It Shouldnt Hurt To Be A Kid (house, the best, how much)

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Dont know where to post this but its not an uncommon story in many headlines.
Today, a mother was shopping at Walmart (in Mesa, Az) with her 10 yr old son. They had a disagreement over a t-shirt she was going to buy for him. It ended in a child beating, this child being dragged, punched several times including in the stomach and back, and all the while she continues this crap dragging him outside where he tried to get away. Police had been called already so it wasnt long before they closed in on her and arrested her.
Just a couple of years ago, her infant baby died at the hands of her boyfriend. She was already on lifetime probation for this baby's death.

Point behind this story is that these things happen and many times the kids are turned loose, right back to the custody of the parent. I know the system doesnt have the funds to help all kids who have to live through nightmares like this on a daily basis. I know there just isnt enough shelter homes and foster homes for them all. But to know how frequently this happens and that the parents are getting away with it is what steams me. People like that shouldnt be allowed to reproduce. They should be locked up, sterilized, and the next of kin, once state approved, should get custody since there are not enough homes for abused kids.
I just saw that story on the news and just had to vent my feelings. That little boy looks like he has no self esteem and very unhappy, in the picture they showed of him with his baby brother. If I jad the room here, believe me, my home would be opened up to a kid or two, and they would KNOW what its like to be cared for, loved, appreciated, and most importantly, nurtured in a positive way.

[MonaLisaVito]

We talked about this a while back in Politics section under: "Am I The Only One Who Feels This Way"

Yeah, it makes me sick too, I wish my husband would let me become a foster parent or adopt children. It breaks my heart every time I hear these stories, sometimes I wake up all night and just start crying!!

[Janipoo]

I'll share a story from a long time ago:

My Aunt used to watch this little girl and my Aunt and Uncle fell in love with her. The mother would drop her off dirty and in the same clothes that she had wore the day before. My Aunt would clean her up and get her new clothes and send her home and the next day she would return the same way so finally she just purchased her stuff and left them at their house. They knew that the child was being abused because she would come with bruises and burn marks. They had 3 boys of their own and they decided to fight the system and save this little girl. They battled in court trying to get custody and even adopt her but the courts decided that she was to stay with the mother. A few months later the girl was killed, the mother blamed the boyfriend and vice versa, either way nobody paid for this horrific crime and my Aunt and Uncle were devestated.

[Dolfan]

I don't know what makes me angrier, the actions of the parent or the stupid judge who allowed the abuse to continue. He could have stopped it but chose not to, now her death is on his hands as well.

It breaks my heart to see how some children are treated. Now that I have my own child, it is especially heart-wrenching to see what goes on. I saw a documentary recently about 2 women who started an organization for abused children. One boy had been tied to a bed by his father, beaten and scalded with a hot iron. This man was a lawyer and allegedly a respected member of the community (hope he was disbarred). A little girl had been abused by her mother's boyfriend and slashed with a knife on the face. Fortunately doctors were able to do something to lessen the effects of the scarring. Although her mother threw the bum out, she did not want to go back because the mother would not believe her. A little girl was forced to walk up and down the hall for 12 hours while the father hit her, refused to give her anything to eat or drink, would not let her sleep and dumped her in a hot bathtub. In the morning she was dead. He was thrown in jail where he better be still.

Honestly I don't understand how people can treat children in this manner and get away with things that if they did to an adult, they would be charged with assault. Children, especially younger ones, are very impressionable. They come into the world knowing nothing about who they are or where they came from, then the ones they should trust leave them scarred for life if they even survive. I have no sympathy for child abusers and wish to see them locked up alongside other violent criminals.

The best part of my day is coming home from work and having a little girl run into my arms. No matter how tired I am, I make every effort to take the time to play with her and show her how loved she is. She is told every day how beautiful, smart and talented she is. Many people would like to have children but can't, then there are those who have been blessed with children and abuse them. They should have been on their knees thanking God for such a wonderful gift.

[MonaLisaVito]

Originally Posted by Dolfan

I don't know what makes me angrier, the actions of the parent or the stupid judge who allowed the abuse to continue. He could have stopped it but chose not to, now her death is on his hands as well.

It breaks my heart to see how some children are treated. Now that I have my own child, it is especially heart-wrenching to see what goes on. I saw a documentary recently about 2 women who started an organization for abused children. One boy had been tied to a bed by his father, beaten and scalded with a hot iron. This man was a lawyer and allegedly a respected member of the community (hope he was disbarred). A little girl had been abused by her mother's boyfriend and slashed with a knife on the face. Fortunately doctors were able to do something to lessen the effects of the scarring. Although her mother threw the bum out, she did not want to go back because the mother would not believe her. A little girl was forced to walk up and down the hall for 12 hours while the father hit her, refused to give her anything to eat or drink, would not let her sleep and dumped her in a hot bathtub. In the morning she was dead. He was thrown in jail where he better be still.

