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Old 06-26-2007, 10:44 PM
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I have four kids. Three daughters and one son. First one was a girl, then I got a boy the second time. 3rd time it was a girl and we were thrilled because the husband is from a large family and all his brothers had all BOYS and one girl. We joked that it was a family tradition.

When number four was on her way I REALLY REALLY wanted a boy. I even bought a bunch of boy clothes at a yard sale.But by the time I was in labor I did not care what it was. I just wanted that kid OUT!!! She turned out to be another beautiful daughter and I do not think I would have been any happier if she had been a boy.
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Old 06-27-2007, 01:44 AM
Location: Vancouver, Canada
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I have 3 perfect boys.

I would love to have my own girl.

I hope my son gives me a granddaughter some day.

You are very lucky.

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Old 06-27-2007, 02:10 AM
Location: Debary, Florida
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My only child is a girl, I think I would be thrown if I got pregnant again and it was a boy...I have an idea how to deal with a girl...not one clue how to deal with a boy...

Just give yourself time to get used to it. Its loads of fun buying all the cute pink things and playing barbies with them when they get older. In some ways its like reliving your own childhood through their eyes...it sounds like you know about some of the pit falls and you can help guide her through growing up with that in mind. I wouldn't have a clue how to deal with a boy.
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Old 06-27-2007, 04:50 AM
Location: FL to GA back to FL
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Bottom line,

You LIKE what you want, you LOVE what you get.....

Be grateful that you are able to have a child, regardless of it's gender!
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Old 06-27-2007, 05:29 AM
Location: State College PA
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My first child is a boy...

When I found I my second was a girl, and I looked at the doctor, and said it scared the cr@p out of me!! She laughed and told me how easy girls are, and I told her hers wasn't in high school yet!

But really, I love my son, but there's something very special about a daughter. I am very, very lucky to have one of each!
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Old 06-27-2007, 07:05 AM
Location: Warwick, NY
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Girls now have every opportunity out there that men have. In many cases now they're doing better. Girls now outnumber boys in college and they do better in school at all levels of education. They're more focused, more pragmatic, and are better communicators. Without question, your daughter is being born at the best time in human history to be female.

It may shock you, but men do the same thing with boys. They ask themselves the same sort of questions about what kind of boy they will raise to a man. For men, girls are a blast because you can spoil them rotten and enjoy the fact that they aren't boys plus girls usually require less discipline so you don't have to be the bad guy. And as conventional as it may be, every man imagines walking their daughter down an aisle someday or enjoying the first dance at her wedding.

Boys are a hassle and, for men, there's the whole communication thing. It takes a great deal of effort for a father to always be honest and open with a son, particularly when they get to adolescence. It's very difficult to keep lines of communication open and even then your son may become a total stranger to you. I've seen a few fathers do everything right and still their son ends-up troubled. Boys are much more of a crap shoot.

Your concerns are valid but think of your first child and all the anxiety that came before he was born. You're doing well with him and there's no reason you can't do as well with your daughter. Congratulations!
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Old 06-27-2007, 10:16 AM
Location: Happiness is found inside your smile :)
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Some of these responses are so heart warming and welcoming - and I appreciate everyone's thoughts and concerns. I feel so much better. I posted right after the ultrasound.

Later in the afternoon I went and bought my husband one of those pink onesies that said "Daddy's little girl" He held it all night - he is so happy and beside himself. I am blessed to have this family.

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Old 06-27-2007, 11:44 AM
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I have two girls 14 years apart and that's what I wanted. My daughters do everything, wear pretty dresses, play football, golf, fish, dance, work on thier cars, anything guys can do they can, except the obvious.
They had less of a chance of getting into trouble with the law, going to jail, turning into perverts, More girls graduate from college, more women are becoming doctors and lawyers.
Yes, more girls get pregnant but who gets them that way and then leaves and doesn't pay child support?
Girls Rule.
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Old 06-27-2007, 01:33 PM
Location: Phoenix...until next week, then Maryland...tick tock tick tock
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Well, when I got (surprise!) pregnant, I really wanted a girl...not because I'm girly, per se (cuz I'm really not that foo foo...at all...) but because I'm a girl & an only child, so I kinda had an idea of what girls are like (sorta ).

I found out at my ultra-sound that I'd be having a boy. Holy Crap! I didn't know crap about what to do with little boys. I know from experience with the over-grown ones (men don't really "mature", they're just boys that got bigger...hehe...I'm teasing, guys...well, kinda...) that boys try valiantly to destroy themselves in the name of "fun" and that they are horrendous on shoes...but that was about it. But now, I think my boy *rocks* & I would never trade him for a girl. When I was younger, I never thought I could cope with having a little boy.

Point is, you love getting to know her as her own person, & you'll have a blast being able to buy all the little outfits for her. I'm still bitter that little girls get their own wing in clothing stores while boys get a rack & a half off over in the corner somewhere...

Besides, she has a big brother to protect her from any guys with nefarious intentions!
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Old 06-28-2007, 12:08 PM
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Congratulations, CityGirl72!
In time, may you come to peace & acceptance.
Wishing you all the best.
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