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Old 04-10-2019, 05:36 PM
 
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So...if I join a new company or find myself in a new social group, I make it a point not to listen to the gossipy ninnies about their opinion on who everyone is.


I pride myself in meeting the people myself, forming my own relationship, and making my own independent judgement, without any preconceived notions.



Just food for thought.....
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Old 04-10-2019, 06:10 PM
 
Location: Alexandria, VA
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Couldn't rep. you again but just a side note: I introduced myself to new folks that had moved into a nearby house that I'd had the keys for as the older folks that lived there and I were friends) - mentioned to them that if they hadn't changed the locks I had a key if they wanted it back (they told me to keep it in case they needed it) - anyway, they also asked me if there were many others their age in the neighborhood (they seem to be in their 20's) - there are all ranges but most younger couples have a child/children - this couple doesn't appear to want to meet any but their own specific age and status (sad) - that being said - check out an area where you want to live and don't rule out meeting people of different ages, races, etc.
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Old 04-10-2019, 06:38 PM
 
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Couldn't rep. you again but just a side note: I introduced myself to new folks that had moved into a nearby house that I'd had the keys for as the older folks that lived there and I were friends) - mentioned to them that if they hadn't changed the locks I had a key if they wanted it back (they told me to keep it in case they needed it) - anyway, they also asked me if there were many others their age in the neighborhood (they seem to be in their 20's) - there are all ranges but most younger couples have a child/children - this couple doesn't appear to want to meet any but their own specific age and status (sad) - that being said - check out an area where you want to live and don't rule out meeting people of different ages, races, etc.

Totally agree.


I'm in my mid-40s. And besides my husband, my two best friends are lower-30s and upper-60s. Different races, different religions, different familial status.


So, I had heard that Middleburg, where I live, was all uppity, rich, horsey people. What I have found is that Middleburg contains many people of all economic levels, everyone I have met have been super kind and generous (ok..one cranky neighborhood person), and horses aren't a per-requisite to anything. I spend a fair amount of time explaining that to people who only know the stereotype.
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Old 04-10-2019, 07:39 PM
 
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Couldn't rep. you again but just a side note: I introduced myself to new folks that had moved into a nearby house that I'd had the keys for as the older folks that lived there and I were friends) - mentioned to them that if they hadn't changed the locks I had a key if they wanted it back (they told me to keep it in case they needed it) - anyway, they also asked me if there were many others their age in the neighborhood (they seem to be in their 20's) - there are all ranges but most younger couples have a child/children - this couple doesn't appear to want to meet any but their own specific age and status (sad) - that being said - check out an area where you want to live and don't rule out meeting people of different ages, races, etc.
I wouldn't take it that way by that question alone. I think its reasonable to want to be in a place where people in your age group are also moving to / living in, - which is different than wanting to be in a place that only includes, or predominantly includes, that category of people. In other words, I dont think that question suggests that they don't want a diverse neighborhood (by age, gender, social/wealth status, race etc).

I dont know your neighbors, so they might actually be what you suggested. But I can say first hand that a common fear of suburbia that young couples / adults in the late 20s to late 30s range have is that they will end up being the only ones in their communities in that group... meaning its not surprising that its one of the first questions they asked another local!
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Old 04-11-2019, 07:26 AM
 
Location: Alexandria, VA
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Except they don't interact with anyone else, don't wave when someone waves to them, etc.
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