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Unread 10-02-2010, 12:58 PM
 
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Default El Dorado High School in Placentia, CA

Hello,
I'm new here and I'm in a bit of a dilemma right now where my 13 year old daughter is concerned. We live in Yorba Linda and are within the new high school boundaries. She attended elementary and middle school in the Placentia area because she was in the GATE program. She has made friends in that area and I'm not too thrilled about her company.

She has started school at the new high school and refuses to make friends and doesn't even want to do her homework. She is always angry that she is away from her friends. Her friends are all within the El Dorado High School boundaries and attend that school as it is their home school in Placentia.

I went to the new High School and loved it. The teachers, parents and students seem so responsible and it is even better than the private school my son went to. Her father has an apartment in the Fullerton area and she could get a spot at El Dorado High School.

I have a lot of behavioral issues with her right now. But if we just continuously force her to go, she is losing academic time which is a concern.

I really wished she would have been open to making friends in the new high school as it is just literally two minutes from our house...but she is so stubborn and anxious about not going there. She is glued to those friends and won't entertain the idea of making new ones..

What are eveybody's thoughts about the school? How is the environment and educational platform? I just want to see my daughter progress and be healthy, happy and successful. At the end, I want her to have a career goal and go to a good college.

Thanks for any tips!

Moria
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Unread 10-02-2010, 05:00 PM
 
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I'd say let her go where her friends are but make a deal with her that she has to get As and Bs there. Is this really about her or your relationship with your ex-husband?
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Unread 10-02-2010, 08:09 PM
 
Location: Las Flores, Orange County, CA
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I would recommend family counseling first. Your intuitions are raising yellow flags about her friends and her approach to school. This isn't really a school boundary issue as much as it is a family issue.
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Unread 10-02-2010, 09:14 PM
 
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Hi,
Thanks for the responses. I do agree that this is a familial issue and we are working on getting her to see a therapist. She is a bright child intellectually but very foolish and not as wise and understanding that she should be. My husband (who is not my ex...but we are considering separation) is manipulated by her constantly and he lets her manipulate/abuse/disobey rules because he believes she is a mentally ill child. I disagree and think she was spoiled by him and manipulated him so much that she eventually thought that why do I need mom's discipline?

For the past two years, we have been having problems because our parenting styles are different. He thinks she is ill mentally and the only way she will be independent is if we let her blackmail us into performing academically and will eventually mature. I don't think she is mentally ill but just a spoiled child who has learned how to push her father's buttons. She has more control over him than I do...a big reason why we are considering separating.

Her profanity towards me is out of control, but really right now she is so miserable and irritable without her friends that it is harming her academically. I'm asking myself the question....if she ruins her academic career when she has the potential to excel....is it really worth the change? I want to prepare her for the outside world and want her to have a good character, sense of responsibility, ethic, etc. and I'm wondering if the school would have a big influence or will this maturity just come naturally.

Since a lot of you are more experienced than I am in the area, perhaps you could advise more. Would I be seeing a big difference in the overall quality of the atmosphere between El Dorado and Yorba Linda High School (new school)? I want her to have the best, but at the same time I want her to be happy and healthy.

Sorry if this post is a little incoherent. I'm a bit upset/anxious at the moment with the way things are at home. I just want things to work out for the best for my kids and I hope that I make the right decision.

Thanks,
Moria
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Unread 10-02-2010, 10:06 PM
 
Location: Las Flores, Orange County, CA
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This is not objective, but it may provide a little more commentary than this forum will:

Parent Reviews of El Dorado High School - Placentia, California - CA

Parent Reviews of Yorba Linda High School - Yorba Linda, California - CA

They both rank high with Great Schools.
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