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Old 10-14-2010, 09:19 AM
 
Location: 3814′45″N 12237′53″W
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Developmentally, I think you should wait till after 4 months.
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Old 10-14-2010, 09:22 AM
 
Location: Nova
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Thanks for the responses. Personally, I'm not a big CIO fan, which is why I modified it for my first child. My 3 month old usually sleeps from 7:30pm until 12:30-2:30 ish and then wants to eat. Then she sleeps again for about two hours and is up... two hours and then up... repetes this until morning.

The doctor told me that my baby could go all night (up to 10 hours) if I could get her to sleep that long.

I appreciate all of the postings and links too. I obviously know my baby best and know her cries- as one poster wrote. Just wasn't even sure if three months is too early...

I think I'm going to try rocking her less and less each night and see how that works. If she fusses and wimpers I might let her go for about 5-10 minutes and see what happens. If she full out cries, I'm going in... For the paci... have to think about that one later. ;-)

Thanks.
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Old 10-14-2010, 09:27 AM
 
Location: a fantasy world
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I think I'm going to try rocking her less and less each night and see how that works. If she fusses and wimpers I might let her go for about 5-10 minutes and see what happens. If she full out cries, I'm going in... For the paci... have to think about that one later. ;-)

Thanks.
Sounds like me as a child. My grandfather would sometimes watch me and rock me. Then I needed to be rocked every time, and I was getting big! My mom bought a book called "teach your baby to sleep in one week" and basically she had to let me just cry. She would come in and say "you are ok" and eventually I would fall asleep.

I think this is why I sleep better if I watch a sad movie before bed
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Old 10-14-2010, 09:30 AM
 
Location: Frankfurt, Germany
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I agree that 3 mos is too old. I wouldn't necessarily drop what I was doing and rush in immediately but a few minutes of crying to see if it might stop fine.

Not sure if at 3 mos they can put the paci back in...but with my DD we used a paci clip and she would put it back in herself! yay! Does she have any kind of "lovey" to snuggle with? My son had a bear head/mini blanket thing he was super attached too but my DD wouldn't really attach to anything but her paci. I think it helps to have some sort of soothing item for a lot of kids.

DD is now 2.5 and we broke the paci habit so she has no sort of attachments. DS is now 4.5 and he isn't attached to anything either. He gave up the bear last summer along with the paci which we had him only using for sleep times. It was his "thing" and it helped him sleep so I didn't care.

They both sleep thru the night 90% of the time. Go to sleep on their own with little help unless they are sick. My 2.5 yr old DD started asking me to rock her again lately but she is still awake after a few minutes when I put her down and doesn't fuss a few nights a week.

We did do the CIO with DS around 18 mos to get him out of our bed before his sister was born but he was fine and just wanted to sleep with us. Even now if they wake up feeling bad or have a bad dream/scared I will let them in bed with us. Kids need that secure feeling from parents. They need that assurance/safety. If that means rocking them back to bed at 3am so be it!
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Old 10-14-2010, 09:31 AM
 
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Thanks for the responses. Personally, I'm not a big CIO fan, which is why I modified it for my first child. My 3 month old usually sleeps from 7:30pm until 12:30-2:30 ish and then wants to eat. Then she sleeps again for about two hours and is up... two hours and then up... repetes this until morning.

The doctor told me that my baby could go all night (up to 10 hours) if I could get her to sleep that long.

I appreciate all of the postings and links too. I obviously know my baby best and know her cries- as one poster wrote. Just wasn't even sure if three months is too early...

I think I'm going to try rocking her less and less each night and see how that works. If she fusses and wimpers I might let her go for about 5-10 minutes and see what happens. If she full out cries, I'm going in... For the paci... have to think about that one later. ;-)

Thanks.
The hours that your baby is sleeping and waking sounds very normal for her age.

I hate it when doctors make blanket statements about children and babies in regards to parenting and sleep. All they do is set up unrealistic expectations and false hope. They should really know better.

It sounds like you have a good plan. Good luck with everything.
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Old 10-14-2010, 09:35 AM
 
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Developmentally, three month olds are often having a growth spurt, and may need the night feedings. I'd not expect one to sleep through for 10 hours at this age. I'm suprised the doctor said that.
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Old 10-14-2010, 10:02 AM
 
Location: Mebane
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I think 3 months is way too young for CIO. But I don't believe in CIO myself. I mean, I believe that it works, but I don't believe it's how I want to interact with my child. Have you read No Cry Sleep Solution? Also, the medical definition of "sleep through the night" is only like 5 hours anyway, not 10!
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Old 10-14-2010, 10:06 AM
 
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Thanks for the responses. Personally, I'm not a big CIO fan, which is why I modified it for my first child. My 3 month old usually sleeps from 7:30pm until 12:30-2:30 ish and then wants to eat. Then she sleeps again for about two hours and is up... two hours and then up... repetes this until morning.

The doctor told me that my baby could go all night (up to 10 hours) if I could get her to sleep that long.

I appreciate all of the postings and links too. I obviously know my baby best and know her cries- as one poster wrote. Just wasn't even sure if three months is too early...

I think I'm going to try rocking her less and less each night and see how that works. If she fusses and wimpers I might let her go for about 5-10 minutes and see what happens. If she full out cries, I'm going in... For the paci... have to think about that one later. ;-)

Thanks.
My ped told me that once they reach their birth weight (as they lose some ounces in the hospital) that it is ok for them to sleep as long as they want during the night (dependant on all other factors being healthy of course). My 3 month old went 5 hrs at about 2 wks. He is not so long anymore.

Honestly, I would just take away the pacifier now. Why keep the habit, which is only going to be harder to break? At least now the baby is at a stage you can rock her to sleep. But, we all gotta fight the battles we have energy for

And my 3month old has about the same pattern as yours right now. I have a friend w/ a 3 month old who has been sleeping 8-10hrs at night since week 1!
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Old 10-14-2010, 10:48 AM
 
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Thanks for the responses. Personally, I'm not a big CIO fan, which is why I modified it for my first child. My 3 month old usually sleeps from 7:30pm until 12:30-2:30 ish and then wants to eat. Then she sleeps again for about two hours and is up... two hours and then up... repetes this until morning.

The doctor told me that my baby could go all night (up to 10 hours) if I could get her to sleep that long.

I appreciate all of the postings and links too. I obviously know my baby best and know her cries- as one poster wrote. Just wasn't even sure if three months is too early...

I think I'm going to try rocking her less and less each night and see how that works. If she fusses and wimpers I might let her go for about 5-10 minutes and see what happens. If she full out cries, I'm going in... For the paci... have to think about that one later. ;-)

Thanks.
Five straight hours is a pretty long stretch for a baby that young.
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Old 10-14-2010, 10:53 AM
 
Location: Plano, Texas
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Don't stone me, but I am not a fan of the "cry it out" method at all.
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