Should I let my DD play with these neighbor kids?(homeschool

[10,000Lakes]

I don't see the big deal? They are neighber kids let them play together. They will over the years play, get in kid fights etc. As long as they are not trying to convert your daughter or telling her she should believe in this etc then I would let them play.

[lucygirl951]

I agree with all of the other posters who said to just let the kids play. Your children will be exposed to families with different belief systems. We're not Catholic, but we live in a heavily Catholic community. The other kids have told my girls some things that don't line up with our belief system. I teach my girls to be respectful and then to ask us about anything that confuses them.

As far as the movies go, if the kids want to watch a movie at your house, help the boy call his mother and ask. I usually do that anyway because I'm not sure which parents allow what.

Just because they are highly conservative doesn't mean that they will be offended by your family, but even if they deem you somehow unworthy, there isn't much you can do about it. You can't live your life for other people.

[wsop]

Originally Posted by rya700

It doesn't make a difference to me, I am just wondering if it does to them and to what degree. I want to be friends with them and i think it would be great for my DD to have a next door playmate.

but like some other posters brought up, these people could deem me or my daughter not the' right type' to associate with - I want to avoid the situation posted previously where the homeschool mom told the child that her kid couldn't play with with him anymore. That would really suck!

I understand your concerns. This happened to my dd when she was around 6 or 7. She was close friends with a neighbors dd. They were inseperable, speninding almost every day playing together. I also viewed the mom as a supermom. Certainly she was a better housekeeper and cook than me!

But one day, quite suddenly, they were always 'busy'. My dd was extremely hurt, and my heart broke for her. I racked my brain to figure out what we did wrong. I called the mom and asked her if something was wrong. It was always the same thing....they were busy!

Turns out they had bought a new a home in what I guess you could call a better neighborhood, and after talking to other neighbors I found out she basically cut her and her dd off from everyone, then moved away.

Whether she found this an easier alternative than having her dd suddenly ripped away from her friends or she just deemed the rest of us beneath her now that she was 'moving up' I'll never know. Either way it was an unpleasant experience to say the least.

I suggest you let them play, but limit it to one or two days a week and seek out other frienships for your dd as well. This way all he eggs aren't in one basket so to speak. And I would not worry about developing a friendship with the mom. Just let things happen naturally. You may become fast friends or you may find you have nothing in commom with this woman. Nothing says you have to be buddies with your childrens friends. Though it isnice when that happens it certainly is not a requirement.