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Old 07-10-2010, 09:38 AM
 
Location: Canada
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Not talking until after 3 or so is a sign of great talent , intellectual prowess, and creative genius.
Does he mumble everything ? Thats what I did.

I continue to mumble a little, esp when just waking or going to sleep. Don't worry the youngster comprehends and understands everything . The child would be VERY sensitive to your inner most thoughts, would have extra ordinary hearing capabilities and will be bored at school.

Lots of coloring and drawing accompanied with good praise will find a very happy little toddler.
Finally, mumble to him-her.....have a mumble conversation and see if the roles reverse.
Most of all have fun and good luck

I really don't think this is accurate info. Although Einstein supposedly spoke really late it doesn't mean late talkers are going to be geniuses
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Old 07-10-2010, 09:47 AM
 
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...no one should throw judgements around like that and assume this is the issue. So if am I missing something in this thread, let me know.
Sometimes "judgements" really help open our eyes.
If we know the "judgement" to be completely devoid of worth, we can just shrugg it.

The very mentioning of PROFICIENCY with all sorts of electronic devices indicates to me that there is A LOT of that going on in the house.

I am probably judging, but I wouldn't take it back.
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Old 06-29-2012, 01:58 PM
 
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I too have a son that is not talking! He is 23 months.We have had his hearing checked and passed. He is scheduled for speech therapy startingin 3 weeks. He can say a few words,but won't. He doesn' even say mama It is very stressfull. Everyday, I read to him and he loves it. He will point to all the pictures when I ask him what things are but he won't say it. He cries when I ask him to.When I ask him questions, he just ignores me. The dr said he didn't have any other red flags for autism because he interacts with you, will look you in the eyes, he knows what is going on an follows directions. I cry everday and feel so helpless. It is nice to hear other peoples stories.
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Old 06-29-2012, 02:01 PM
 
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I too have a son that is not talking! He is 23 months.We have had his hearing checked and passed. He is scheduled for speech therapy startingin 3 weeks. He can say a few words,but won't. He doesn' even say mama It is very stressfull. Everyday, I read to him and he loves it. He will point to all the pictures when I ask him what things are but he won't say it. He cries when I ask him to.When I ask him questions, he just ignores me. The dr said he didn't have any other red flags for autism because he interacts with you, will look you in the eyes, he knows what is going on an follows directions. I cry everday and feel so helpless. It is nice to hear other peoples stories.
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Old 06-29-2012, 02:15 PM
 
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Does he have siblings? A close one, he learns a lot of words, like "Mine", "No"...an older one, he will talk less, usually, because the older sibling does all the talking for him. When he has a younger sibling, he talks more, "He did a BAD thing"..."He DID IT"...."Not Me, HIM"....My three year old told me his 1 year old brother is the one who climbed on the counter, and dropped the container of animal crackers on the floor. (whatever), we don't discuss much about lying at that age...anyway...the more kids he is around, the more he will talk...believe me.
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Old 06-29-2012, 02:34 PM
 
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That has nothing to do with it. He is 3 and he should be speaking in sentences. The fact that he is not is troubling. If youyr pediatrician can't figure it out. Get him referred to a specialist.
This is alarmist, in my opinion. The problem is not that he CAN'T talk, it is that he doesn't. OP the first thing is to try not to turn this into a battle. It sounds like you already spoke to the ped.

Rather than MAKING him speak, would it work to be a little dippy? I did that with one kid in my day care who did not speak. I would have a hard time understanding hm because he did not speak and played it up a scooch to encourage him to speak. Lots of encouragement might help too. Oh boy thanks for saying that so clearly for me to hear! You were asking if you could have juice. Sure you can have juice....
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Old 06-29-2012, 02:44 PM
 
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I am glad I saw this answer because I was about to concur with AnthonyB. I am certainly not an expert in anything related to "speech delay" but the number of electronic gadget mentionings stood out to me too like a red flag.
There did not seem to be an excessive reference to gadgets. OP was making a comment in support of him being smart. There was no indication of excessive use.
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Old 06-29-2012, 02:47 PM
 
Location: Yellow Brick Road
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A personal experience . . .

