People Who Are Unfit To Be Parents (girl, child, friend)
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the woman WAS exhibiting behavior that will truly impact her child in a negative fashion,but law enforcement could not do anything unless the child was in imminent physical danger.the biggest problem facing children in this economy is that funding to social service agencies that support children in danger is so limited that there are MANY children out there suffering terribly at the hands of truly dangerous parents
Last edited by auntieannie68; 11-08-2010 at 08:09 AM..
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Okay, granted, some people should not be parents. However, I have four children, and believe me, if there had been a microscope on me every second, there were probably a few instances where I would not have passed the "Good Mother" test. There are times when maybe you are not the greatest mom in the world. So...Don't judge a Mom on a random moment in time.
There are times when maybe you are stressed about money, work, spouse, other things going on, and then the kids just start pushing your buttons...and you know that they can do it, and maybe in a nano-second, you just can't take another second of pressure...and sort of have a melt down. That does not generalize into a lifetime of being "Mommie Dearest".
However, yes, I have met some parents, and I wish I could just take their kids home with me...but that is the way it is...I guess it is survival of the fittest and the strongest. Sort of a strange social Darwinism. Every child who grows up in a dysfunctional home does not become a horrible person, and not everyone who grows up in a wonderful home is a credit to society. It is a disadvantage to have a bad parent, that is for sure.
Great post and ITA.
Depending on the day, hell even the TIME of day sometimes, I could be seen either as the Best Mom Ever or an Unfit Parent.
People really shouldn't judge others on a 5 minute observation.
This past summer I was voluteering at this church and I witnessed a very sad scene. The mom was talking on the phone, being 5 feet AHEAD of a 5-6 year old boy while he's trailing BEHIND her. He looked very bored and lonely (like he's walking and swinging his arms back and forth). She just didn't care about him. I'm thinking, what's her problem? Did he disobey her? Made her mad? Idk... But it was not cool.
Ah well. I have a 6 year old and sometimes he chooses to walk behind me. And sometimes I'm on my cell because I have a billion and one things going on at the same time. *shrug*
It doesn't say that I have to keep the Evil Boredom Monster at bay for my children in my copy of the Parenting Handbook.
All of this is further proof that cell phones are an evil conspiracy to turn the human race over to the dark side.
I was convinced when they came out with the first portable phone, that let people step away from the desk and talk to someone while sitting on the toilet. I didn't get one of those either.
If I want to talk on the phone, I do it at my desk or in the kitchen near the counter, where the phone is attached to the wall by a spring-cord. People yelling into cell phones makes ME angry. It makes everyone angry. It upsets the kids, it upsets employees, it upsets customers, it upsets bosses, it upsets pets. Just toss them all in the trash.
I just spoke with my son's preschool teacher the other day on the way home from picking older son up from school. I got everything done I needed to do. Granted, I wasn't yelling, but I am grateful to live in a time where I can multi-task.
ROTFLOL!! OMG!! Not the cell phones! You can't mean that! What would people do without cell phones! To not be able to be on the phone anywhere, anytime, with anyone you please, whenever you please. Do you realize how many BFFs would be lost without thier umbilical cords!? Dear God, what would some folks DO if they couldn't be reach their friends IMMEDIATELY...just to tell them that someone looked at them funny!!
Meh. It's more than that for my family. I go to school full time and my husband works full time. It helps us to stay connected and talk about things since we don't see each other for almost 4 full days of the week. It's nice to be able to take calls or make them while I am grocery shopping or waiting for the bus. It's also comforting, as a woman with small children, to know I can call 911 if some idiot tries something.
My grand daughter and her husband were out for dinner the other night and saw a 7 month pregnant woman down 2 beers in a matter of a few minutes, then take her other child and get in the car and drive off..
Some people have no business being parents..AT ALL!
How did they know how pregnant she was? How do they know it was, actually, beer?
People really shouldn't judge others on a 5 minute observation.
I was reading a few of your posts and I think you made some good common sense observations and I do realize that no parent can be perfect all the time but as I said earlier this particular incident is one that you would have to have seen yourself. I do think that certain judgements can be made during a brief observation. I've seen countless incidents when unruly children in public places have caused their parents to overreact and that's just human nature. However the woman I described was course, vulgar, and was threatening to kill someone. It simply went beyond the level of typical frustration and anger that all of us have felt countless times in our lives. I've been upset about many things myself but I've never threatened to kill anyone, have you?
I'm tellin ya, it's the cell phone. It turns reasonable, intelligent, well-adjusted people into freak mutant aliens. And then, when they're done with their call, they revert back to being normal people, and don't even realize how extraordinarily freakish they were just moments ago. They don't KNOW how horrible they are, while they're being horrible, because they have that cell phone, or a headset, attached to their ear.
It's just like when you're on the subway, and all of a sudden someone starts singing at the top of their lungs. They're not even aware of the fact that they're singing; but the music from their headset obscures their cognizance of the world around them.
I was reading a few of your posts and I think you made some good common sense observations and I do realize that no parent can be perfect all the time but as I said earlier this particular incident is one that you would have to have seen yourself. I do think that certain judgements can be made during a brief observation. I've seen countless incidents when unruly children in public places have caused their parents to overreact and that's just human nature. However the woman I described was course, vulgar, and was threatening to kill someone. It simply went beyond the level of typical frustration and anger that all of us have felt countless times in our lives. I've been upset about many things myself but I've never threatened to kill anyone, have you?
Sounds crazy, I agree, but I also don't think children's protective services or local law enforcement would be able to do anything with such a scenario. I really wish more parents realized the treasures they have in their children,and treated them accordingly. When you've lost a child, as my husband & I did, you realize this even more. That said, I know life can get frustrating, but yeah, many things should certainly never be said within a child's earshot. What I really don't like to hear, however, is out in public when a parent is berating a child in demeaning way such as calling him/her "stupid" etc.
I know how disturbing it must have been but it is more common than not anymore and much worse things are in the news every day. As you see, people have just become numb because of all the tragedies. Generally, they are swearing at their children directly who are obviously neglected by appearance - dirty and frail and, call anyone you want but nobody cares. No one has time to care because they are overwhelmed. There are not enough foster homes and they sometimes turn out to be worse than the home of the birth family. Women do drink alcohol when pregnant thus fetal alcohol syndrome and probably a lot of other defects along with drug use, etc. There are more of "them" and they seem to be gaining everyday. I do not know the answer but feel that it is too late to turn it around. All we can ever do is save ourselves and try to save the ones we love.
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