Dress Codes for School Children in NEPA (Scranton, Pittston: lawyer, middle school)

[sues1]

Originally Posted by I LOVE PA!

How you dress is a direct representation of who you are. It is most people's first impression of an individual. I gre up in the 70's...and aside from a definite style we had...there was nothing back in that day that was sloppy, disrespectful, weird...what-have-you about our style of dress, make-up or hair. Hopefully by the time a child reaches High School, they are being groomed for the world in which they will WORK one day. It is not socially acceptable to 'express' your style..whatever it may be. In any Corporate office, bank, Doctors office, grocery store...there is a dress code. (or their should be) Why not teach these kids to have pride in themselves and dress as if they are preparing for their next step in life?
Along with the dress code comes another simple life lesson....FOLLOWING THE RULES. If you can't follow the rules...I don't care what your SAT score is...you won't make it in the local gas station. It is a life lesson than unfortunately needs to be taught in school because we can't count on parents to send their children to school looking respectful.
I was at the grocery check-out one day while the bagging girl was 'playing' with her nose ring. Apparantly, she had taken it out and couldn't find the hole to get it back in. I think it is GROSS for someone to be playing with their nose ring and touching MY FOOD. If this young girl hadn't had a nose ring...well...problem solved.

I grew up in the 70's as well and their were some different, weird styles back then, i remember my grandmother yelling we all looked dirty with the long hair in our eyes and you couldn't tell the boys from the girls. All the kids had long hair, we washed it, although to listen to the adults tell it, we didn't and we were disgusting and dirty. The point is, we all grew up and conformed. This is high school,these are kids, they all have their own style and i don't see why they can express it, but within reason. Keep the pants up, take out the nose rings in class and at work. They will get over it, and grow up and move on. Think back to Woodstock, did any of them look normal???

[I LOVE PA!]

Oh....I remember the long hair the boys wore...a favorite saying was "Jesus had log hair"...that usually got the adults to keep quiet for a bit! And if my Dad were alive...his memory on washing of the hair...we washed it too much...we were wasting water and our hair was going to fall out....

The problem with keeping things within reason is that this is a matter of opinion...so therefore. very specific rules are being written up by the schools. And I feel if the school writes the rule...the children should obey it.

[61scout80]

Originally Posted by TheHighHat

spI know this may be a controversial issue, but the premise is that it leads to more destructive behavior.

Before I moved from my old neighborhood, we were sitting in a car when a school bus pulled out to one of the community members house. A 17 year old girl ran to the bus with nothing on - the shortest skirt you ever saw - as her Mother stood from the driveway waving to her. What is wrong with the picture transcends on so many different levels. The end result is a child who is 17 and is pregnant

1. Where is the respect for the family and the morals if any are taught?
2. Respect to oneselves and the school as a learning institution.
3. Where were the parents when important moral teaching went on? They did expect it was the job of the school?
4. Where is the self-esteem to know that at 17 you are just a baby yourself?
5. Forget about the cost - we wall know who is picking that up

Just found out that this girl is pregnant - remember reading about Delaware Valey and all STI's pregnant girls, etc.

It is totally disgusting and irresponsible. Are there dress codes in schools and do they adhere to them.

Listen now: if both parents are working and your chlidren are not getting the attention they need. The end result is evident. What you put into your children is what they get out.

I'm not making the connection between how the girl dresses at school and how she got knocked up. if she is raised without parents teaching morals, abstinence or protection she is going to "experiment". All dress codes do is force parents to buy 2 sets of clothes.

I remember growing up that the girls that had to dress alike for school were some of the widest when they got out.

[Summering]

Originally Posted by I LOVE PA!

How you dress is a direct representation of who you are. It is most people's first impression of an individual. I gre up in the 70's...and aside from a definite style we had...there was nothing back in that day that was sloppy, disrespectful, weird...what-have-you about our style of dress, make-up or hair. Hopefully by the time a child reaches High School, they are being groomed for the world in which they will WORK one day. It is not socially acceptable to 'express' your style..whatever it may be. In any Corporate office, bank, Doctors office, grocery store...there is a dress code. (or their should be) Why not teach these kids to have pride in themselves and dress as if they are preparing for their next step in life?
Along with the dress code comes another simple life lesson....FOLLOWING THE RULES. If you can't follow the rules...I don't care what your SAT score is...you won't make it in the local gas station. It is a life lesson than unfortunately needs to be taught in school because we can't count on parents to send their children to school looking respectful.
I was at the grocery check-out one day while the bagging girl was 'playing' with her nose ring. Apparantly, she had taken it out and couldn't find the hole to get it back in. I think it is GROSS for someone to be playing with their nose ring and touching MY FOOD. If this young girl hadn't had a nose ring...well...problem solved.

