Is there ANY hope for a black woman in OC to find romance/love?

[CaliRestoration]

Originally Posted by RoadTripGurl

CaliRestoration bless your heart honey but no it's a CA thing. It's been over 5 years since I had a date here back home it's just not like this. Men are more open minded there and don't judge so harshly the way they do here. I have run into that back home in the DMV but again there's just more inventory of available men willing to date a black woman with kids.

Thanks for the blessing.

I'm not sure how you can say "dating a single mom is an obstacle for single men" is only a "CA thing".

Are you saying dating single moms (compared to dating single non-moms) holds no stigma at all anywhere else in the nation, the world?

[Kurinji]

Originally Posted by SportyandMisty

My condolences.

thanks

[Sunny_View]

Originally Posted by CaliRestoration

Thanks for the blessing.

I'm not sure how you can say "dating a single mom is an obstacle for single men" is only a "CA thing".

Are you saying dating single moms (compared to dating single non-moms) holds no stigma at all anywhere else in the nation, the world?

Well, I can't speak for RTG, but I'm from the East Coast as well, and I think what she's saying is that even in SPITE of having a child, she had better success on the east coast with men, probably because the stigma isn't as dire as it is out here.

I kind of sense what she's talking about. Even though I don't have any kids, there's a definite difference in the men out here...or, at least in the OC area. I can't speak for all of SoCal.

It's not just about kids, it's about...everything in general. Almost like some people are looking for perfection out here, while that same type of pressure (to be perfect or have a certain look or "status") is just not AS prevalent over on the East Coast. Don't get me wrong, there are other pressures out there that don't exist here in Southern CA, but when it comes to dating and relationships, the mentality is much different out here.

I had a gf back home who had a baby out of wedlock (at the time we were both in our mid-late 20's), and she ended up finding a really GOOD upstanding, nice, guy who had never been married before, never had any kids, but dated her and proposed marriage to her...even DESPITE her having a child. He didn't seem to mind at all...and he was in his 20's himself!

I know others like this as well. Southern CA/OC is just very very DIFFERENT lol.. That's the only best way I can describe it . You don't recognize the difference, until you go visit elsewhere, or move and live somewhere else.

[CaliRestoration]

Originally Posted by Sunny_View

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Well, I can't speak for RTG, but I'm from the East Coast as well, and I think what she's saying is that even in SPITE of having a child, she had better success on the east coast with men, probably because the stigma isn't as dire as it is out here.

I kind of sense what she's talking about. Even though I don't have any kids, there's a definite difference in the men out here...or, at least in the OC area. I can't speak for all of SoCal.

It's not just about kids, it's about...everything in general. Almost like some people are looking for perfection out here, while that same type of pressure (to be perfect or have a certain look or "status") is just not AS prevalent over on the East Coast. Don't get me wrong, there are other pressures out there that don't exist here in Southern CA, but when it comes to dating and relationships, the mentality is much different out here.

I had a gf back home who had a baby out of wedlock (at the time we were both in our mid-late 20's), and she ended up finding a really GOOD upstanding, nice, guy who had never been married before, never had any kids, but dated her and proposed marriage to her...even DESPITE her having a child. He didn't seem to mind at all...and he was in his 20's himself!

I know others like this as well. Southern CA/OC is just very very DIFFERENT lol.. That's the only best way I can describe it . You don't recognize the difference, until you go visit elsewhere, or move and live somewhere else.

South OC is primarily wealthy burbs, and with that, primarily families. So South OC isn't exactly a hot spot for singles, so I can see that making things challenging.

If you're talking Central/North OC, I'm not sure what would be "different" than the East Coast. North OC is pretty urban, and diverse.

[Count David]

I once read the Riverside led the nation in single dads.

[SportyandMisty]

Originally Posted by Just A Guy

Conservative people are always going to have trouble stepping outside of the norm. Conservative guys of other races might be attracted to you, but they will have trouble because they are too concerned with what everyone else might think.

I disagree with your definition of Conservative.

To me, Conservative people are those who follow their own mind and thoughts without regard to societal mores.

[RoadTripGurl]

Originally Posted by CaliRestoration

South OC is primarily wealthy burbs, and with that, primarily families. So South OC isn't exactly a hot spot for singles, so I can see that making things challenging.

If you're talking Central/North OC, I'm not sure what would be "different" than the East Coast. North OC is pretty urban, and diverse.

I just moved from central OC to North OC and I will admit the area is very different. Right now I am happier with the diversity in North OC. But still, Here I've observed that the men here like what they like. For example, I am a natural girl, I wear my hair very curly. I hardly get noticed. But if I wear long braids or long looking weave I get all the looks. I only wear my hair like that once in a blue moon but it just seems that guys aren't attracted to my type of look. I think somebody mentioned something to that affect early, people are attracted to the majority of what they see.