Teenage Daughters/any Advice Would Help In Colorado Springs (baby, pregnancy, single mom)

[mariahernandez]

hi im a single mom living in colorado spriings w/ no education, its confusing living in this beautiful town i grew up in!!! well, the teenage daughters are growing up now and of course i dont want them like me, so any roads out there to follow!!How did you do it with your kids????

[BrianH]

Originally Posted by mariahernandez

hi im a single mom living in colorado spriings w/ no education, its confusing living in this beautiful town i grew up in!!! well, the teenage daughters are growing up now and of course i dont want them like me, so any roads out there to follow!!How did you do it with your kids????

Whats not good about you ? If you have done some things that you are not proud of or was a big mistake, the best thing you can do is be honest with your daughters and let them know so they wont follow down the same paths you chose.

[alexander59]

The best thing you can do for them is to make sure that they have a great father that is in thier lives and adores them.
Set a good example.
Go back to school.
Pick your battles.
Keep involved in thier school.
Know thier friends and enemies.
Know where they are. GPS in phones and vehicle.
Keep promises.
Keep a schedule.
Never stop letting them know you love them.

I have two daughters fourteen years apart, no they are not perfect but if I thought I could just have girls I would have had many more. My youngest had the advantage of having a father that put her first and it shows. He was the finest parent I have ever seen. We did not live together so it can be done.

[I LOVE PA!]

Are you basically saying you had no education and you want your daughters to go to college? I'm in the same boat, I am married, we both didn't go to college, but our girls will go. My older daughter completed a yr and 1/2 and took a smester off and now is enrolled again for Sept. (YAY!!!!!!!!!!) my younger daughter..I kicked it up a notch for her, watching my older not being properly prepared for college, my younger one goes to a really good Prep school. The graduating class of 2006 of 176 students, received more than 10 million in scholarships. Almost every kid who goes gets a scholarship. They ALL go to college. You really need an education these days...and if you luck out and don't need it for some reason or another...you still have an education, no one can take it away from you.

[FarNorthDallas]

I recommend reading the book The Nurture Assumption by Judith Rich Harris. In it she says the best thing you can do to make sure your child is college bound or success bound is to surround them with peers who feel the same way.

For example, my friend has a teen son in a rural high school where teen pregnancy is normal. The kid has already been to a baby shower. For him, having a baby in high school appears normal. If he were in a school where there are no pregnant peers who would think that's normal.