I agree with your posting .......Especially that last sentence, Ugh

[BLUEDIAMOND64]

Originally Posted by 61scout80

I'm not making the connection between how the girl dresses at school and how she got knocked up. if she is raised without parents teaching morals, abstinence or protection she is going to "experiment". All dress codes do is force parents to buy 2 sets of clothes.

I remember growing up that the girls that had to dress alike for school were some of the widest when they got out.

I think when a young girl dresses provactively, she is making a statement about herself. When parents let her go to school dressed in an indecent way - it means they are making a statement about their parenting style.

[BLUEDIAMOND64]

Originally Posted by I LOVE PA!

How you dress is a direct representation of who you are. It is most people's first impression of an individual. I gre up in the 70's...and aside from a definite style we had...there was nothing back in that day that was sloppy, disrespectful, weird...what-have-you about our style of dress, make-up or hair. Hopefully by the time a child reaches High School, they are being groomed for the world in which they will WORK one day. It is not socially acceptable to 'express' your style..whatever it may be. In any Corporate office, bank, Doctors office, grocery store...there is a dress code. (or their should be) Why not teach these kids to have pride in themselves and dress as if they are preparing for their next step in life?
Along with the dress code comes another simple life lesson....FOLLOWING THE RULES. If you can't follow the rules...I don't care what your SAT score is...you won't make it in the local gas station. It is a life lesson than unfortunately needs to be taught in school because we can't count on parents to send their children to school looking respectful.
I was at the grocery check-out one day while the bagging girl was 'playing' with her nose ring. Apparantly, she had taken it out and couldn't find the hole to get it back in. I think it is GROSS for someone to be playing with their nose ring and touching MY FOOD. If this young girl hadn't had a nose ring...well...problem solved.

Good post. I wonder if some of these parents would recommend a job interview with the pants hanging down. Following the rules that is right on target.

[go phillies]

[quote=sues1;5576784]

Originally Posted by TheHighHat

I also don't see how families can survive in this day and age without both parents working

Have you seen how much daycare costs these days?? By trimming unneccesary things from the budget...expensive cars , vacations, fancy houses in subdivisions....its doable to have a parent stay home with the kids, and much better for your kids' well-being.

[I LOVE PA!]

[quote=go phillies;5583674]

Originally Posted by sues1

Have you seen how much daycare costs these days?? By trimming unneccesary things from the budget...expensive cars , vacations, fancy houses in subdivisions....its doable to have a parent stay home with the kids, and much better for your kids' well-being.

Now don't be knocking the working parent!!
Many have arrangements other than day care. I had my own mother watch my kids...you can't beat that. Also...once a child goes to school, Mom's can certainly fit a job in between those hours.
I also know many Mom's who don't work because they would loose all the public assistance that they have.

[BLUEDIAMOND64]

[quote=go phillies;5583674]

Originally Posted by sues1

Have you seen how much daycare costs these days?? By trimming unneccesary things from the budget...expensive cars , vacations, fancy houses in subdivisions....its doable to have a parent stay home with the kids, and much better for your kids' well-being.

I do not know how I got quoted in saying that, since I stay at home. But, I happen to agree even though it is an entirely different topic. And, I agree with I Love PA, it is much better to have family members watching kids and there is nothing wrong with working mothers as long as your child is in the best possible care you can provide.

[go phillies]

Originally Posted by I LOVE PA!

Now don't be knocking the working parent!!
Many have arrangements other than day care. I had my own mother watch my kids...you can't beat that. Also...once a child goes to school, Mom's can certainly fit a job in between those hours.
I also know many Mom's who don't work because they would loose all the public assistance that they have.

I just believe that kids are much better off being raised by a parent when possible. Material things and $$$ cannot replace having an actual parent raise them during their formative years.