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Originally Posted by Curious Jay
Hey man, I'm not a religious man so I'm gonna cling to the *slim* chance that you won't take too much offense at this.
You sound like a nice, decent guy - but also a bit of a judgmental square. You're spot-on about the general vacuousness and superficiality of people in SoCal: but from one young guy to another - your religious haranguing and moralizing isn't very sexy, and my guess is that young girls in your age group sense this. Good luck finding your "Stepford Christian Dream Wife" because generally speaking, most young women under the age of 30 are looking for a man that makes them feel alive. Not one that judges them at every turn for not being Model Christians. I mean, you want a GORGEOUS girl with curves, angelic face and luscious hair who drips sexuality from every pore - yet who's also religious, chaste, virginal and pristine? What century do you live in brother, and what's up with that Madonna-wh@re complex? You're uncannily like the character of Docteur Royer-Collard in 'Quills', a movie about the infamous Marquis de Sade. 
But that's the one thing all religious people in the Christian faith struggle with, isn't it? I'm no Bible scholar but the 'good book' preaches some stuff that's undeniably contradictory with basic and natural human instincts. Sexuality? Oh goodness no! Bad, bad! As far as I'm concerned religion is just a matter of personal interpretation, and when taken to a fundamentalist level it just becomes a guilt-based one - and let's face it: young women aren't attracted to a clucking tongue and wagging finger - they're attracted to men who aren't afraid to be themselves and also let their girls be who they want to be.
And that brings me to an important corollary: my guess is that girls flake on you because you don't come at them the right way. Looking at it from your moralizing, Christian perspective, the "sad, bad" news is that young women DO like a slightly 'wicked' boy that makes the hair on the back of their neck stand up. *Especially* the pretty ones. Yes: it's the proverbial 'Eve and the Forbidden Fruit' situation, and that's just the nature of the beast, brother. You are probably behaving in a way that's unappealing to more liberal Christian girls, and you'll have to fine-tune your search to include women with a more strict Christian belief system like yours (but as you've found that's getting increasingly harder these days) or just accept the fact that most young women in O.C. are "whores" (at least by your standards).
You seem to be dealing with a host of complexes which stem from your religious beliefs (this isn't all that uncommon amongst any religious person with a relatively rigid and strict interpretation of their religion - and last I checked the only practically applicable Christian tenets in this modern world is being a decent neighbor and friend to your fellow man), and this is really making it hard for you to fit in in an area that is admittedly superficial - most people who go to Church are probably only doing it for family tradition or for show, and most young people in O.C. that feel pressured by family to attend church care even LESS.
Tell me - or is this heathen just smoking something illicit? |
Wow buddy. After reading your little ranting post there, you seem to come off as the more "judgmental square", than the christian financial guy. And this is coming from an atheist.
Obviously, you reacted defensively to the Christian man's personal values and you equally resent his point of view, which you take as coming straight from his religion. He was pointing out the superficiality in OC and how he is frustrated because he can't make friends, in addition to his personal distaste of women dressing like "whores" in his church. He used the word "whores", and to be politically correct, that is completely inappropriate for any man to to use that word unless he's referring to a hooker.
He never said he was looking for his "Stepford Christian Dream Wife" as you put it, so you need to put down the keyboard and read more
"most young women under the age of 30 are looking for a man that makes them feel alive. Not one that judges them at every turn for not being Model Christians. "
He wasn't judging them, he was merely stating his personal dissatisfaction with them. You are judging him.
"But that's the one thing all religious people in the Christian faith struggle with, isn't it?" "I'm no Bible scholar"
That's correct. You're no Bible scholar.
"young women aren't attracted to a clucking tongue and wagging finger - they're attracted to men who aren't afraid to be themselves"
I doubt you get laid much then. I'd argue he isn't afraid to be himself, he's open and accepting in his own beliefs, even though you disagree with those beliefs.
"Yes: it's the proverbial 'Eve and the Forbidden Fruit' situation, and that's just the nature of the beast, brother. "
Now you're getting cute.
"You seem to be dealing with a host of complexes which stem from your religious beliefs (this isn't all that uncommon amongst any religious person with a relatively rigid and strict interpretation of their religion - and last I checked the only practically applicable Christian tenets in this modern world is being a decent neighbor and friend to your fellow man)"
WOOOOWWWWW! First you give a psychoanalysis on the man's "host of complexes" which you think stem from his religious beliefs. After that you attempt to apply this toilet-bowl case-study to a larger portion of the religious population.
WHO IS YOUR DRUG DEALER?, BECAUSE YOU'RE OBVIOUSLY GETTING SOME GOOD ILLICIT ****!
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