Does Your Mother-in-Law like you? (legal, kids, home, family)

[ara^bess]

I think it's a shame when two people who love the same person more than anything in the world can't find common ground. It just happens and it's a hard situation to fix. Before I got divorced years ago....my MIL hated me and I didn't even know why. She's dead now, so I guess I'll never find out. It's ok though....I doubt I'll lose any sleep over it.

[DocGSD]

My MIL likes me. She has no reason not to. I treat her daughter great and give her as much as I can. I help the in-laws with anything they need and we spend quite a bit of time with them. I have been blesses with a great career and I provide very well for her daughter. All in all, its a good relationship.

[missmousern]

My MIL loves me because I have been in the family for 20+ years. My husband is the only one of her 4 boys who has stayed married. Well, one of the other brothers has only been married once, but we have been married the longest. As the other DIL's have come and gone, I have been steady. I always joke that I am the favorite DIL or at least I have the most seniority!

[Northwoods Voyager]

My MIL is gone now, however I never felt that she did not like me. We were very different in many respects. I respected and admired her. A wonderful woman and mother to her children and 25 grandchildren. I'm sure she had her favorite DILs but never showed it overtly. I am a MIL and love(d) all of my DILs. My sons chose their wives and loving my sons, believe that these young women have special qualities. I only hope and pray that my DILs love and respect me. Well, they do (did) show it!!!

Cannot understand why some MILs are so self centered and seemingly so vicious to the wives/husbands of their children! Very sad, hurtful, and destructive behaviour.

[mariner2030]

Wow it's so great reading all these stories about in-laws loving eachother and getting along and having good relationships! I wish my husband and I had that.No my MIL doesn't like me and never has. She doesn't treat her son much better. She favours the other set of grandchildren to the point that our kids notice.It has caused so much pain in our lives.

[cncracer]

Oh my,
I will change the direction of this thread. I have the mother in Law from HELL. She has let it be known for years how much she dislikes all her son in laws. I am sure I am # one on her list. I have received death threats from her, had to get a restraining order to keep her away from my family, had her committed to a mental health facility when she went off the deep end, and now have crossed the 7 year mark without a word passing between us.

My wife and her sisters still will get pressure from her father (no longer with her mother) to try and open doors of conversation between them, and her poor step father also will try and get someone in the family to try and start up talks, but all the children have just taken all the abuse they can take, and have shut the door on any relationship hopes. For us the line to cut all ties came with the abuse moving to the grand children. She was limited to coming within a block of any family member. It was a breath of fresh air.

Her name brings on a nervous laugh when the daughters get together. I know of some of the abuse the lived in as children, and just don’t know how these girls survived to be as responsible as they did. Just went to the opposite end of how to raise a family I guess.

If you harvest what you plant than I guess my mother in law is harvesting the lost of her three daughters and all the grand children, as well as a hellish relationship with spouse #2.

[nomoresnow]

I'll have to come back to this thread when I have a bit more time. I think my MIL likes me as best she can. She's just a very miserable, bitter woman and I don't think she likes herself or even life all that much. Life's way too short to live it like that. Now, my first MIL and I still get along.

[Magnum Mike]

I'm single, but I am still looking for a mother-in-law with a nice daughter.... maybe even a mother-out-law with a nice daughter!

[aiangel_writer]

I feel I've been very blessed these past 26 plus years to have had such a loving and kind mother in law. From the beginning, she went out of her way to ensure I was a welcome part of the family and to this day, I still feel her love and support.

Yes, we have had slight differences over the years, but no more so than any person would have with another after knowing them for so long. We've always been able to work things out very quickly and always kept the disagreements to a min.

I also consider myself the lucky one, she has told my dh that if we ever were to separate, she would move me in and he could find somewhere else to go!

I am also the DIL with the most seniority as the younger son has kept trying to find a good woman and the oldest never has gotten his feet wet yet!

My mother in law has shown me how to be a good mother in law when that time comes in my own family. I treat my son's girlfriends with the utmost respect and stay out of their business, and refuse to side with either or give out advice that I feel could sway thier thinking.

I pray that God blesses my mother in law for going out of her way for all these years to make me feel part of the family unit.

[turkeytrot]

On monday I will have been married for 29 years and for the last seven of those years I have lived next door to my in laws.
I get along great with them, they have been like a second set of parents to me in fact I call them mom and dad and they like it just fine.