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[milliebfit]

Originally Posted by kimmieyky

Just wondering - as I sit here fuming from ear to ear after yet another altercation with my mother-in-law...How many of you have in-laws that are so intolerable you cannot stand to be around them for more than a few minutes?

I am in a positon where I have to live with mine, and am counting the days until I can get out of here. Ever met someone who is so hateful they just ooze anger from their ears? That's Her! Rude, nasty, busy-body, and always slamming me every chance she gets.

Please tell me I am not the only one!

Ok...I think I am breathing again now. Breathe in and out, pray, pray, pray.

KimmieyKY

was she like this before you got married? Does your husband stick up for you?

[kimmieyky]

Originally Posted by milliebfit

was she like this before you got married? Does your husband stick up for you?

No, she was not quite this bad. Even told me a long time ago she was glad he found me, and if anyone could fix hin it was me. Well, women can't fix men - but I knew what she meant.

It has only been in the last 7 years or so that she has gotten this bad. Every wrong move he has made has been dflected to me - and while she can bash him day and night, I had better not complain.

And, no - he does not stick up for me. Told me last night I had to watch what I said and stop provoking her. By what? Breathing?

My normal day consists of getting my 17 year old out the door at 5:15 or so, beginning to clean HER house, and the day unfolds from there. I stay out of her way, out of the same room, and she will find me.

I was on an important phone interview a few weeks ago, and she came down, stood in my face, and would not budge until I answered her - completely throwing my concentration off. I go in my room, she opens the door. The washer and dryer is in the bathroom I use - and when she needs to do laundry - she will bang on the door or stand outside and curse because she cannot use HER washing machine. The dryer is mine and I have thought of having it taken out for meanness.

I have no answers. I went to bed after my last post last night, ans awoke at 3 this am because of 'fighting' in my brain.

She is the type of person who doesn't want anyone happy because she is miserable (hasn't had a man in her life since I have known her - 13 years - wonder why), finally decided to be a mother after her son was past the point of needing one - and He is so afraid to stand on his own two feet withour her - that he will not stick up for me for fear of losing mommy.

He can be a great guy. He is a Firefighter, a loyal friend to those around him, and always looks on the bright side - even to a fault. You knwo, the cjeck book can be in the red, the roof leaking, and he will watch television and laugh like he hasn't a care in the world.

Oh well. Today is new. I am three days away from an interview for a substantial job - even thoug I do have one waiting, and I have found a way to come up with money for a car. It will get better...

[kimmieyky]

Just have to say...I am better. I have renewed myself through God this morning, and am singing to the Heavens!

How do you like me now??????

Kimmiey

[tnvolfan1971]

I feel for people who can't get along with their in-laws. I have been married for 4 years and I love my in-laws. Unfortunately I have not had a chance to get to know my mother in law very well. She has Alzheimers and doesn't remember me marrying her son. She will never have the chance to get to know her 2 grandchildren (ages 3 and 6 months) and it hurts to know this. From what I have been told by family members, she would have loved me as a daughter in law. I get along great with my father in law. I relate to him better than I do with my own father. He has told me from the day I married his son that if anything happened to my mother in law, he wanted to come and live with us and I told him to come right on. My husband loves my mother. He wants her to come to TX and live close by, or better yet us move closer to her. It is sad to hear people that can't get along with their in laws I guess because I have not had that problem.

[FL_TN_Nana]

Originally Posted by kimmieyky

Just have to say...I am better. I have renewed myself through God this morning, and am singing to the Heavens!

How do you like me now??????

Kimmiey

LOL! You do seem to feel better and I'm glad you still found things to be thankful for! Do yourself a favor and get your own place ASAP, even if it's the smallest, least well-kept house/apt./MH on the block! It's just a difficult situation that gets worse by living together. I love my kids and their families but it would be hard for any of us to live together again. Good luck in finding the job of your dreams!

[milliebfit]

Originally Posted by kimmieyky

Just have to say...I am better. I have renewed myself through God this morning, and am singing to the Heavens!

How do you like me now??????

Kimmiey

I am so glad...yes get a place asap. There is nothing you can do to change her.

[christina0001]

ditto, glad you are feeling better...your MIL sounds like a nightmare. Good luck with the interviews...hopefully you and your family can move out before your relationship with your MIL is completely destroyed.

[Torn2pieces]

I had a MIL like yours, noticed I said had. She was the wicked witch from the west. Horrible, mean woman!

[kimmieyky]

millie and fl tn -

Working on it!!! This has truly been a day of Blessings.

Nothing man can throw at me is too big for God to handle. This girl is gonna bounce!

Kimmiey

[kimmieyky]

Originally Posted by Sammie

I had a MIL like yours, noticed I said had. She was the wicked witch from the west. Horrible, mean woman!

Then I lost my job and had to come back! She has been really bad since.

Oh well! I have learned to kill her with kindness. I was so on fire this morning after journaling and bible study, I brushed her dirt off my feet and moved on...and she couldn't stand it!

My grandmother had a plaque on her wall the entire time I was growing up ..."Never miss an opportunity to make others happy - even if you have to let them alone to do it"...and that has always stuck in my brain.

I speak politely only if spoken to, and have pretty much ignored her existence. It doesn't sound like a very Christian thing to do - but sometimes you just have to walk away less you become consumed with anger and rage. That only hurts me - not her.

"These boots are made for walking..."

Thank you, christina, foe the kind thoughts, too. So glad I have you guys. Nice to have a place to vent!

Kimmiey