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Old 09-14-2010, 03:03 AM
 
Location: California
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While I'm not a fan of phoning/texting people who aren't there while avoiding the ones who are, I don't come down on gaming becuase it's not all bad. Gaming is a very social thing, think board games, card games, dice games, etc. Maybe they were playing with each other on their game systems but you just don't understand it. As the mom of several gamers (computer, system and otherwise) I attest to the fact that it IS a social thing for those involved.

If you just want them to go outside and run around then say so. That's never really been MY idea of fun (I am an indoorsy person) but they are your kids. Just remember that being related doesn't mean they have anything at all in common with each other.
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Old 09-14-2010, 07:22 AM
 
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These kids were friends, I thought?
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Just remember that being related doesn't mean they have anything at all in common with each other.
I was going to mention something similar. Children don't always like the children of their parents' relatives and friends.

They might have played in the past due to necessity or boredom, merely tollerating each other, not because they liked each other.
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Old 09-14-2010, 07:33 AM
 
Location: mass
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Exactly, if the kids aren't friends and they don't know each other, don't expect them to be buddy buddy.

However, if the parents took away the devices, that might facilitate conversation. (I don't know, this part seems like common sense to me?)

Was there anything to do outside? I don't know many 14 year olds that want to go outside and "run around".

Shoot BB's, take a hike, play with a dog, play a game, etc. maybe yes.

I remember dinners at my aunt's house, when the most exciting thing for me to do was stick my nose in the Farmer's Almanac, which I never encountered anywhere else I went, back in the day of no electronics. I didn't know my cousins well (there were only a few) and my grandparents alwasys asked questions like "So, how is school" I can only imagine how those dinners would have went if we had electronics and the adults gave us free reign to go ahead and play with them all day. (Which they wouldn't have)
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Old 09-14-2010, 07:53 AM
 
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Lol, they might not like their cousins? Well, tough cookies! Learn to get along! That is life! You don't always like the people you work with or your clients but you still have to get along. Family get togethers are often training grounds for real life.
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Old 09-14-2010, 09:21 AM
 
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Lol, they might not like their cousins? Well, tough cookies! Learn to get along! That is life! You don't always like the people you work with or your clients but you still have to get along. Family get togethers are often training grounds for real life.
Nobody is saying they shouldn't tollerate their cousins.

We're saying that you can't make them play together or make them like each other.

Simply being polite is all that's needed to practice real life.

As an adult, I am polite to people I do not like. I don't have to enjoy their company, nor do I have to pretend to be their friends.
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Old 09-14-2010, 09:31 AM
 
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You don't have to make them play together but if they have no electronic devices to keep them away from other people, they might find something in common or at least something else to do with their peers that are there.

I agree that it's kind of like a training ground for real life. You can't go to the boss's party and then play with your psp or listen to your Ipod the whole time you're there. It would be considered rude.
Same goes for family functions IMO. It would be rude to go, then ignore other people the whole time you're there.
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Old 09-14-2010, 09:52 AM
 
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I agree that it's kind of like a training ground for real life. You can't go to the boss's party and then play with your psp or listen to your Ipod the whole time you're there. It would be considered rude.
Same goes for family functions IMO. It would be rude to go, then ignore other people the whole time you're there.
Very true. Good point.
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Old 09-14-2010, 09:56 AM
 
Location: MMU->ABE->ATL->ASH
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Were only 2, me and my 8th grade son, but we do 'quiet' time from 730p-8p each night, he can do his homework, read, (anything Non Electronic ((Other then using the computer for homework) and i monitor it to see that he is doing his HW, not on facebook etc )) or we play boardgames, chess,
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Old 09-14-2010, 10:18 AM
 
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Many people I know collect all the electronic gadgets when you show up to their event.
Great thing to do!
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Old 09-14-2010, 10:21 AM
 
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I was at a huge family activity the other day. In attendance was 9 kids who were from age 8 to 14. I expected all of them to be excited to see each other and to run outside and play. Instead the kids all spent the majority of their time playing their IPOD's, playing Computer Games, watching TV, talking to friends on their cell phones, instant messaging friends, and playing with GameBoys. I did not see anyone playing outside (the weather was beautiful) or really even talking to each other. These kids were friends, I thought?

Is this kids in the 21st Century? Should the parents insist they play outside and put away their games, cell phones and get off the computer?

Yes. I think you should put a box by the front door for the next family gathering. All electronics go in on arrival and come out when everyone leaves.
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