildren AND his new wife and her daughter still go and visit my parents, and come to all of the family gatherings;and his daughters still call them "grandma and grandpa" (eventhough they are in their 20's)

[I'minformed2]

Originally Posted by mmdj43

Just out of curiosity, but if someone is unhappy with a certain area of NC, why the need to move back to the place you tried to get away from? Why would someone not consider another area in NC? I know a woman who moved to Lake Norman about a year ago and is now looking to move back to NY. She said it was because she and her family felt like outcasts and that they lived in a rural area of Lake Norman. Okay, so why not consider other areas like Charlotte and Raleigh that do have a lot of transplants (such as myself )?

Just curious.

LOL, I've used that excuse plenty of times up until recently. Trust me; they are homesick for NY and just don't want to admit it!

[mmdj43]

Originally Posted by i'minformed

LOL, I've used that excuse plenty of times up until recently. Trust me; they are homesick for NY and just don't want to admit it!

With that said, then why is it that nearly 95% of people I speak with said that they would never go back? I don't think they would really say that if they were really home sick.

[a1m1700]

Originally Posted by mmdj43

Just out of curiosity, but if someone is unhappy with a certain area of NC, why the need to move back to the place you tried to get away from? Why would someone not consider another area in NC? I know a woman who moved to Lake Norman about a year ago and is now looking to move back to NY. She said it was because she and her family felt like outcasts and that they lived in a rural area of Lake Norman. Okay, so why not consider other areas like Charlotte and Raleigh that do have a lot of transplants (such as myself )?

Just curious.

Leaving Lake Norman? hmmmm..... Did they live in a tiny little place with native North Carolina people and no transplants?

[slvrcts04]

Originally Posted by mmdj43

Just out of curiosity, but if someone is unhappy with a certain area of NC, why the need to move back to the place you tried to get away from? Why would someone not consider another area in NC? I know a woman who moved to Lake Norman about a year ago and is now looking to move back to NY. She said it was because she and her family felt like outcasts and that they lived in a rural area of Lake Norman. Okay, so why not consider other areas like Charlotte and Raleigh that do have a lot of transplants (such as myself )?

Just curious.

If we are just unhappy with an area of NC, sure, then we would probably try a different area, but if it comes down to being homesick, then we would consider moving back (after trying to make the best of it). No one knows how they are going to feel until they actually go through it.

[I'minformed2]

Originally Posted by mmdj43

With that said, then why is it that nearly 95% of people I speak with said that they would never go back? I don't think they would really say that if they were really home sick.

I was talking about those certain people in particular that you mentioned. You said that they were goiing back to NY, and the reason they gave is that they didn't feel welcome as transplants in that area. But in reality, if that were the real reason; like you said, they could move to a more "transient friendly" area of NC. But they didn'; most likely because they actually missed NY. They might not tell people that because, as you say most people would think they were nuts. Trust me here, I'm speaking from first hand experience.

[Grass Is Greener]

Originally Posted by mmdj43

I know a woman who moved to Lake Norman about a year ago and is now looking to move back to NY. She said it was because she and her family felt like outcasts and that they lived in a rural area of Lake Norman.

Wow that's terrible.

I actually have had the opposite experience. I have talked to so many people, done business with many locals, everybody is so friendly and receptive. I've already met my future neighboors, really nice couple we talked a couple of times fun conversation. Even people at the stores (employees and customers) start conversation and talk as much as our free time allows, it has been so wonderful.