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Old 07-04-2010, 06:29 PM
 
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What you say might reflect certain truths. But I highly doubt your ratio of "100s or maybe 1000s" to one. Furthermore, many of the women who appear in porn films are already in a precipitous downslide before they even get recruited into the business.

Your daughter will snap out of it when she discovers that it is a lot of work and not always easy with very poor working conditions, or by the end of next week, whichever comes first. Don't take her pipe dreams so seriously. Until she gets a tramp stamp, don't worry about her heading in that direction.
OK I pulled the ratio out of my hat, who knows how much. The point is very every Jenna Jamison there are many many women in the adult entertainment industry in various stages of employment and prosperity, most not too good.

It's clear the OP is talking hypothetically, their is no "daughter" - but most women in the industry have a history of abuse, usually sexual, so they are carrying alot of baggage going in. Downward slide, as you put it, going in. Jenna Jameson was abused as a young child for instance. But she is a disciplined pro now, an icon in the industry, and a few (very few) have made the "accomplishments" that she has (if you want to call it that). Many do it for quick easy money, to pay for assorted addictions, usually drugs. Those types usually end up in the sleaziest, sickest, poor paying and quickly made ametuer porn movies, made by the sleaziest people in the industry. And their "shelf life" is a year, a year and a half, and then bye bye. You are now a retired broke porn actress, 22 years old and look like 40.

If someones "daughter" said she wanted to be a porn star, I would start looking for signs of sexual abuse, or drug addiction.
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Old 07-04-2010, 07:50 PM
 
Location: El Paso, TX
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What would you do? Seriously.
That is a tough question. My first thought and you may not like it is why would she want to do that? What type of environment does she have at home. No, I am not implying you are an immoral family. However, my personal observation is that parents today simply do not get involved much with kids, tend to believe kids are like adults and simple give them no guidance in life. I agree we should encourage kids to have their own mind and respect their views but often we do so by not looking into some form of development towards good and productive things in society. We just let them on their own and since they get no general guidance in life they will simply look around on their peers, TV shows, magazines, etc. where there are a look of glorification of sex, materialism, narcissism, etc.
Do the news media not glorify sex porn stars and/or people that live lives that are not good role models? Look at movie stars that are married, have an affair, leave a pregnant wife for the pregnant girlfriend and still get all the adulation from society. What do you expect then.
My question to you is how closely are you involved in your daughters life? How often you sit down and talk to her about her goals in life and help her make better choices? Do you do things together and does she look up to you as a role model and example to follow? Who are her heroes? take care.
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Old 07-05-2010, 08:40 AM
 
Location: Kenmore, WA
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Lord knows in our sex-driven media and social conventions, it isn't hard to see why she might come to this conclusion, but I don't think I would want it for my daughter, if I were a parent.

Before anyone "goes off" on a non-parent posting: as a member of society, we non-parents have a vested interest in your parental guidance. Your children are a part of our society, and should be prepared to participate in society in a constructive, productive fashion.

I think conversations with your child are ALWAYS in order. In this case, as the parent, I would want to fully understand the basis for the decision, including how she came to it. Then I would explore the possible outcomes.
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Old 07-06-2010, 09:20 AM
 
Location: NE PA
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I think its safe to say that is someone goes into that line of work, they've had some kind of screwed up upbringing.
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Old 07-06-2010, 12:58 PM
 
Location: Visitation between Wal-Mart & Home Depot
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What would you do? Seriously.
Are we talking about plot-driven, high production value stuff with elite talent or something more like Bang Bus?
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Old 07-06-2010, 02:29 PM
 
Location: Deep in the heart of Texas
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My daughter would never, ever, even entertain that idea. She was raised right.
Obviously your "friend" did a shoddy job of raising hers.
If she's an adult there's not much she can do since she has already proven to be a crappy parent. Sorry to say.
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Old 07-06-2010, 04:29 PM
 
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That's a question you ask a therapist or guidance counselor or discuss with her teachers at school. It's not something you ask your friend to advise you about.
Yes, it is.
What did people do when there were no therapists, guidance counselors, and other "professionals" to direct personal questions to (in exchange for a fee)?

They asked family or good friends.

Just because it has become the norm to "turn to professionals" for even the most personal parts of our lives does not make it "abnormal" to turn to a friend for advise in a personal matter.

It is in fact a glimmer of hope that we have not all turned into robots yet.
We all will, soon - but I salute whatever normality we still have left.
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Old 07-06-2010, 04:35 PM
 
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Oh well since it's hypothetical..MY daughter wouldn't want to be a porn star when she grows up. MY daughter would want to be an astrophysicist when she grows up.
This made me LOL.

My non-hypothetical son does want to become an astrophysicist when he grows up.

BUT

my non-hypothetical daughter thinks she would like to be a pop-star (not porn star) slash veterinarian. Yes, lol, really.
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Old 07-06-2010, 04:38 PM
 
Location: California
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Yes, it is.
What did people do when there were no therapists, guidance counselors, and other "professionals" to direct personal questions to (in exchange for a fee)?

They asked family or good friends.

Just because it has become the norm to "turn to professionals" for even the most personal parts of our lives does not make it "abnormal" to turn to a friend for advise in a personal matter.

It is in fact a glimmer of hope that we have not all turned into robots yet.
We all will, soon - but I salute whatever normality we still have left.
I suspect that back before there were "professionals" people did things that might be considered illegal today. In this example it could be to stick the gal in a convent, make her a prisioner in her own home, or, in some cultures, kill her. And friends would have supported all that.
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Old 07-07-2010, 07:25 AM
 
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I suspect that back before there were "professionals" people did things that might be considered illegal today. In this example it could be to stick the gal in a convent, make her a prisioner in her own home, or, in some cultures, kill her. And friends would have supported all that.
But now, with "professionals" - we're all SAVED!!!
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