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This is a difficult question. If I've done my job, then when he leaves for college, he'd be out on his own. But I also know it can be tough once they graduate. If he needed to come back home until he found a job and got settled, I'd be completely okay with that.
I know my son well enough to know that if he did have to make that choice he wouldn't be thrilled about it. He'd WANT to be out on his own. So I know it would be short lived and he wouldn't take advantage.
I didn't vote. I'd like them to leave when they feel ready to, whether that's when they leave for college, or if they decide to stay home to attend college then when they are ready to move out. I don't intend to raise my kids to be afraid to go out on their own, but I also don't want them to feel pushed out at 17 like I was.
I really can't say. Each child is different. Some kids are ready to leave home permanently when they leave for college, others never go to college, and yet others need some time after college to get themselves established. I am willing to help my kids get established so that when they leave they are gone for good. If that means they have to stay a little longer I am ok with that as long as they are making progress towards a goal.
Ideally, I'd want them to be out of the home by the time they are off to college (dorms or on-campus apartment). But I do understand that it's awfully hard to find a well-paying job right out of college, so if they have to live it home for awhile, then so be it.
Once they can support themselves. I would prefer they live on their own before marriage and learn how to take care of the bills, cooking, cleaning etc...ALONE!
I tell both my kids that I feel it is important to support themselves for awhile prior to marriage. I want them to know they CAN if they ever have to.
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Originally Posted by jkcoop
This is a difficult question. If I've done my job, then when he leaves for college, he'd be out on his own. But I also know it can be tough once they graduate. If he needed to come back home until he found a job and got settled, I'd be completely okay with that.
I know my son well enough to know that if he did have to make that choice he wouldn't be thrilled about it. He'd WANT to be out on his own. So I know it would be short lived and he wouldn't take advantage.
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Originally Posted by Momma_bear
I really can't say. Each child is different. Some kids are ready to leave home permanently when they leave for college, others never go to college, and yet others need some time after college to get themselves established. I am willing to help my kids get established so that when they leave they are gone for good. If that means they have to stay a little longer I am ok with that as long as they are making progress towards a goal.
That was my mother! She literally threw herself in front of the door trying to stop my older sister from moving out at age 20!
She mother had a real problem with letting go of all her children. You gotta love her for it though. She loved us, just a little too much!
My mama has 5 kids, 16, 21, 22, 23, 25. Two of us have kids and My 23 year old brother is expecting one with his girlfriend, she still wishes we all lived at home, I dont even wanna know what its going to be like when my 16 year old sister graduates and goes away to college.
My oldest son dropped out of highschool and moved out at 17. He moved back in five months ago after he suffered a massive heart attack at 40. My youngest son finisged highschool and moved out at 18. My oldest daughter moved out after she finished highschool and started college. My youngest daughter dropped out of highschool and moved out of my ex's at 17.
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