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Unread 10-19-2010, 09:44 AM
 
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Relax...you're worrying too much. Your son would be fine. I'm not native to the US and only moved here 9 years ago from Asia. We have a young daughter and I'm her main caregiver, even though I also work full out of the house.

My husband also work long hours but she knows her daddy and loves him. In fact, she has a lot of his personalities....lol.

My in-laws are the grandparents she sees most often. Am I sad that she doesn't get to see or get to know my parents? Absolutely. It kills me on some days but I do the best I can. I also want to expose her to Asian culture but it is difficult in an interracial marriage.

You and your son are going to be just fine.
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Unread 10-19-2010, 11:33 AM
 
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Is your wife that much of a pushover that her family can tell her what and what not to do in that way? How are they going to stop you taking your child to visit your family or stop them from visiting you? They don't hav any choice in it. If they don't like it, well tough cookies. It's not their decision to make.

I don't understand your obsession with the idea that they all hate you. I can understand them not liking much of you based on what you've posted about the way you behave around them, but you are paranoid. Try channeling your energy into making yourself into a more likable person.
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Unread 10-19-2010, 12:25 PM
 
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Is your wife that much of a pushover that her family can tell her what and what not to do in that way? How are they going to stop you taking your child to visit your family or stop them from visiting you? They don't hav any choice in it. If they don't like it, well tough cookies. It's not their decision to make.

I don't understand your obsession with the idea that they all hate you. I can understand them not liking much of you based on what you've posted about the way you behave around them, but you are paranoid. Try channeling your energy into making yourself into a more likable person.
I have. But some of your advice is really on target and made me think. Thanks for that. My eyes are open a bit wider now.
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Unread 10-19-2010, 04:44 PM
 
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It is not I who first drew a line in the sand. They did, and left me with sore feelings that pop up from time to time. I mean, sheesh, i named my boy after my FIL and he does not hardly like me!
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Did your wife not have an opinion in the name of your son? If she didn't, you sound a bit controlling and possessive.
I think you're reading that the wrong way. I'll bet money that his wife wanted to name the child after her father, and the OP went along with it.
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Unread 10-19-2010, 07:35 PM
 
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Ntsa
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Unread 10-19-2010, 10:16 PM
 
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Heres a website where people can be understanding of your "overbearent" in laws. www.Ihatemyinlaws.com
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Unread 10-20-2010, 02:45 PM
 
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No harm intended, but you have GOT to stop worrying so much. Your child is an infant. If you keep worrying so much and running 4 thousand scenarios through your mind all the time, you are never going to make it. Sit back, relax and enjoy this time. Believe me, you are going to blink and wonder where the time went.
life is passing you by while you worry about every little thing. relax.
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