family co sleeping (breastfeed, son)

[paganmama80]

Originally Posted by DewDropInn

Welcome to the newer posters. Let the games begin!

~gets out the whip~ indeed! . And for further knowledge, my kids still co sleep with me.

[Kibbiekat]

All of them? How old are they?

I still never wanted them in my bed, and they still sleep in theirs! It's all good!

[paganmama80]

Originally Posted by rkb0305

All of them? How old are they?

I still never wanted them in my bed, and they still sleep in theirs! It's all good!

Almost 9 with the twins and seven with my son.

[gimme it]

I think you as a parent have to ask yourself who this is for, you or the children. I think having "sleepover" nights on occasion are fun and it's nice to have the closeness, but on an every night basis? I think individual family members have to differentiate from each other or they become too enmeshed, which isn't that healthy for anyone.

[purehuman]

Originally Posted by paganmama80

I have a bit of an issue with some of my friends....my family and i co sleep. I'm have 2, 7 year old twins girls and a 5 year old boy and we all sleep every night in a bed soft comfy bed along with the hubby. The children actually do have their own rooms for privacy and sometimes they do sleep in them, but for the most part they tendto snuggle up with us every night. The are very well adjusted smart kids with no anxiety issues i can see or seperation problems so i thought this was no issue as this is something both my hubby and i were raised like. Well until i mentioned to a group of moms at a book club and every one of the 10 gave me the "what are you thinking glance". I got the argument "your kids will be whiny" "they will never learn to leave the nest" "you must have no sex life" the last of which is far from true . Am i nuts though to think what we are doing is okay? Or am i really doing something wrong here?

Hey paganmama80....enjoy your young family...YOU and hubby raise those kids in whatever way satisfies you and makes you all happy....nothing wrong with that...AT ALL!!!

[gimme it]

Originally Posted by purehuman

Hey paganmama80....enjoy your young family...YOU and hubby raise those kids in whatever way satisfies you and makes you all happy....nothing wrong with that...AT ALL!!!

Giving your kids a ton of sugar and letting them watch hours of tv makes them happy too, but you know that it's not necessarily good for them...

[num1baby]

I think it is ironic that I read this thread today. DD6 is very independent. She sleeps in her own room every night. She likes being in her own room because she likes her space when she sleeps. Dh went out of town yesterday so she slept in my bed with me. She asks to sleep with me about half of the time that DH is out of town. She calls it Mommy-DD sleepovers. Whe does it because she thinks it is a fun sleepover. I see nothing wrong with that. It is fun bonding time for us, and has kind of become our tradition.

How I feel about co-sleeping in general? I guess I feel the same way about that as I do about most parenting decisions. Whatever works for your family.

[lkb0714]

I used to live in SE Asia and I remember being surprised by how many of the families co-sleep. Its really not a big deal there and the kids are as happy and well adjusted. My step cousin was the youngest and was in bed with one of her sibs and her parents until about 10. She left when she was ready.

It really is only a cultural issue not a developmental one.

[cc0789]

I think its fine, we often do musical beds at night (more than one kid joins us, an adult bails to join another kid). I'm not sure if I missed a clarification on actually having intercourse in bed with them when too lazy to find an alternative. that part, is gross.

[Ringo1]

Co-sleeping and 'musical beds' at night - will come to an end one day so I wouldn't worry too much about it.

Once my son got to about 10 years old - he just stopped coming into my room at night. No word from me; he just stopped on his own.

We were both ready!