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Old 09-29-2010, 04:00 PM
 
Location: Orange County, California
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No. According to the OP, he apparently kept his job loss from his wife and began charging all household bills to the credit card. Wife didn't know about the charges. And he apparnetly hasn't changed his behavior and is not looking for another job. So it's a lot more than debt.

As for the comment from another poster about people providing continuity and not things, I think you are missing the point. Whether house or apartment, the continuity is in staying in the same place with the same school, friends, etc.

Whether wife should ask FIL for money, that's her decision. I wouldn't, but that's just me.
What a bad dude... paying the household bills on the credit card when he lost his job! (sarcasm) Sounds like half of the country right now...

What was her problem that she had no idea how the bills were getting paid? Truth is, either she knew and buried her head in the sand rather than getting her butt a job, or she's a real idiot!

These women who sit around and expect a man to take care of them make me sick! Wake up and smell your credit scores!
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Old 09-29-2010, 07:53 PM
 
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What a bad dude... paying the household bills on the credit card when he lost his job! (sarcasm) Sounds like half of the country right now...

What was her problem that she had no idea how the bills were getting paid? Truth is, either she knew and buried her head in the sand rather than getting her butt a job, or she's a real idiot!

These women who sit around and expect a man to take care of them make me sick! Wake up and smell your credit scores!
He didn't tell her about losing his job, either. Read the thread.
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Old 09-29-2010, 09:28 PM
 
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What I'd like to know is, what was this clown doing for 10 hours a day while he was supposed to be at work??? If he was out "looking for a job", he would have found one. (It's been proven time and again that if you spend 8 solid hours a day OUT looking for work, you will find a job quickly. Those 8 hours don't include sitting on the internet "looking for a job")
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Old 09-29-2010, 09:32 PM
 
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What was her problem that she had no idea how the bills were getting paid? Truth is, either she knew and buried her head in the sand rather than getting her butt a job, or she's a real idiot!
You'd be surprised at how many women sit at home with the kids and let the husband be in charge of every penny that comes in, even so far as to taking them grocery shopping and the husband pays. They consider their job is to pop out babies, clean the house, do the laundry, and cook.

They're idiots. Plain and simple. Any woman who sits there and has no clue about the family finances is a fool --- no, she's a moron. Now, this moron expects her father in law to pick up the slack. I say this baby-maker go get a job and support herself and her kids and, if she decides to kick hubby out, take him to court for child support.
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Old 09-30-2010, 12:56 PM
 
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He didn't tell her about losing his job, either. Read the thread.

I woud'nt have told her either- he proably knew her ass would be gone as soon as he stopped bringing home the bacon!
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Old 09-30-2010, 02:08 PM
 
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I woud'nt have told her either- he proably knew her ass would be gone as soon as he stopped bringing home the bacon!
I implied this earlier in the thread too.
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Old 09-30-2010, 02:31 PM
 
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You don't know that. Sounds like HE left... she's the one in the home, still worrying about losing it.

***GASP*** How DARE she get upset when he hides the fact he lost his job and ran up the CC without telling her. ***GASP*** Yup, he's a loser.
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Old 09-30-2010, 02:37 PM
 
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You don't know that. Sounds like HE left... she's the one in the home, still worrying about losing it.
It's very clear that she's the one leaving him.

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he was in insurance but wasn't able to produce -didn't tell her and started putting all the bills on credit card- now they are $30,000 in debt-she is planning to divorce him b/c he is not changing /looking for a job etc.
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***GASP*** How DARE she get upset when he hides the fact he lost his job and ran up the CC without telling her. ***GASP*** Yup, he's a loser.
We're just saying the very fact she's leaving him because he can't find a job is an indication that he paid bills on the credit card because he knew that she would leave him.

Some women are in it only for the money. We're just saying that maybe he knew that about her.
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Old 09-30-2010, 03:05 PM
 
Location: The Greater Houston Metro Area
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On the other hand, if she has a good relationship with the ex father in law and he knows that her ex is a loser then, by all means, ask. One thing I would make sure is that the trust fund is set up in HER and the child's name. If it's set up in ex's name & child's name, her ex can take the money out. If it's set up in ex father in law's name & child's name and he dies, the ex-mother in law or the son can get it.
If I were the FIL, I would not put it in her name at all. What is to keep her from continuing to just sit at home and draw the money out for living expenses, rather than find a job! If the in-laws have money and would like to set up a trust that can ONLY be used for college, that would be great.

It sounds like he is still in insurance, just not producing, most likely due to the economy. However, he should have gotten a paying job - just like she needs to get. My impression is this married couple both "played" at working - and now she thinks the in-laws need to pay the bill for it.
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Old 09-30-2010, 07:39 PM
 
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It's very clear that she's the one leaving him.




We're just saying the very fact she's leaving him because he can't find a job is an indication that he paid bills on the credit card because he knew that she would leave him.

Some women are in it only for the money. We're just saying that maybe he knew that about her.
Oh please. She's not leaving because he lost a job, she's leaving because now they're $30,000 in debt and he's not looking for another job. Read the first post. Selective memory, I see.
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