[BelgianPea]

I moved to Enid OK in januari because it is my husbands hometown. I myself am Belgian. A pretty long way away from home. So far, eventhough everybody is really friendly i find it very hard to meet people.

Making this whole new start in life while leaving everybody and everything I know and love behind has been hard but I'd do it again in a heartbeat to be with my husband. But having some local friends and people to talk to would be really nice.

Are there any people around here who are from Enid? Where do you go to meet new people?

Thanks in advance


Evi

[MrsMac]

We, too, recently moved to Enid thanks to a military move and I understand exactly what you are going through. Needless to say, I've moved a lot during my husband's career and I have yet to find an easy way to make new friends. The advice we military wives are usually given is to get involved in the community (by volunteering, joining a church, etc.) Of course, since we don't have a second car (and won't be getting one - all our extra money is going into renovating our new house) that's impossible for me! If it weren't for my kids I would probably be insane by now...

You did a brave thing moving so far (and I hope your husband appreciates it) but there are days, I'm sure, when you wonder what you are doing so far from home all alone. Feel free to contact me if you ever need someone to vent to; like I said, I understand how you feel!

[nmnita]

Originally Posted by MrsMac

We, too, recently moved to Enid thanks to a military move and I understand exactly what you are going through. Needless to say, I've moved a lot during my husband's career and I have yet to find an easy way to make new friends. The advice we military wives are usually given is to get involved in the community (by volunteering, joining a church, etc.) Of course, since we don't have a second car (and won't be getting one - all our extra money is going into renovating our new house) that's impossible for me! If it weren't for my kids I would probably be insane by now...

You did a brave thing moving so far (and I hope your husband appreciates it) but there are days, I'm sure, when you wonder what you are doing so far from home all alone. Feel free to contact me if you ever need someone to vent to; like I said, I understand how you feel!

Mrs Mac, only having one car can be a real problem, but you have decided to use your extra money on your house. that may be the best thing you can do. If you do try and get involved with other wives, church, your political party, kids school activities, whatever I am sure many are willing to give you a lift. YOu do have to go and try though. It can be fun and help pass the time. NMnita

[Synopsis]

I have to commend you on your devotion to your husband BelgianPea. I've been to Belgium and am from Oklahoma and know that there is a big difference between the two. However, I think given time if you just mix with what people you can, you'll find plenty of friends.

[BelgianPea]

Originally Posted by MrsMac

We, too, recently moved to Enid thanks to a military move and I understand exactly what you are going through. Needless to say, I've moved a lot during my husband's career and I have yet to find an easy way to make new friends. The advice we military wives are usually given is to get involved in the community (by volunteering, joining a church, etc.) Of course, since we don't have a second car (and won't be getting one - all our extra money is going into renovating our new house) that's impossible for me! If it weren't for my kids I would probably be insane by now...

You did a brave thing moving so far (and I hope your husband appreciates it) but there are days, I'm sure, when you wonder what you are doing so far from home all alone. Feel free to contact me if you ever need someone to vent to; like I said, I understand how you feel!

hi, so sorry for the lateness of my reply!! you're in enid aswell? so glad to hear im not the only person in town that feels a lil alone. ill pm you

[BelgianPea]

Originally Posted by nmnita

Mrs Mac, only having one car can be a real problem, but you have decided to use your extra money on your house. that may be the best thing you can do. If you do try and get involved with other wives, church, your political party, kids school activities, whatever I am sure many are willing to give you a lift. YOu do have to go and try though. It can be fun and help pass the time. NMnita

we're only with one car aswell but it doesnt even matter cos i cant even drive i so need to learn how to drive

[BelgianPea]

Originally Posted by Synopsis

I have to commend you on your devotion to your husband BelgianPea. I've been to Belgium and am from Oklahoma and know that there is a big difference between the two. However, I think given time if you just mix with what people you can, you'll find plenty of friends.

thank you eventhough the difference IS day and night i would do it again in a heartbeat. its been really hard so far away from everybody i love and even leaving the place i made my home, im trying to find my way here but its really hard.
id love to meet some people. it would be so nice if would know anybody you know, to able to call somebody up or have somebody over...

im not sure of how to go about meeting new people here. i know almost everybody here is connected to a church, but religion in europe is alot different. i wasnt raised religiously and my husband doesnt attend church either. but it feels like most of the socializing (sp?) goes on in and around church.

[Jammie]

Hi Belgianpea, OK has such friendly people that you'll be fine in no time.

Do you have children? If so, you could meet people at their plays or sporting events, etc.

You may want to wave at your neighbors or go outside if you see them in their yard and strike up a conversation with them.

Maybe you could go to a restaurant for a cup of coffee or tea? You may be able to strike up a chat with the person next to you. (Sit at the counter cause most people there are dining along or just out for coffee looking for a bit of idle chatter.)

Do you like to read? A trip to the library could be a chance to meet people with your interests.

Do you like to go for walks? You may be able to strike up a conversation with someone else along the way.

You sound a bit nervous about your move and I don't blame you. It's scary, especially since it's so far away and different from what you're used to.

You sound like such a friendly and down to earth person and I'm thinking that if you get the chance to chat with people, you'll have friends in no time.

[BelgianPea]

Originally Posted by Jammie

Hi Belgianpea, OK has such friendly people that you'll be fine in no time.

Do you have children? If so, you could meet people at their plays or sporting events, etc.

You may want to wave at your neighbors or go outside if you see them in their yard and strike up a conversation with them.

Maybe you could go to a restaurant for a cup of coffee or tea? You may be able to strike up a chat with the person next to you. (Sit at the counter cause most people there are dining along or just out for coffee looking for a bit of idle chatter.)

Do you like to read? A trip to the library could be a chance to meet people with your interests.

Do you like to go for walks? You may be able to strike up a conversation with someone else along the way.

You sound a bit nervous about your move and I don't blame you. It's scary, especially since it's so far away and different from what you're used to.

You sound like such a friendly and down to earth person and I'm thinking that if you get the chance to chat with people, you'll have friends in no time.

hi, thanks for the reply. we got married 2 months ago so no babies yet... guess we're traditional
i do think i will be ok once i strike up a convo but it just doesnt seem to happen.

i go for a walk almost every day by myself when my husband is still sleeping (he works nightshift)

i wave at neighbours, help em with carrying groceries, hold the door,... but in our appartmentbuilding are only people with special needs + really old. im friendly with em but most of em are really hard to understand even (cos of their "needs") . the people across us are the only ones our age and are in good health. we exchange hello's and i'd like to talk to the girl (i see her most) but so far i havent really been able to get in real contact with her.

i've been here for 4 months now and i feel like im getting nowhere :-s

i LOVE to read i've already bought 7 books at hastings in the time ive been here. havent been to the library yet, in front of the door yes... but they were closed hehe.

i dont really drink coffee or tea but i see your point. we dont really do that and i cant do it by myself cos i cant drive. so im a bit stuck that way

do i sound difficult??

[Jammie]

No, you don't sound difficult at all. Those are all very valid points.

Have you private messaged Mrs.Mac? She sounds very nice and friendly. I just know you'll be fine, but in the meantime I'm out of ideas.

I'm more of a private person so the friends I have were met through work or are my neighbors. But I've lived in my area my entire life so that does make a difference. Also, for me, a nice short chat is sufficient, but I know that most people aren't like that and want close friendships.