Today's Question -- Sunday, 1 June 2008 (cost, the best, furniture, bridge)

[RDSLOTS]

Another month s-h-o-t, and I am NO closer to fulfilling my New Year's Resolution(s).

I have had Miss Karla and her husband, and the family, and the wedding, and Charleston, SC, and Studedude's appeal for THE book, and then Magnum Mike's friend's wedding, on my mind (what's left of it, anyway), and so. . . along those lines, came up with the Q? for Today, June 1st, 2008:

What do you think contributes to a lasting relationship?


June is:

National Candy Month, and lest we go wild, Fresh Fruit and Veggie Month. Whose Mother suggested that one?

Today's food: Hazelnut Cake. Wait to eat it tomorrow, and you can embellish it with a scoop of Rocky Road Ice Cream, in honor of National Rocky Road Ice Cream Day.

June 1st in history:

1971 Ed Sullivan's final TV show airs.
1968 Beatles release Sgt. Pepper's Lonely Hearts Club Band in the US and goes gold. At the time, most expensive album I owned. Cost me $5 babysitting money.
1949 1st magazine offered to subscribers on microfilm (Newsweek).
1944 Generals Montgomery/Patton/Bradley/Dempsey/Crerar meet in Portsmouth.
1938 Superman first appears in DC Comics.
1936 Queen Mary completes its maiden voyage when it arrives in New York.
1933 Century of Progress World's Fair opens in Chicago.
1796 Last of Britain's troops withdraw from US.

Word of the day:

harridan: a noun, pronounced HAIR-uh-din, meaning a worn-out strumpet; a vixenish woman; a hag. Probably from the French haridelle, "a worn-out horse; a gaunt woman".

Sounds like a piece of furniture to me -- a companion piece to an ottoman, or something. Maybe I'm thinking of a divan?

[findinghope]

what contributes to a lasting relationship: understanding, communication, collaboration and forgiveness--lol

[LaceyEx]

Lasting relationships-trust, communication, dedication and yes forgiveness.

Pass the Hazelnut cake please and the candy. Thanx.

[RDSLOTS]

These are THE rules:

1. The female always makes the rules.
2. The rules are subject to change at any time without prior notification.
3. No male can possibly know all the rules. Nearly all females are born with this knowledge.
4. If the female suspects the male knows all the rules, she may immediately change some, or all, of the rules.
5. The female is never wrong.
6. If the female is wrong, it is because of a misunderstanding which was a direct result of something the male did, or said, wrong.
7. If rule #6 applies, the male must apologize immediately for causing the misunderstanding.
8. The female may change her mind at any given point in time.
9. The male must never change his mind without the expressed written consent of the female.
10. The female has every right to be angry or upset at any time.

[Racelady88]

Well, I would have said Quaaludes, but they don't make them anymore......

[nomoresnow]

Hazelnut cake sounds wonderful.

IMO, Respect and humor are the two big things in a relationship.

[RDSLOTS]

Some of the best advice I ever got was to never go to bed angry. I saw a sweet little plaque that read "Always Kiss Me Goodnight" not too long ago. I wish I had purchased it.

To be honest, I liked what I heard Dr. Phil tell a couple one day -- that their spouse's happiness had to be paramount to their own.

When I married, my Father pulled my husband aside, and told him, "Welcome to the family, son. You may, at times, be harassed, harangued, beaten and abused, but I promise you, you will never, ever be b-o-r-e-d." I hope he's never been anything of those things. Never a cross word between us.

I like to give young couples a nice photo frame, and I suggest they put their favorite photo of the two of them in it, so when the day comes they think they might kill each other, they can see it, and remember how they used to feel. A friend of mine, who confided she was thinking of leaving her husband, I told, instead to just jump from a bridge, take her husband with her -- it'd be easier for the children.

I do think we learned the secret to lasting relationships in Kindergarten. It's the Golden Rule.

[studedude]

A lasting relationship? RD I'm a preacher who has been married to the same angel, who I would marry again today, for 38 years. You can't give me an opening like this I might go on for hours.

Your original choice of a mate is the first and most important step. "I did not marry a harridan." He said, cleverly working in the word of the day. God sent an incredible lady into my life through a series of events that I could not have imagined.

Next is commitment. When we got engaged both of us signed on to a lifetime commitment. Divorce is not an option. When there is no option you will work your way through anything.

The third point of my mini sermon is love. Contrary to what you see from the marketing guru's of the world. Love is not a blue eyed blond. Love is a decision. I hear the moaning. I can't love my spouse he/she never-----. Think of it this way. Do you or if you're older did you love your children when they were babies? Why, because they did so much for you? No, you did everything for them. Both my wife and I, early in our marriage, have sat in a waiting room outside an ICU not knowing if we would be going home alone. When our spouse did come home they could do very little for themselves. I don't recommend that as a way to build a strong relationship but it works. If your having trouble loving your spouse try doing things for them, it works.

Amen

[studedude]

Sorry for the total seriousness. Sometimes I go that way.

[LaceyEx]

Studedude-beautiful. Lucky lady she is!!!!!