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Old 09-08-2009, 07:20 AM
 
Location: Northern Virginia
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If they did very well as the youngest, think what they might have been had they been among the older group! They may have been the STARS of their schools.
You can't just assume that an older child is going to be more successful. I have seen it with my own eyes that they are often underchallenged, bored and can become troublemakers and bullies. Frankly I feel sorry for those boys in my twin's grade.
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Old 09-08-2009, 07:49 AM
 
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I've also seen the boys who are the oldest become domineering and bully-ish, especially if they're physically bigger than the other kids. I've also seen girls who were the oldest become manipulative with friends when they reach the junior high clique-y stage. And I've seen students who clearly would have benefited from going later. There's no set answer. (And Denton, how do you know that my kids weren't/aren't stars at their schools ?)
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Old 05-24-2010, 06:35 AM
 
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Ayt . I think it doesn't matter at all !
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Old 05-24-2010, 03:53 PM
 
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Am I to understand that the parent even has an option of going in early or holding back a year? My daughter is a late Nov birthday and I think the cutoff in Stafford is 9/30. She is very advanced (physically and intellectually); do I even have a fighting chance of putting her in kindergarten 2 months before her 5th birthday?
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Old 05-24-2010, 05:58 PM
 
Location: Chapel Hill, NC (formerly Vienna, VA)
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Am I to understand that the parent even has an option of going in early or holding back a year? My daughter is a late Nov birthday and I think the cutoff in Stafford is 9/30. She is very advanced (physically and intellectually); do I even have a fighting chance of putting her in kindergarten 2 months before her 5th birthday?
No, generally you only have the option to hold back. It's very hard to push ahead.
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Old 05-27-2010, 11:25 PM
 
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my child is eight yrs old thought he was going from 2nd to 3rd only to find out hes not birthday is in apr my first thought is its not fair to him he is very disapointed and only has a half a day of school left
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Old 05-28-2010, 08:45 PM
 
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People often talk about holding their kids back in order to give them a better chance. You have to know your child. I believe this to be the truth. Holding them back does not give them a better chance in my opininon - in some ways I feel that if a child is challanged they will need to work harder to keep up. This is not necessarily a bad thing. If a child is challanged becuase lets say they are younger rather than older and maybe not as challanged - isn't it better to have a child work harder? I don't know - just my 2 cents. Its like what is called sand bagging in volleyball. Its where you enter a division which you know your competition is not as tough and you have a chance to win RATHER than to go against the people in a harder division where you may have to fight against every opponent and not win/place. However going again tougher opponents gets you to be a better player and you have to work harder to get ahead. I don't know if that is the most appropiate example but again it goes back to the challange thing. I also don't understand what is the big deal with testing. If you child gets tested and can pass - then great! The schools seem to make testing for entry passed the cutoff date a really rare exception.
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Old 05-28-2010, 08:48 PM
 
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If your child misses the cut-off date you have the option of enrolling them into private kindergarten which in Fairfax is ridiculously expensive....and I fault the school districts becuase if you pay they recognize that your child has completed the grade and at the end.....your child goes to 1st grade in public as long as he/she is 6 by Jan 1st of that year.
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Old 05-28-2010, 09:08 PM
 
Location: Northern, VA
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There are no advantages in my opinion. My oldest daughter was born in November. She was allowed to start school in September, then was kicked out when someone realized that her birthday was two weeks beyond the 10/31 cut off. Even though she could clearly handle the work and had no trouble keeping up with the other kids, it was decided that she wasn't ready. That was 12 years ago, and I still don't agree with the rule. Every child is different and should be evaluated as such.

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My sons have August birthdays. Is there an advantage to holding them back from kindergarten for a year or does it not matter?
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