Middle-Easterners in Burke/West Springfield (Alexandria, Manassas: best schools, allergy, income)

[ChristineVA]

Originally Posted by claremarie

White and black American women do not generally provide child care in northern Virginia, whether in their own homes or as sitters or nannies. This profession has been dominated by Hispanic, South Asian, and other immigrants for several decades.

This is not the case in Prince William county (specifically Woodbridge). My experience with home daycare is that there are many that are white and black. But we have a different demographic here than Fairfax County. Lots and lots of SAHMs whose spouses are just "average income" white collar workers.

[HereinVA]

I'm still wondering how it's legal for them to discrimate against males...

[Yankeesfan]

I think generally we need to respect people's religious beliefs even if we don't agree with them as long as they're harmless, especially since they are operating from home. It is an interesting question. I wonder if there are regulations addressing it.

[ChristineVA]

Originally Posted by Yankeesfan

I think generally we need to respect people's religious beliefs even if we don't agree with them as long as they're harmless, especially since they are operating from home. It is an interesting question. I wonder if there are regulations addressing it.

I agree because you can always choose NOT to go to them. It would be different if it was a public school or something where you had to go there. Then I think it would be discrimination.

[HereinVA]

Originally Posted by ChristineVA

I agree because you can always choose NOT to go to them.

Well, obviously not, as males are not CHOOSING not to go there, the daycare is refusing them service.

[ChristineVA]

Originally Posted by HereinVA

Well, obviously not, as males are not CHOOSING not to go there, the daycare is refusing them service.

The daycare isn't refusing them service, they are saying that the unaccompanied males cannot do pickup or dropoff. Males are welcome if they are accompanied by a female. Daycare providers all have different rules, some odd, some normal. Many of the daycare providers I interviewed used peanut products and refused to change. I could not use them because of my son's allergy. I don't feel like they were discriminating against him, it was the way they ran their business and they did not have to accommodate me. There were several other businesses that would accommodate me.

Somewhere, in Springfield, there is going to be a daycare that will allow the OP's husband to enter the facility!

[mielcre]

Skapov, How do you know that those people are not American? Who is American by the way? This country was built by immigrants.

[bospat]

The whole thing is absurd...if my wife was doing daycare and would not let an african american male come to the door to pick up there child she probably would be sued..it's ok though in this instance...whatever

[Yankeesfan]

I'm curious, if Skapov comes back to this thread, how many daycare providers did you encounter who actually had that rule, and how many who did not?

[sweetpotater58]

You must not look around much, there are a wide range of folks who do child care in their home of all backgrounds, the most important thing is are these folks safe, and how do things look where you child will be watched. As for the Middle Eastern/Arab thing, not ever heard of this being an issue, but if only one parent were allowed to do drop off and pick up then I would not opt for folks with that rule watching the kid, that would just cause possible hardship for you all. As for your comment being a racial one, perhaps it is, but it sounds more like you may be from a location originally that had a small or no diverse community. Some folks should cut you some slack, you asked a legitimate question, but I do agree, get to know your neighbors, you will likely find what you need in the way of childcare. You live in a culturally diverse area now and need to get used to such.