I have never had any interest in children. Maybe because I grew up surrounded with adults and never really bonded with kids my own age ( I moved around a lot as a child).
I don't hate kids but I do find them boring, smelly, dirty , noisy,untidy and did I say boring ?
Really, really boring.
I have felt immense pressure by other people to have kids and thank goodness have never given in to it.
I do not find babies cute, and until kids can talk and discuss things properly I really have zilch interest in them. Kids actually scare me.
I would rather read a good book or watch a good play. And get a puppy.
I am very fortunate my partner feels the same because I do not know how I would deal with having a broody man in my life !
For some bizarre reasons though kids do like me and tend to gravitate to me which freaks me out a bit.
I treat them exactly as I would adults and they seem to like that.
I am very happy to baby-sit for a few hours but after a while the tedium almost makes me want to chew off my own leg...
People have called me un-natural and selfish for my decision and I have even had abuse from women who were desperate to have kids and couldn't or mothers. Men seem far more reasonable about it. In fact for many men this is a highly attractive quality in a woman !
I feel it is better to know your limitations and accept that not all of us are earth mothers/fathers with a biological imperative to breed.
I have noticed on many occasions that many people with kids tend to be more selfish and self-absorbed than child-free people. They care about their kids but the rest of the world can go to hell.
Also parents can be the most boring, tedious people to speak to.
Every woman we know with a baby has gone from being a well-rounded, interesting individual to one who thinks changing nappies ( diapers ) and wiping sick of your shoulders is the the most fascinating topic.
Parents always try to sell you on the idea of parenthood and yet usually do nothing but moan and complain about it.
Quite a few brave souls have in moments of unguarded talk admitted to hating it and it being the biggest mistake of their lives.
Hardly a great PR for child-bearing.
Maybe I am selfish but to me some parents have kids as a vain exercise in immortality. I have a great deal of respect for good parents and people who foster and adopt.
But the majority of parents I see don't really seem that great with their offspring and the way they raise them can be highly debatable too.
I love my partner and we will marry next year and I just enjoy his company far too much to have a child. I love the freedom we have, the spontaneity in our relationship, the fact we can get up in the middle of the night and go for a drive if we want to.
I would see a child as an obstacle to freedom and would resent it. This would not be a great recipe for parent of the year award !
Some people are destined to be parents. I do not have the necessary patience, skills and am just not equipped for the task.
So it is better to admit it than have a baby and not give it the love, care and attention it deserves.
Children are not accessories, and deserve far more and far better than I could ever offer. They deserve parents who will love them ,pay them attention and be great mentors. That is just not me.
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