Heartbreak, Revenge.. and how to get over it all (free, house, telephone)

[jhlcomp]

Getting back to the original question - revenge isn't the answer and hopefully by now you will have moved on.

It also sounds like you may have been used by this person and if drugs were involved, then you really do need to walk away from this.

It reminds me of myself so many years ago - I had my share of broken hearts and broken dreams. You think you really know the person that you are in love with and nothing in the world can convince you otherwise. Then one day something happens or you break up, you gain perspective, and realize that the person you thought you knew never really existed.

You feel used, duped, deceived, your heart is broken - hopefully, you will have learned from this experience and can move on to someone who is worthy of your love, honesty, and respect and visa versa. Don't waste your time and emotions on this. Good luck to you.

[mal_flisk]

Ahem.

As a short, nerdly, reasonbly intelligent guy (definitely not stud muffin material), I semi-, sorta resent the implication that I might not be just GREAT in bed. It might be true.... but that's neither here, nor there. Glad I got that off of my spoon chest.

Spagirl, your tears are natural. Grief over a failed realtionship is a normal step in the process of getting over it. Lack of closure due to a failure on the other's part can leave open questions that might not make sense from the outside of the relationship in question. But the worst thing you can do is doubt yourself or ruin your life over 1 a$$hole (pardon the french).

In the immortal words of my grandfather, "Never chase a man (woman) or a bus, there'll be another one along in 15 minutes." He also said "There's nothing up a skirt but troouble." Transliterated to your gender, change skirt for pants, and it still works.

People of both genders may have a tendency to treat their SO's (hate that term but it works) like a used Kleenex, and the used person feels like crap. Karma may actually cause this person some grief down the road, and if it does, I hope your there to see it. Just know that users get used in the end, because they cannot imagine someone soing it to them, and get blindsided even worse than you. Giggle insanely here as you imagine the bus running him down.

Having said this, remember that your own values should see you through your time of sorrow, and go out, kick some ass on the dance floor.

Just remember, "Revenge is a dish best served cold", and "Whoever sets for revenge, should first dig 2 graves". Revenge is basically a nice thought, but I'd let nature take its course, and be the better person. Just remember that bus.

[mainebrokerman]

love is like a flame, that burns you when its hot. (nazereth)

[Cosmic]

Originally Posted by mal_flisk

Ahem.


In the immortal words of my grandfather, "Never chase a man (woman) or a bus, there'll be another one along in 15 minutes." He also said "There's nothing up a skirt but troouble."

Just remember, "Revenge is a dish best served cold", and "Whoever sets for revenge, should first dig 2 graves". Revenge is basically a nice thought, but I'd let nature take its course, and be the better person. Just remember that bus.

Yeah, but that bus is not as much fun if you catch it. Lot of guys like going looking for trouble.

But yes to the main point. Forget anything to do with revenge. Let it go and be done with. Practice catching buses first, then move on to other fun things once you have mastered the basics.

Also remember wet birds do not fly at night. I don't know why........ they just don't. You get so much useful info here.

[CabinFever]

I haven't took time to read all these post to this thread but if I repeat somthing that someone has already posted,I apologize.Wow,a broken heart is just as bad as losing a loved one to death.It's a pain that's almost certain of no cure except for time passed.I don't think that revenge is good because it always makes you look bad in the end and you might regret stooping to that level.I don't know the full extent to your relationship with this person so I say use your best judgement.Losing someone you care for whether it be a relationship or death,will never be easy to get over.I know this might not help you now but Time eases all pain.I know your problem of thinking what did I do wrong or what went wrong.You feel rejected and how can someone that cared for do this awlful thing to you.One of the biggest steps to take is to try and stop thinking about it so much.I know you can say"well your not in my shoes".Ok,that's fair but I have been there before.I hope you find solitude in your break-up.Goodluck.

[mainebrokerman]

its a fools game, nothing but a fools game, standing in the cold rain, feeling like a clown, it aint right for love to share, when you find he doesnt care, for you,,,oh its a heart-ache, nothing but a heart-ache, hits you when its too late,,,hits you when you're down. (bonnie-tyler)

too many broken hearts have fallen in the river, too many lonly souls have drifted out to see,,,you lay your bets and then you pay the price,,the things we do for love, like walking in the rain and the snow, and thiers nowhere to go, and you feeling like a part of you is dying, and you're looking for an answer in her eyes.(10cc)

[Crew Chief]

Originally Posted by mainebrokerman

love is like a flame, that burns you when its hot. (nazereth)

"I've been through diamonds, I've been through minks
I've been though it all. Love stinks" -J. Geils Band

[mainebrokerman]

a pretty face, dont mean no pretty heart, i've learned that, right from the start.

[Mrs.Bewitched]

I was engaged when I was about 21...yet we didn't have any plans. I loved him so much I would have died for him. I think it was more obsessive than love (now), but you couldn't tell me that then. The s e x was the BEST ever, and I think I was hooked on that with him. We had a violent relationship though. I was so insecure and panicked that he wouldn't want me anymore, and I am a controlling person anyway...he has an evil temper when he would get mad, that we would verbally clash so many times. He also had hit me as well. Not beat, but I have been slammed down and kicked hard enough to leave a boot size bruise, slapped in the face a couple of times...and the kicker is, he left me.

I was devasted for over two years. Couldn't eat, couldn't sleep, couldn't stop crying. Yes, I think I even stalked him.

It took finding another guy- the one right before my husband, to slowly ease the pain. Finding love again. Actually, growing up and realizing what an
a$$ I was, an a$$ he was...and how awful we were together.

[Cosmic]

Originally Posted by mainebrokerman

a pretty face, dont mean no pretty heart, i've learned that, right from the start.

Yeah ........Even worse if they are ugly and mean.

Pretty face can also mean cold heart.

Start out with they got to be smart first that solves a lot of problems. No bad habits, don't fuss to much, few redeeming qualities and they can even be a tad on the uglie side. I don't mean down in the ditch now, just don't have to be no raving beauty. Don't git one that is spiteful and likes that revenge stuff.