When I was in college, one of my close friends had a little girl who appeared to be well within the normal growth and development range of every milepost -- until she hit two and still had not said a word. And I mean . . . ONE WORD. But mom and dad would hear "Shelly" babbling to herself in her crib . . . Pediatrician sent her for hearing and speech testing. Hearing appeared fine but the speech therapist simply couldn't get her to talk, other than "yes" and "no" (which was more than she had ever said to anyone else). Everyone agreed- just give it some time.

I was babysitting Shelly one afternoon and while putting together puzzles (she was about 3 1/2 at that point)I asked her, "Shelly, I wonder why you don't ever talk to anyone?" She lifted that sweet little head, looked me straight in the eyes and said,"Nothing to say."

To say I was dumbfounded is an understatement, lol!!!!

Shelly is now a grown woman with children of her own. Shortly after the "nothing to say" incident, Shelly started talking -- in complete sentences. She essentially went from silence to a chatterbox.

I have never heard of a case exactly like this one, but I am just throwing it into the mix, b/c sometimes we can overly concern ourselves. As long as the docs don't see a problem - and mom doesn't see anything to indicate bigger issues - maybe these children just don't have anything they want to say right now! :-)
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Old 06-29-2012, 03:09 PM
 
Location: Central, NJ
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I too have a son that is not talking! He is 23 months.We have had his hearing checked and passed. He is scheduled for speech therapy startingin 3 weeks. He can say a few words,but won't. He doesn' even say mama It is very stressfull. Everyday, I read to him and he loves it. He will point to all the pictures when I ask him what things are but he won't say it. He cries when I ask him to.When I ask him questions, he just ignores me. The dr said he didn't have any other red flags for autism because he interacts with you, will look you in the eyes, he knows what is going on an follows directions. I cry everday and feel so helpless. It is nice to hear other peoples stories.
My son was just this way and started speech therapy a couple of weeks ago. He would also say some words and just never say them again. It felt like he was refusing too - but he isn't! He just isn't able to put it all together. Sometimes it's that the word slips out when they aren't thinking about it too closely. He has started responding right away to the therapy. They give you many things to do on your own, so participate closely in the sessions. They are giving my son some signs to use and it has really made him enjoy trying to communicate more. It will get better! But you have to incorporate everything into your everyday life and keep it consistent.
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Old 06-29-2012, 06:33 PM
 
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I too have a son that is not talking! He is 23 months.We have had his hearing checked and passed. He is scheduled for speech therapy startingin 3 weeks. He can say a few words,but won't. He doesn' even say mama It is very stressfull. Everyday, I read to him and he loves it. He will point to all the pictures when I ask him what things are but he won't say it. He cries when I ask him to.When I ask him questions, he just ignores me. The dr said he didn't have any other red flags for autism because he interacts with you, will look you in the eyes, he knows what is going on an follows directions. I cry everday and feel so helpless. It is nice to hear other peoples stories.
There are some things you can do. He is probably NOT refusing, btw. There are many kinds of problems that can prevent speech to some extent.

Get an evaluation by a specialist. It sounds like his receptive language is good and his social skills are good too. That points away from autism, but a speech delay needs to be addressed too. He may have oral motor problems. He may have trouble with word retrieval. Only a speech language pathologist can really figure out what he will need. At twenty-three months, don't stress about asking questions. You don't want to make him cry by trying to make him speak when he is not ready to do so.

You can start by teaching signs so that he can ask for things that way. It will NOT retard speech, btw. It will simply reduce frustration. Signing Time has some really great videos. The signing time tv program may also be on in your area.

How to Baby Sign - Sign Language for Babies Signing Videos and Lessons | Signing Time

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