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I find myself always apologizing, if I think something I say is going to hurt someones feelings, or offend them. It's like I just posted on a thread I did not agree with, and then totally, wimped out at the end, Oh I don't mean to....blah blah!!
I do this, not only here but at work. I can't just say something to defend myself, you know, be assertive without compromising my true intention by apologizing!!
Wow I need to get a grip and just say what I want to say without ALWAYS putting other peoples feelings before mine!!
I find myself always apologizing, if I think something I say is going to hurt someones feelings, or offend them. It's like I just posted on a thread I did not agree with, and then totally, wimped out at the end, Oh I don't mean to....blah blah!!
I do this, not only here but at work. I can't just say something to defend myself, you know, be assertive without compromising my true intention by apologizing!!
Wow I need to get a grip and just say what I want to say without ALWAYS putting other peoples feelings before mine!!
From door mat to DoorWoman!! I need to get there
Terry
Just admit it, you are too nice! Nothing wrong with that,
Tas.... Maybe you and I should start a "I apologize if I hurt your feelings thread"..If I do hurt someone ( and I have on this forum) even if that person says they forgive me, I can't forgive myself and carry the guilt. I probably should not be on this or any forum, I am just not "tough nuff".
I find myself always apologizing, if I think something I say is going to hurt someones feelings, or offend them. It's like I just posted on a thread I did not agree with, and then totally, wimped out at the end, Oh I don't mean to....blah blah!!
I do this, not only here but at work. I can't just say something to defend myself, you know, be assertive without compromising my true intention by apologizing!!
Wow I need to get a grip and just say what I want to say without ALWAYS putting other peoples feelings before mine!!
From door mat to DoorWoman!! I need to get there
Terry
I know what you mean . I usually end up deleting my post....
Rance moved it for me. Thank you Rance. Now onto my problem with not being able to stick to my guns, so to speak. It's weird how I get it all out and then slop syrup over it..
I am not that sesitive, when people voice their opinion to me. I've hardened in that way because of my job. But I still can't give it back, without feeling guilty.
Oh well, I will work on this issue, just thought it was interesting while I was posting and there it was and there it went....
Well, I don't, know....especially in this medium of the blogosphere where misunderstandings can easily arise, perhaps there is something good about a little qualifying ..."Oh I hope you don't misunderstand..." or something similar.
I find myself always apologizing, if I think something I say is going to hurt someones feelings, or offend them. It's like I just posted on a thread I did not agree with, and then totally, wimped out at the end, Oh I don't mean to....blah blah!!
I do this, not only here but at work. I can't just say something to defend myself, you know, be assertive without compromising my true intention by apologizing!!
Wow I need to get a grip and just say what I want to say without ALWAYS putting other peoples feelings before mine!!
From door mat to DoorWoman!! I need to get there
Terry
Terry,
I always was the one to whom was apologizing to everyone for everything, because, I was ALWAYS putting other people's feelings before mine, as well, yet I had put an immediate halt to that a few years ago.
How was it that, whatever I would say or do, would hurt someone's feelings or be completely wrong? Do they not realize, I have feelings to which I hold within, for I fear I will hurt theirs? Well guess what? ... I do! and it's time, they get a taste of their own medicine, per sa!
I had learned how to say it like it is ... like it or not, and you know what? ... I had received numerous compliments from both men and women, about my open-minded attitude. In fact, numerous people have told me, they wish they could be open-minded like me, and have the "say it like it is ... like it or not" attitude, and I told them, they can, for nothing is impossible.
Terry ... No need to be a door mat. Turn that frown upside-down, for YOU can be 'DoorWoman' I know you can, for I have faith in you.
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. I usually end up deleting my post....
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Turn that frown upside-down, for YOU can be 'DoorWoman' 
