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I do not understand how some children always seem to be the ones that are picked on or singled out. Often these children are picked on by more than one person.
Teaching a child self confidence and the ability to handle themselves in threatening situations is a must and often it needs to be done professionally
Letting the school know and the parents should be done also.
My oldest daughter is/was tiny She had trouble once with a large boy, bullies are cowards, she grabbed hold by his shirt and took him to the boys room and let him know if he bothers any more girls she will embarrass him further, all the kids laughed at him. She was the one that got in trouble at school, not severely and not with me. My daughters were taught at an early age how to defend themselves and to stand up to these creeps and as adults they put up with no disrespect.
Some people stay victims all thier lives, oh poor me type, time to teach self defense.
The parents are better off teaching the kid how to deal with it. There will always be bullies, in childhood and adult life. You can't sue them all. Why doom the child to forever play the role of victim?
Because effectively dealing with a bully sometimes, after other methods have failed, involves physical violence, which the schools do not allow. They have taken away the best tool for dealing with them, and put nothing in as a replacement.
You can deal w/an adult jerk verbally and most times that works, but a school-age bully is usually too dumb to be deterred that way.
In my experience, a teenage girl had physically assaulted my daughter. The assault was followed by monthes of verbal abuse, profanity, and intimidation.
I called the parents a few weeks before it turned physical askng for their help. They did nothing. About a month after the assault my daughter was at the mall visiting with friends when they ran into the other girl with her mother.
Not only did the girl's mother not use discretion and walk away. Together they approached my daughter and her friends. Not surprisingly, the 'mother' said "You better watch this one (pointing to my daughter) she's a little *****.
So I guess the lesson to be learned is that as parents, some of you actually are practicing what you preach.
The parents are better off teaching the kid how to deal with it. There will always be bullies, in childhood and adult life. You can't sue them all. Why doom the child to forever play the role of victim?
There are all kinds of children, some strong and some weak. I would hope that we had evolved beyond "survival of the fitest". I think from an early age we need to teach our children about tolerance for all kinds of people. Not every child wakes up in a squeaky clean warm house with their parents in the next room.
So, the children are doing what they can with what they have. Many of them have poor self esteem. As parents it is criminal to teach your children that 'your way is the only way'. That the 'have nots' have any less right to be here than the 'haves'.
The bullies may have the upper hand as adolescents, but are in for a well deserved lesson in the real world.
What I'd also like to add is this: If an adult assaulted one of us either once or regularly at our place of work and our employer did little or nothing to prevent it, instead explaining that "bullying happens" and that we had to "stop being weak" and "deal with it," I guarantee that many of us would sue both the employer and the assaulter.
In what occasionally rises to the level of a civilized society, we use the law to enact punishment rather than beating the crud out of someone.
Does the school have a "bully free" policy or has it won "bully free" awards from the district? Is the child being verbally harassed, or is something physical being done as well?
If it does, and you're getting nowhere with the principal and teachers, approach the superintendent. Let the super know that the next time the child comes home with a scratch or a bruise that wasn't there BEFORE school, you'll be calling the police, not the school. Take photos EVERYDAY. Use a camera phone... bruises always look worse on a camera phone.
If the bullying really warrants a lawsuit, screw the parents - threaten to sue the school for failing to provide a safe learning environment. First off, the school HAS to take such action seriously and second, the school district is run by the government and therefore has deeper pockets than some passive-aggressive parent.
Here's a thought as well: Most bullying occurs BEFORE school... when children are dropped off early, supervision is at a low and all grades are mingling together. If it's happening before school, then someone who actually cares about this child should be showing up in the morning and waiting with the kid until they walk into their classrooms.
Get down to business and get a lawyer to write a letter to the principal, copy the couselor, Board of Education and Superintendent. You inform them of your intent to file suit against the school. See how quickly they act. And ask the lawyer if the parents can be included.
A relative of mine is at wits end to stop the bullying of his son. The poor boy is constantly being bullied by a variety of other kids at school. The school officals and teachers are worthless and say they can not do anything unless someone sees it. They say the bullied boy is likely just making it all up. He is not.
Has there been any successful lawsuits by parents of kids who have been physically bullied against the parents of the boy who bullies? I am sure that the bullying would stop if the parents of the bullies were to face legal and financial jeopardy.
as far as i know its open season on children in public school systems.
the limit seems to be when they try to sexually assault female minors in schools but sadly this same protection is not afforded teachers. most discouraging, public schools, civil rights law is used to defend the uncivil. voucher system the sooner the better.
My daughter has been having a problem with a kid in our neighborhood. I have told her to avoid him, but this kid keeps coming at her. It has recently escalated to him threatening to hit her with a two foot long stick up at the bus stop AND the day after that telling her he knows where her bedroom is and that he is going to take his Fathers gun and come to shoot her and I.
Well I have to say I am beyond being mad about this one. I have written the parents a letter which I will be mailing certified mail, I will be giving the SAME letter to the bus driver and the office with the county that deals with this. In my area, this kind of behavior is enough to get a kid kicked off the bus. I am also going to forward a copy to the principle (who knows me and doesn't want me back in his office) and the school counselor. It very well could end up getting placed in his permanent record.
I spoke to a neighbor who is retired law enforcement and since the kid threatened violence with a gun, the police will have NO CHOICE but to take down a report on the kid. Then once he is known to the police, call the police everytime you have a problem.
This kid was even yelling at and harrassing my daughter when I was outside with her. I have seen him walking home from the bus stop on the other side of the road, yelling at my daughter.
Of course I lost it and yelled back at the little jerk off and he finally stopped.
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