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Old 05-26-2014, 04:51 PM
 
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I left NOVA 8 years ago and moved to Tampa Bay, primarily due to the much lower cost of living in FL and to be closer to family. I still have not gotten used to the climate and near constant heat here YET! I never thought I'd miss having 4 seasons and especially FALL. NOVA is so expensive but its home to me and I miss sooo many things about it. I just dont want to regret coming back because our lifestyle could change because alot of our extra money would go to housing expenses. Sigh! I hate this feeling. I hate that I cant seem to get NOVA out of my mind. I seriously think I need a shrink over this. Has anyone else ever left the area and felt this way?
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Old 05-26-2014, 05:15 PM
 
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I left NOVA 8 years ago and moved to Tampa Bay, primarily due to the much lower cost of living in FL and to be closer to family. I still have not gotten used to the climate and near constant heat here YET! I never thought I'd miss having 4 seasons and especially FALL. NOVA is so expensive but its home to me and I miss sooo many things about it. I just dont want to regret coming back because our lifestyle could change because alot of our extra money would go to housing expenses. Sigh! I hate this feeling. I hate that I cant seem to get NOVA out of my mind. I seriously think I need a shrink over this. Has anyone else ever left the area and felt this way?
I left and swore I'd never come back in 2010 and lasted in Louisville KY for 25 months and returned in July 2012. Personally I didn't see the value of having a nice older apartment for $400 a month in Louisville and not having anything to do on the weekend. I think if you still long for NoVA after 8 years away, Tampa ain't gonna work no matter how long you stay there. I wonder if Richmond would be a good compromise. You are still within 2 hours of NoVA but not quite the sticker shock.
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Old 05-26-2014, 06:24 PM
 
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You are right Dissenter. I really think you are absolutely right! I did consider Richmond a few years ago but I never cared for Richmond. My ideal location would be Ashburn, VA and of course its sky high! :/
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Old 05-26-2014, 07:07 PM
 
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Went through it myself with my hometown of Mahopac New York. My parents moved me to Florida when I was 14 and I hated it, I finally got to leave when I was 34 and moved to Virginia after my wife graduated from college in 2005. Been in Virginia ever since, live just outside Charlottesville and it's absolutely gorgeous here.

Home sickness is tough, it took me 3 trips to NY from 2011-2013, and it's still not fully out of my system. It can actually lead to depression if you're not careful.

I would come back and visit and stay a week. Coming back does help overcome homesickness, you will be amazed what a vacation can accomplish.

My wife and I earn in the six-figure range together and I would never be able to afford New York anymore. The northeast is extremely expensive but when you got corrupt liberal government that is anti business pro welfare and taxes it's residents to death, there's a lot of people leaving NY/CT.
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Old 05-26-2014, 07:28 PM
 
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Yes, my income is the same and it would still be expensive, but doable. Homesickness is tough and has caused me to be severely depressed at times throughout the years. I am visiting in a few weeks for a week and I hope it cures it.

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Went through it myself with my hometown of Mahopac New York. My parents moved me to Florida when I was 14 and I hated it, I finally got to leave when I was 34 and moved to Virginia after my wife graduated from college in 2005. Been in Virginia ever since, live just outside Charlottesville and it's absolutely gorgeous here.

Home sickness is tough, it took me 3 trips to NY from 2011-2013, and it's still not fully out of my system. It can actually lead to depression if you're not careful.

I would come back and visit and stay a week. Coming back does help overcome homesickness, you will be amazed what a vacation can accomplish.

My wife and I earn in the six-figure range together and I would never be able to afford New York anymore. The northeast is extremely expensive but when you got corrupt liberal government that is anti business pro welfare and taxes it's residents to death, there's a lot of people leaving NY/CT.
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Old 05-26-2014, 08:34 PM
 
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I wish you luck my friend. I've learned not to dwell in the past, it's nice to visit, but don't live there.

I think for me and your situation may differ, is because I didn't get to leave on my own terms. I didn't get to say hey New York I'm tired of you, my parents decided that for me when I was 15.

Honestly now when I go back to visit I look at it and say this isn't my hometown, what ya'll do to the place?

I left NY close to 1990 and didn't return for a visit until 2011, it was first time back in over 15 years.

I'm not a Native to Virginia but have become a resident, been here going on 9 years and really like the state and what Virginia has to offer.

I wonder if Fredericksburg, Manassas, Gainesville, Woodbridge would be good options or is that as expensive as Ashbury?
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Old 05-26-2014, 09:42 PM
 
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I left NOVA in 2006, when I retired. However, I've only thought about going back just in passing. I don't see the point of being there when there are much better places to be. I was there for work and work only.

All things considered, I thought the place was too much of a rat race and too expensive.
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Old 05-26-2014, 10:02 PM
 
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I was there for work and work only.
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^Yup. That's why we're here. Our daughter was born here and when she started school, we made a commitment to stay here in the same town until she finished school. We figured that when she was done with her education, should she want to settle here, we would stick around. NoVA native that she is, she has no interest in returning.

We, too, are looking into leaving---for various reasons.

OP---If you miss NoVA and want to come back, weigh the pros and cons.

How long has it been since you've been back to NoVA? The reason I ask is if you stay away too long, in a way, it will feel like you don't recognize the place as it is constantly changing (in some spots not for the better) and growing.
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Old 05-27-2014, 02:51 AM
 
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I left NOVA 8 years ago and moved to Tampa Bay, primarily due to the much lower cost of living in FL and to be closer to family. I still have not gotten used to the climate and near constant heat here YET! I never thought I'd miss having 4 seasons and especially FALL. NOVA is so expensive but its home to me and I miss sooo many things about it. I just dont want to regret coming back because our lifestyle could change because alot of our extra money would go to housing expenses. Sigh! I hate this feeling. I hate that I cant seem to get NOVA out of my mind. I seriously think I need a shrink over this. Has anyone else ever left the area and felt this way?
I've been in NOVA since 73 and have seen this so many times. One of my best friends at the PD uprooted his family and left to go back to Indiana where they had family and where they grew up. Within a year he was back in VA working again at the PD. They decided VA was truly their home now and they are still here. (This was around 88) I know people who left and now wish they never had but can't come back for a variety of reasons.
OP. It sounds like you've made up your mind that you need to come back but are just waiting for someone to tell you just go.
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Old 05-27-2014, 06:14 AM
 
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I left NOVA 8 years ago and moved to Tampa Bay, primarily due to the much lower cost of living in FL and to be closer to family. I still have not gotten used to the climate and near constant heat here YET! I never thought I'd miss having 4 seasons and especially FALL. NOVA is so expensive but its home to me and I miss sooo many things about it. I just dont want to regret coming back because our lifestyle could change because alot of our extra money would go to housing expenses. Sigh! I hate this feeling. I hate that I cant seem to get NOVA out of my mind. I seriously think I need a shrink over this. Has anyone else ever left the area and felt this way?
We lived in NOVA for nearly 20 years, moved away for 3 years, and then came back. Didn't go back to Loudoun County though (for several reasons) but instead, bought a house in Winchester. It's a consideration commuting and/or visiting friends in NoVA or DC, but it's well worth it and we love it. Our expenses, especially property taxes, are much lower here and it's a great community.

Not sure if you're retired or still working, but I suggest returning to visit also and see how it feels. Sometimes it's just an adjustment to the new place; other times it's time to get the hell out and go where your heart is.

Good luck with everything.
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