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Old 12-28-2010, 09:33 PM
 
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That said, I would say the teen years (13 and up), are not a good time to move. Social life is tre important at that stage and your offspring may feel the loss quite deeper. He/she could spend quite a bit of time rebuilding his/her social life and making new friends, especially since teens are far more judgemental and less open. Also, their emotional unhappiness can affect their concentration and grades. The adjustment at that stage in life to a more rigorous academic curriculum, will also affect them academically.
Also agree with this.

Obviously plenty of people move during their children's teenage years, and the children do fine -- but if you can be settled before then, it's usually easier.
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Old 12-29-2010, 05:21 AM
 
Location: Arlington, VA and Washington, DC
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I had parents who moved around A LOT when I was a kid. 18 different times, 12 different towns, and 6 different schools.

I will say this, move as much as you want BEFORE school. I always made friends quickly and easily around EVERY neighborhood that I moved to. It was being a new kid in a new school all the time that I hated. But you adjust.

I think while a kid is sixth grade or below, the move can be alright. I mean, you'll seriously miss your friends, but you haven't gotten to that critical adolescent stage yet.

But, I will say NEVER move a kid during their 4 years of High School. Yeah, my parents moved me during those years as well - including just before my Senior Year, and 20 years later, I'm still pissed about it Seriously though! Whenever I see ANY post on city-data about it, I always advise to stay put while a kid is in their last few years of High School.

However, for your case, it sounds like you are just thinking of '1 move', and since your kid isn't even a year yet. I'd say best to make the move sometime before he starts school. If you can't by that time, I don't think it will bother them too much if they are still a 'kid', but if they are an adoloscent, stay put.
I would generally agree with this, as a military brat. But if you have to do everything you can to make sure the child will at least get to spend the last two years in the same HS. I had several classmates who moved DURING their senior year and by that time most students are already in their long-established cliques which are pretty resistant to "new members". I moved before I began 11th grade to NoVA and while year one was rough socially, year two wasn't that bad.
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Old 12-29-2010, 02:30 PM
 
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. . . But, I will say NEVER move a kid during their 4 years of High School. Yeah, my parents moved me during those years as well - including just before my Senior Year, and 20 years later, I'm still pissed about it Seriously though! Whenever I see ANY post on city-data about it, I always advise to stay put while a kid is in their last few years of High School.
I am a military brat and we moved alot when I was growing up. But my parents agreed with this too: my dad's last tour of duty in Germany was unaccompanied because we had already started high school and they didn't want to move us.

Back to the OPs question: I moved to DC with a 4-yr old who went to kindergarten (private school) and then we moved to NoVA 3 yrs later. Kid adjusted fine but I think it's important for parents to provide stability at home and reassure the kid that things are OK.
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Old 12-29-2010, 03:23 PM
 
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As a former FFx county teacher, I can say that moving is a really big deal to most kids. Of course, it really depends on the child, but in most cases it's pretty scary. Some kids adjust fast, others don't and even get a little depressed.

Academically, it can be very harmful - a child who moves in the middle of the school year, even within the county, can end up missing a lot of the curriculum because things are not taught everywhere at the same time of the year. They can also end up behind and struggling. For some kids, a couple of moves in a short time frame can leave them up to a year behind. However, the educational level and dedication of the parent makes a big difference. For a child who is a good student, a couple of moves might not make much difference. However, a child who is struggling will have a tough time catching up in a new school.

I guess it really comes down to your children, and you know them better than anyone else.

Finally, you should know that it is possible to request that your child be allowed to finish the school year in the same school even if you move. I think this request is often granted - it is called pupil placement. The downside is that you have to handle transportation yourself.
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