No Fair!! (free, the best, daughter, testing)

[Pixie Dust]

LOL!!! Atleast you have the right attitude about it. Relax it will come your a good person you'll see sooner or latter you'll be asking people to babysit.

[bluewatergirl]

Pixie is right - stress will not help.
And, if there even is a physical problem,
it might not be with you.
Your family doctor or gyn may be able to give you some tips
related to lifestyle, diet, exercise etc. - and look at your
family history.
Although it feels like a long time, I don't think 8 months of
trying to conceive without success merits a panic situation yet.
And you are young, with time on your side.
Although in saying this, I mean in no way to diminish
your feelings of longing for a child/children.
Best of luck!

[sablebaby]

Try focusing on how it would feel to be pregnant and having a baby. Be around babies more often. Get in a mood where you know that you are having one soon. Don't dwell on the "not having" and do focus on how wonderful your life will be with a little one. Do you have the baby's room cleaned out and ready to be decorated? Maybe start planning how you want the room to look. Get in the mood of having it and not in the mood of not having it happen yet. And yes, relax!

[jhlcomp]

Be happy for your friends and let them know how happy you are for them without giving away your real feelings.

The time will come for you - for some it comes later and when it's your turn, your friends can be equally as happy for you. Just be patient, be happy, enjoy!!

[stellar9]

Congratulate your friend, make up an excuse to get off the phone if she wants to talk more than you can take. Then have a good cry and a pint of gourmet ice cream.

Do you chart your cycles and know when you are fertile? Has your husband been tested? There may be more to do before Clomid, unless your problem really is not ovulating regularly.

Even though I am one of those women who merely sneezes and gets pregnant, I know plenty of people online who have dealt with infertility, many of whom finally did get pregnant!

If you want to PM, I may have some resources and links to give you that you haven't discovered yet.

[Yorkie_Mom]

Hi Poprocksncoke, I was just like you, it took me ten long years to get pregnant, I did the pergonal shots, clomid, invetro, anything I could think of. Nothing worked, I finally gave up, threw myself into my job, and then when it happened I could not believe it.
I never took birth control, and sorry to say I was 36 when I had her, but she was well worth the wait. I also drank a lot of coffee at the time, and then I quit, and it was a couple months later I was pregnant.
I really know how you feel, my sisters all got pregnant without even trying and then here I am not being able to. I was so upset, angry, hurt, and left out, and that only made things more stressful.
Please pm me if you need to talk, you can vent on me since I have been through it, I will also say a prayer for you in hopes that you have a baby soon. Take care, if you need me I am not to far off. Yorkie

[tet tea]

Go take a nice, long, relaxing bath with lots of bubbles and let all that stress go down the drain when you pull the plug. Don't work yourself up over it. Try and relax and have lots of fun trying

I'll keep my fingers crossed that you'll soon be posting a stork came last night thread

[poprocksncoke]

Originally Posted by tet tea

Go take a nice, long, relaxing bath with lots of bubbles and let all that stress go down the drain when you pull the plug. Don't work yourself up over it. Try and relax and have lots of fun trying

I'll keep my fingers crossed that you'll soon be posting a stork came last night thread

Aw what a cute thread that would be!

[simplyaged]

When I was young I had problems being regular. Not that it was a bad thing because I was very active. Anyway, it would come and last 3 days or less and sometimes there were as much as 6 months before another. As I got older (23) I started to get concerned and the doctor put me on birth control to regulate me. He also told me that I would never conceive due to blockage unless I had an operation. I wasn't married or serious about anyone at the time so I thought long and hard about it. I decided that I could live without having children since I loved to travel.

I changed jobs at age 26 and met the love of my life there. Within two weeks of meeting we decided to marry. The funny thing is that everyone thought I was pregnant because we married so quickly. Anyway, I was still on the pill, been told I couldn't have children and by age 27 we were blessed with a girl.

I truly believe that if it is meant to be, it will happen. You do need to relax though. We had gone on a vacation to the beach, just us without friends or family. We had a very romantic, relaxing and yes intoxicating time. We didn't think about any thing except each other 24/7. We even got silly and did things just to see if we could (this is putting it nicely without graphics, just use your imagination). Two weeks later I realized I was pregnant.

We wanted more children, but nothing happened. 5 years later we went on a vacation alone again. Not planning a child, just getting away from stress. We did the same thing as before and just concentrated on being with each other, we now have a boy.

Don't plan it, just pack up and go somewhere that you both love the scenery. Take an entire week.....NO PHONES!!! During the day act like teenagers and go play. During the night, have romantic dinners, stay in the room to talk and get back intouch with each other (NO WORK TALK). Talk about places you would like to go before you die, things you did during the day that you really enjoyed, no home life talk. Bathe together, feed each other, etc. It will happen!!!!

[cold_eh_ND]

Originally Posted by poprocksncoke

I feel bad... and selfish. My best friend called me last week and told me she is pegnant. I am happy for her and her husband.. they are really blessed! At the same time I am thinking in my head that it's not fair since my husband and I have been trying for almost 8 months now with no luck. One of my other friends found out in Decemeber that she was pregnant, and my other best friend had a baby last August.
It's selfish I know.. but I just keep thinking NO FAIR!
How do you respond in a situation where you are jealous/upset for yourself, but happy for the other person at the same time?

We are in a similar situation. My neice who is in the midst of divorce with her 4th child on the way...sorry...she just had her fourth and now just found out my sis-in-law had an Oops and is now pregnant....I just asked her if I could have it! She did say no but that I could ask her again once the baby is born and she's not getting any sleep.
Between my husband and I, we have already been blessed with 5, but want more, so I hear ya....Everything happens for a reason and it will happen when the time is right, even if you think NOW is the time....maybe it's really not. Give it time, keep trying and try not to worry.