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Hi. We are a Latino family, and my brother and his wife are expecting their first child. His wife's name is Ana, and she told me that she always told herself that when she had a baby she was going to name her Ana Victoria...
I am very unhappy about this name being considered. First, I am not a fan of naming a child after a parent. Second, I don't like the name Victoria at all! It is such an old name...
I told my brother that I liked names like: Emma, Nora, Alina, Genevieve, Lucia. He said he likes them but said they were going to look at other options too.
I know people will say it is none of my business as this is not my daughter, but my family is very close. 12 years ago in my brother's first marriage I helped him choose a name for his son, and I was only 10 years old at the time, so it meant a lot. We all liked it, his then-wife, my family, her family.
But honestly, I am just extremely annoyed by the name they are considering.
If they were considering a name that was truly offensive or upsetting such as "Adolf Hitler, I-hate-God, Charles Manson, Jack the Ripper, Go-to-hell, etc." then, maybe you could offer your opinion that they reconsider otherwise, just smile politely at whatever name they chose.
If they were considering a name that was truly offensive or upsetting such as "Adolf Hitler, I-hate-God, Charles Manson, Jack the Ripper, Go-to-hell, etc." then, maybe you could offer your opinion that they reconsider otherwise, just smile politely at whatever name they chose.
Agreed. Also I would agree that you could possibly have a say if it is a name that will lead to a lot of teasing. Other than that you have to just accept it.
Think about it this way, she said that this is something she has always wanted...is that really less important than whether you think it is a nice name or not? The more you push this the more likely you are to alienate her and probably your brother because it will just come across as selfish and immature, you made your point and should drop it before it leads to them not wanting you around your niece.
(BTW, I do tend to agree with you about naming a child after the parent, not a big fan, but it's not your place to express an opinion. I don't even think the grandparents have much of a right to.)
Your're not entitled to have a say in the matter of naming their child, no matter how close you and your family are or that you previously helped name your 10 year old nephew. It is not your choice.
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The only time you should ever state an objection to a possible name is if you have substantial HR recruiting experience and know perfectly well that a name is going to cause a recruiter to throw their resume in the trash. Otherwise, butt out.
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