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I'm not sure why you feel that being a parent, as opposed to friend, means you can't do those things-within parent-child boundaries??? I do all those things with my kids, I am (one of) their parent, and I still support the OP.
I'm not sure why you feel that being a parent, as opposed to friend, means you can't do those things-within parent-child boundaries??? I do all those things with my kids, I am (one of) their parent, and I still support the OP.
I am assuming you are talking to me?
I don't see how you can foster an environment where being yourself, being a human being, being a family can possibly include an episode such as the OP described.
The situation that the OP painted for us is one of parental tyranny and total lack of respect (REAL respect) in that home.
I'm not sure why you feel that being a parent, as opposed to friend, means you can't do those things-within parent-child boundaries??? I do all those things with my kids, I am (one of) their parent, and I still support the OP.
Georgia Peach ... you said your child has already apologized (just a few hours after the incident). Did you return his/her things and privileges?
Computer privileges were "suspended" for that evening. Later that evening we talked. There is family policy of never going to be angry or upset with one another in our home so it was good to have that communication.
My child knows the boundaries, and our talk confirmed to me that this was a test of sorts. I let my child know that although I did not like the action, I do and always will love him/her.
The next day, the other items and privilege were returned.
Actually, foul language is not used in my household period. My child has never heard me use this word.
In my frustration when initially posting this thread I used the word "friggin".
You and others, took my use of this word and ran with it. I can't control what you folks do, or choose to think.
Its that simple.
Hope that answers your question.
Yes, it does answer my question. You will allow a moment of frustration to excuse your use of a word that when your child used it (or a simple LETTER with the same meaning) you react very harshly and emotionally. People all have moments. You had a moment of frustration, your child had a moment of misplaced humor...both resulting in the same offense. I'm not sure why you hold your child to a higher standard than you hold yourself but just be careful, they WILL pick up on it at some point. It takes a strong person to not only recognize their own 'moments' but to be understanding and forgive others when they have moments of their own. And I'm still talking about a generally well behaved and respectful kid here...who you said was JOKING. It would be different if his intentions or overall demeanor were different.
Yes, it does answer my question. You will allow a moment of frustration to excuse your use of a word that when your child used it (or a simple LETTER with the same meaning) you react very harshly and emotionally. People all have moments. You had a moment of frustration, your child had a moment of misplaced humor...both resulting in the same offense. I'm not sure why you hold your child to a higher standard than you hold yourself but just be careful, they WILL pick up on it at some point. It takes a strong person to not only recognize their own 'moments' but to be understanding and forgive others when they have moments of their own. And I'm still talking about a generally well behaved and respectful kid here...who you said was JOKING. It would be different if his intentions or overall demeanor were different.
I know, I know....off to bed with no supper, again.
I'm a very bad girl.
Just remember...kids are people too.
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