Do NoVA Women Dress Schlumpy? (Reston: hotel, living, store)

[betamanlet]

Originally Posted by kevinm

Because WE have to see them. Have some pride and try to look your best at ALL TIMES. The world is not your private lounge.

Wow. i don't even know where to begin..

Have you ever been to a hospital before? Do you think someone getting a kidney dialysis or sitting on a bedpan is going to be overly concerned with wearing stylish clothes?

Worry about yourself. You don't know what's going on in other people's lives.

[ajzjmsmom]

Originally Posted by South Jersey Styx

I see mississippimagnolia's point. No, I don't think anyone feels a need to impress someone when we're just out buying a pack of sausages or picking out pears. But there is a difference between someone wearing a decent pair of sweats or yoga pants and a clean shirt versus someone with sleep discharge in the eye, wearing their pajamas, or who has obviously has not washed their face.

Sure, some people find it OK to look bad in public but to me, IMO, it shows a lack of self-respect, laziness, or indicative of a personal problem (i.e., depression, alcoholism or crack addict) when an individual cannot even make themselves presentable in public.

Wow, maybe the people don't know that others think they look bad, maybe their baby was sick all night long, maybe their mother just died, there are any number of reasons why someone maybe out in public without being dressed up but to pin it on lack of self-respect, laziness or to say it is indicative of a personal problem, just wow that is all I can say.

[ajzjmsmom]

Originally Posted by Fern435

As long as a person is clean and respectably covered, who cares what clothes she wears? Women seem to be judged more harshly here than men are (and usually by other women).

I don't want to attract attention when I do errands, so I deliberately dress in simple stuff.

Amen, I could care less what others wear when they are out in public and would actually think especially in the NOVA area where there are so many career minded people, that most people don't have the time or inclination to wonder why someone is dressed the way they are.

[South Jersey Styx]

Originally Posted by ajzjmsmom

Wow, maybe the people don't know that others think they look bad, maybe their there are any number of reasons why someone maybe out in public without being dressed up but to pin it on lack of self-respect, laziness or to say it is indicative of a personal problem, just wow that is all I can say.

I can understand your point. But I'm talking about people who do it who are not experiencing things mentioned above or who do it on a frequent basis/as a habit. And having a "baby sick all night long" or "maybe their mother just died" qualifies as a personal problem/experience or tragedy: just a temporary one. Sorry if "personal problem" came across too strong: I used it to the extreme.

And I didn't mean "dressed up" like putting on a matching outfit, wearing lipstick, or a shirt with a collar. I said:

Originally Posted by South Jersey Styx

But there is a difference between someone wearing a decent pair of sweats or yoga pants and a clean shirt versus someone with sleep discharge in the eye, wearing their pajamas, or who has obviously has not washed their face.

[mississippimagnolia]

Are you trying to impress the food you buy at the grocery store? You're there to buy groceries, not impress anyone, unless you are incredibly insecure and find a constant need to impress people.

The only person I try to impress is my husband. That's it.

I was raised that you just don't go out in public not looking your best. If your baby was up all night, then maybe your best that day is different from your best on another. But you still make the effort.

And for the record...I have five children. I know all too well what it's like to be exhausted. I still would never in a million years go out of the house in my pajamas. It's about personal pride in my appearance, not about trying to impress anyone.

[Fern435]

The quality of a person's character (how they treat others, etc.) is more important than what kind of clothes they wear, or if they are wearing makeup in public.

[mississippimagnolia]

Originally Posted by Fern435

The quality of a person's character (how they treat others, etc.) is more important than what kind of clothes they wear, or if they are wearing makeup in public.

I don't think anyone would ever dispute that the quality of one's character is more important than the clothing she wears. (I think you meant to say he or she rather than "their" since you used the term "person's"...singular.)

However, a person can certainly be of good moral character and still dress appropriately for the situation, wouldn't you agree?

[ajzjmsmom]

Originally Posted by mississippimagnolia

I don't think anyone would ever dispute that the quality of one's character is more important than the clothing she wears. (I think you meant to say he or she rather than "their" since you used the term "person's"...singular.)

However, a person can certainly be of good moral character and still dress appropriately for the situation, wouldn't you agree?

Unless there is a dress code somewhere, who determines what is appropriate dress for a given situation?

I guess as with just about any situation in life what one person would do isn't necessarily what another would do. While I personally do not wear pj's when I go to the store, I personally don't care if another person does. If they are comfortable what is it to me?

[CAVA1990]

Basically what America's devolved into is adults going out looking like children.

[mississippimagnolia]

Unless there is a dress code somewhere, who determines what is appropriate dress for a given situation?

Seriously? If you truly do not know, as an adult, that pajamas are not appropriate for a trip to the grocery store or that a swimsuit is not appropriate attire at your child's school event, something is very wrong.

*sigh. These are the same women who complain that they "can't find a man" in the D.C. area. Gee...I wonder why?