What would you do if you caught your teen having sex (support, high school)

[paganmama80]

Originally Posted by Lucario

One reason some girls have sex is that boys are not afraid of their dads. I would let a young man know in no certain terms what would happen to him if he were having sex with my daughter.

LOL you are kidding right? Most often the girls with DADS like you are some of the easiest girls to get in the sack at school. The more you repress your child the more she will want to buck. My brother used to laugh at dads like you, because he knew that really there was nothing you could do to him. And who says you just have to worry about the boys anyway .

[paganmama80]

Originally Posted by Lucario

I most certainly would. That way, there would be no ambiguity.





I'd give the kid a choice. I'd tell him I could call the cops, or that he could deal with me without the cops being involved.

Unless you can prove anything the cops will just laught at you.

[paganmama80]

Originally Posted by LeavingMassachusetts

If you have seen some of my other posts, I very much leaned toward the strict side, so no, I was not their "buddy" My boys just knew that it was safe to talk to me, and so did their friends.

Paganmama was right about what I meant. There are a lot of parents who have their head in the sand. A lot.

No kidding i still remember talking to a couple of my friends who said they won't allow their kids to learn sex ed at school, because they are too young to know anything about sex.

[Lucario]

Originally Posted by Momma_bear

The police do not get paid (by the taxpayers) to enforce your family rules.

No, they get paid by me to keep intruders out of my home.

The police should be involved in protecting the public from real crime, not in acting as terrorists against horny teenagers.

You're right. That's my job.

What about the girl? What would you do to her? It takes 2 to tango you know.

This is hypothetical. The girl would be my daughter. She would already know not to be bringing some fool into my home.

In reality, I would not be worried about this scenario because of what I said earlier. Part of the father's role is deterrence.

[Lucario]

Originally Posted by paganmama80

LOL you are kidding right? Most often the girls with DADS like you are some of the easiest girls to get in the sack at school. The more you repress your child the more she will want to buck.

You're talking in speculative generalizations. Who said anyone was repressing anyone? Why is it considered strange that I don't wish my CHILD to be having sex?

My brother used to laugh at dads like you, because he knew that really there was nothing you could do to him. And who says you just have to worry about the boys anyway .

Really? I can do whatever I want. We can debate the consequences of that until the cows come home, but rest assured that I would not be worried about some kid who wants to pork my daughter. They'd be worried about me.

[paganmama80]

Originally Posted by Lucario

You're talking in speculative generalizations. Who said anyone was repressing anyone? Why is it considered strange that I don't wish my CHILD to be having sex?

What you wish and what's going to happen are 2 different things entirely. If you act like a raving nut over it you will guarantee she will do it anyway.

Originally Posted by Lucario

Really? I can do whatever I want. We can debate the consequences of that until the cows come home, but rest assured that I would not be worried about some kid who wants to pork my daughter. They'd be worried about me.

LOL worried about what? My brother is 6'7 and has been boxing since he was 5, believe me you wouldn't be standing for 5 seconds had you of put your hands on him. And in todays legal society, you would not only get sued and lose all your assets. But you would be doing jail time as a well, and or dealing with someones parents.

[paganmama80]

Originally Posted by Lucario

No, they get paid by me to keep intruders out of my home.

If she invited him in then the most they will do is escort him off the property

Originally Posted by Lucario

This is hypothetical. The girl would be my daughter. She would already know not to be bringing some fool into my home.

In reality, I would not be worried about this scenario because of what I said earlier. Part of the father's role is deterrence.

And like i said most guys are not afraid of that mythical tough dad.

[LeavingMassachusetts]

Originally Posted by Lucario

You're talking in speculative generalizations. Who said anyone was repressing anyone? Why is it considered strange that I don't wish my CHILD to be having sex?



Really? I can do whatever I want. We can debate the consequences of that until the cows come home, but rest assured that I would not be worried about some kid who wants to pork my daughter. They'd be worried about me.

Like I said earlier. Touch my son. I dare you

[Momma_bear]

Originally Posted by Lucario

No, they get paid by me to keep intruders out of my home.

A person invited in by your daughter is not an intruder.

Originally Posted by Lucario

This is hypothetical. The girl would be my daughter. She would already know not to be bringing some fool into my home.

Why would a boy be a fool just because he wanted sex?

Originally Posted by Lucario

In reality, I would not be worried about this scenario because of what I said earlier. Part of the father's role is deterrence.

At some point she will be old enough to decide for herself whether she wants to have sex or not. Your job is not to deter her from doing that. Your job is to raise her so that when SHE makes the decision to have sex it is the right decision for her.

I don't think younger teens should be having sex. I think they are to young to deal with the intimacy of sex. They are to young for a truly intimate relationship and they are to young to make informed decisions about things like risk of pregnancy and STDS. Plus they are totally unprepared for the emotional hurt that comes with breaking up with someone with whom they have been intimate.

However, at some point in the late teens a person is old enough to decide whether and when to have sex. It's their job to make that decision. NOT YOURS.

[paganmama80]

Originally Posted by LeavingMassachusetts

Like I said earlier. Touch my son. I dare you

*wonders if ticketmaster will be selling passes to this*