Pet Peeves & Other Grumblings/What Peeve Do "You" Have Today???? (relatives, accident)

[bjh]

People who can't hear well, but won't get a hearing aid. And they're hardly visible these days. These folks go around looking more old and foolish for not understanding what's going on and not being able to respond intelligently than they would if they took care of business.

[tijlover]

Those toilet rolls that claim there's 1000 sheets, and there's only 900 or less sheets.

Just read a letter to the editor in Fortune magazine, where a man, laboriously and tediously, counted the sheets on 6 toilet tissue rolls, claiming 1000 sheets, and he found only 900 sheets or less on each one.

One of these days, when it's taking an extra long time to get the puup out, I'm going to take an unopened roll and count each sheet myself. Let's hope the telephone doesn't ring when I get to 800, or I may have to start counting all over again!

[Barbie2015]

Answering a question "Where is your accent from?", sometimes several times a day. I'm really tired..

[Chatteress]

Originally Posted by bjh

People who can't hear well, but won't get a hearing aid. And they're hardly visible these days. These folks go around looking more old and foolish for not understanding what's going on and not being able to respond intelligently than they would if they took care of business.

Hearing aids DO take some adjustments and many folks tend to be embarrassed wearing them at the beginning. I know it was rough when I started wearing aids in high school, although I should have been wearing them long before then.

Which reminds me of MY peeve as a hearing aid wearer ... Folks who tend to think that hearing aids will solve all issues with someone's hearing and that is, unfortunately, untrue. Noisy environments, certain high pitched noises as well as clarity issues can affect how well a person can hear. Also, hearing aids are imperfect devices and, even though I have expensive ones right now, I still struggle at times to hear. NO, "turning up my hearing aid" is NOT the solution! Neither is yelling at me. Simply repeat what you said and let's move on!

[Chatteress]

Originally Posted by Barbie2015

Answering a question "Where is your accent from?", sometimes several times a day. I'm really tired..

I can imagine that can get old after a while. I am one of those folks who is fascinated by different accents but unless your accent is really unusual, I would just wait until I got to know someone before commenting on it. I usually compliment the person when I ask about the accent.

[taigagirl]

People who are consistently late.

[nimchimpsky]

Originally Posted by bjh

People who can't hear well, but won't get a hearing aid. And they're hardly visible these days. These folks go around looking more old and foolish for not understanding what's going on and not being able to respond intelligently than they would if they took care of business.

My pet peeve is when people telling me to just get a hearing aid! Sorry but hearing aids aren't cheap! A lot of deaf/hard-of-hearing would get one if they could afford it. My insurance doesn't cover HA's and I don't have thousands of dollars on hand to buy two BTE's and then upkeep with batteries and cleaning, etc. And the programs I found that buy hearing aids usually buy you one--guess what? My monaural speech comprehension is nihil, and there's nothing more frustrating than hearing something and having no idea where it's coming from and then not being able to find it with my eyes cause I'm totally blind!

I wish more hearing people were sympathetic to deaf/hh issues without judging us as lazy or stupid.

[nimchimpsky]

Originally Posted by Chatteress

Hearing aids DO take some adjustments and many folks tend to be embarrassed wearing them at the beginning. I know it was rough when I started wearing aids in high school, although I should have been wearing them long before then.

Which reminds me of MY peeve as a hearing aid wearer ... Folks who tend to think that hearing aids will solve all issues with someone's hearing and that is, unfortunately, untrue. Noisy environments, certain high pitched noises as well as clarity issues can affect how well a person can hear. Also, hearing aids are imperfect devices and, even though I have expensive ones right now, I still struggle at times to hear. NO, "turning up my hearing aid" is NOT the solution! Neither is yelling at me. Simply repeat what you said and let's move on!

So true! Hearing aid hearing is nothing like natural hearing! HA's distort sounds and amplify noises as well as speech. And like you said, volume isn't the issue. It's CLARITY that is. And there are a whole boat load of other issues that can happen, from tinnitus to recruitment, that making the processing of deciphering what you're actually hearing much harder.

Sometimes I wish hearing people could be deaf or hard of hearing for a day so they would understand how unrealistic so many of their expectations are. I know it's not all hearing people, but so many of them...just try to remember one thing.

When you're hearing, listening is passive and effortless. When you're hard of hearing or deaf, listening is a chore. It's exhausting and draining. So if you have a deaf/hh family member or friend, try to remember that when they listen to you, they have to devote a much larger chunk of their mental processes to understanding you than you do them. Don't get on them if they misunderstand something or if they get tired.

Don't put all the burden of communication on the deaf/hh person either. Face them when you're speaking. Make sure the lighting is good. If they use sign language, try to learn some. Deaf/hh people get expected to take the burden of communication day after day, something most hearing people take for granted. But just think--if you lose some of your hearing one day, wouldn't you want people to at least meet you in the middle? It's the least you could do.

[tet tea]

I understand where you are coming from regarding hearing loss. Both my husband and I have hearing loss in our left ears. Hang in there.

My grumble today is accidentally dumping the scoop of coffee all over the coffee pot, counter top, and floor! It is such a biatch to clean up, and you still find coffee grinds after you think you've got them all. It is so messy!

[cat1116]

Originally Posted by nimchimpsky

So true! Hearing aid hearing is nothing like natural hearing! HA's distort sounds and amplify noises as well as speech. And like you said, volume isn't the issue. It's CLARITY that is. And there are a whole boat load of other issues that can happen, from tinnitus to recruitment, that making the processing of deciphering what you're actually hearing much harder.

Sometimes I wish hearing people could be deaf or hard of hearing for a day so they would understand how unrealistic so many of their expectations are. I know it's not all hearing people, but so many of them...just try to remember one thing.

When you're hearing, listening is passive and effortless. When you're hard of hearing or deaf, listening is a chore. It's exhausting and draining. So if you have a deaf/hh family member or friend, try to remember that when they listen to you, they have to devote a much larger chunk of their mental processes to understanding you than you do them. Don't get on them if they misunderstand something or if they get tired.

Don't put all the burden of communication on the deaf/hh person either. Face them when you're speaking. Make sure the lighting is good. If they use sign language, try to learn some. Deaf/hh people get expected to take the burden of communication day after day, something most hearing people take for granted. But just think--if you lose some of your hearing one day, wouldn't you want people to at least meet you in the middle? It's the least you could do.

I agree on both accounts, Chatteress and nimchimpsky. Although I would never wish someone go deaf or have hh issues, but just ONE day of being in another person's shoes and maybe....... they would be more understanding?
Just maybe. When you ask if they could turn up the volume just a tad, must they go to the extreme? Crank it all the way up. Were they trying to be funny or what?
The one day that this person came over to talk to me about something, my tinnitis was acting up. It doesn't happen very often. It's like hearing 3 different tones and this person just happened to be on that side. After it subsided, I had to ask them to repeat themself. They said you heard me. If I heard you, why would I ask you to repeat? I guess because it doesn't happen very often they get the impression that I can hear well.
Another time this girl is talking to me but not really face to face and she's very soft-spoken voice but mumbles at times too [including eating w/ food in mouth, etc...] and expected me to be able to hear her all the time? I admit I'm soft-spoken too but if someone asks to repeat, I've no problem doing so. I guess some people think it's an insult to have to repeat themselves? I believe what they're saying may be important to me and I want to hear it but get hurt when they brush it off and walk away.
When I get a really bad sore throat because of colds, I also have a tendency to lose my voice. That's great, hard of hearing and can't speak now. It really must be frustrating for those who have it all the time.