Honestly I don't understand how people can treat children in this manner and get away with things that if they did to an adult, they would be charged with assault. Children, especially younger ones, are very impressionable. They come into the world knowing nothing about who they are or where they came from, then the ones they should trust leave them scarred for life if they even survive. I have no sympathy for child abusers and wish to see them locked up alongside other violent criminals.

The best part of my day is coming home from work and having a little girl run into my arms. No matter how tired I am, I make every effort to take the time to play with her and show her how loved she is. She is told every day how beautiful, smart and talented she is. Many people would like to have children but can't, then there are those who have been blessed with children and abuse them. They should have been on their knees thanking God for such a wonderful gift.

Dolfan, I know how you feel, I saw your line of work in your profile, I was in the legal field also, I don't know what kind of law you do, but I worked for a couple attorneys who had to defend child abusers/molestors/abandoned children, it was just disgusting, i couldn't take it anymore, it made me sick everyday, typing up pleadings/reading pleadings on these sickos that deserved to die. I would hug my kids like crazy every day and tell them how much i love them. I had to quit that job finally, it was killing me.

[Janipoo]

They are God's gift to us. No matter how upset I get at my kids, I could never abuse them or deny them the love that they deserve. Nothing upsets me more than to see one of my children crying.

[Steve-o]

Originally Posted by Janipoo

They are God's gift to us. No matter how upset I get at my kids, I could never abuse them or deny them the love that they deserve. Nothing upsets me more than to see one of my children crying.

I hear ya. When children cry or are kidnapped or murdered, a piece of me dies. I cannot even stand to read articles about abuse or child murder. I mean really, what is this sick world coming to?!?!?!?!?!?!?! I made the mistake of reading a article about a woman who stabbed and drowned her four children, I cannot even imagine how whacked out you must be to do something like that. I was severely depressed the rest of the day after reading that, and it takes ALOT to depress me.

[115db]

Thats just horrible! And to know there are so many out there who are legitimately capable of fostering....but somehow just dont meet the 'state' guidelines on one little glitche. Yet the abusive parents fail all tests in 'childcare' and the the child stays there.

[sandlovertoo]

Originally Posted by L_A_Woman

Dont know where to post this but its not an uncommon story in many headlines.
Today, a mother was shopping at Walmart (in Mesa, Az) with her 10 yr old son. They had a disagreement over a t-shirt she was going to buy for him. It ended in a child beating, this child being dragged, punched several times including in the stomach and back, and all the while she continues this crap dragging him outside where he tried to get away. Police had been called already so it wasnt long before they closed in on her and arrested her.
Just a couple of years ago, her infant baby died at the hands of her boyfriend. She was already on lifetime probation for this baby's death.

Point behind this story is that these things happen and many times the kids are turned loose, right back to the custody of the parent. I know the system doesnt have the funds to help all kids who have to live through nightmares like this on a daily basis. I know there just isnt enough shelter homes and foster homes for them all. But to know how frequently this happens and that the parents are getting away with it is what steams me. People like that shouldnt be allowed to reproduce. They should be locked up, sterilized, and the next of kin, once state approved, should get custody since there are not enough homes for abused kids.
I just saw that story on the news and just had to vent my feelings. That little boy looks like he has no self esteem and very unhappy, in the picture they showed of him with his baby brother. If I jad the room here, believe me, my home would be opened up to a kid or two, and they would KNOW what its like to be cared for, loved, appreciated, and most importantly, nurtured in a positive way.

These stories sadden me so much.As Mothers and Fathers we are to PROTECT our children, not be the enemy.I don't understand it.I pray every night for the children of this world ,too many go hungry and unloved.But it is good that now someone knows whats going on in that boys life,and maybe something can be done.

[Rcm58]

I had a young boy come in to my shop a week ago that had just been stabbed by his mom with a pencil and for a moment I thought about calling the police, she had stabbed him in the back and he just came in to collect himself. Hes another victim of Divorce and lives in the crappy part of town. The reason I did'nt call is this, I know someone in social services that told me that most people in this area that are foster parents do it for the money, his job is to visit these homes and make sure everything is ok. He said all of them should be shut down...his words. So whats worse, kids are so helpless.
Recently a child that went from foster care to a juvenil detention center was murdered by a gaurd.
With so much garbage going on these days where is the child really better off?