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Btw, Mattie, if you want to play the stupid stereotype game, guess which gender child will actually be there to love and support you in your old age. Hint: it ain't the gender you've got.
Regarding the article posted in the OP, it would be interesting to see the relationships that her sons end up having with women. If she openly regards girls as flighty, moody, silly little princesses and tells people how glad she is to avoid them, it seems like her boys are going to grow up with some wonky ideas about the opposite sex. At least one of them will probably end up with a flighty, moody, silly little princess for a girlfriend or wife, because he'll think that's how all of them are.
As the boys get older though, are they going to wonder what's wrong with her? I mean, there comes a point in time where young men DO realize that their moms are girls. OR, are these boys going to avoid discussing girls or avoid ever bringing one home for her to meet....since she disapproves so strongly, of girls?
Btw, Mattie, if you want to play the stupid stereotype game, guess which gender child will actually be there to love and support you in your old age. Hint: it ain't the gender you've got.
I am sorry you feel that way. And even more sorry for your sons. But I suppose it is just as well you do not have a daughter who just as likely would not be a "girly girl". Imagine how little you would want that child.
You are mean and VERY ignorant. And no need to feel sorry for my sons because I love them more than anything in this world, and they know it, AS I HAVE SAID NUMEROUS TIMES, but people keep interpreting it as I don't love my children. I would die for them. All I said was I always wanted girls my entire life and I am sad that don't have one and the connection mother's have with their daughters like the one I had with my mom. I feel that I am missing a part of me. Whether she was a tomboy or not, there is a connection that only mothers and daughters share. I played sports and climbed trees, had scraped knees, had guy friends, and was dirty constantly when I was little, but I also loved my dolls and playing house and being girly and wearing dresses. In fact I don't even like wearing dresses now, but am still a girly girl. The best friend I had for my entire life was and still is a complete tomboy.
My boys are happy, respectful, smart, funny kids. Do they drive me crazy sometimes? ABSOLUTELY. Do I love them any less? ABSOLUTELY NOT.
Instead of judging me and being so insensitive, try understanding. You are taking what I said out of context and reading into it more than is necessary. Everyone is entitled to their feelings and should not be belittled because of them. You don't know me or anything about me. I doubt if I were your sister or best friend you would be so demeaning. I'm sure you would lend a sympathetic ear and hug every once in awhile. I was truthful about myself and my feelings. I'm sure some of you put on a good act through the internet, but I see no reason to do so. Next time you want to mean to someone you don't know, try putting yourself in their shoes for a minute and see how you would feel if someone said those things to you, your mom, your sister, or anyone close to you.
You are mean and VERY ignorant. And no need to feel sorry for my sons because I love them more than anything in this world, and they know it, AS I HAVE SAID NUMEROUS TIMES, but people keep interpreting it as I don't love my children. I would die for them. All I said was I always wanted girls my entire life and I am sad that don't have one and the connection mother's have with their daughters like the one I had with my mom. I feel that I am missing a part of me. Whether she was a tomboy or not, there is a connection that only mothers and daughters share. I played sports and climbed trees, had scraped knees, had guy friends, and was dirty constantly when I was little, but I also loved my dolls and playing house and being girly and wearing dresses. In fact I don't even like wearing dresses now, but am still a girly girl. The best friend I had for my entire life was and still is a complete tomboy.
My boys are happy, respectful, smart, funny kids. Do they drive me crazy sometimes? ABSOLUTELY. Do I love them any less? ABSOLUTELY NOT.
Instead of judging me and being so insensitive, try understanding. You are taking what I said out of context and reading into it more than is necessary. Everyone is entitled to their feelings and should not be belittled because of them. You don't know me or anything about me. I doubt if I were your sister or best friend you would be so demeaning. I'm sure you would lend a sympathetic ear and hug every once in awhile. I was truthful about myself and my feelings. I'm sure some of you put on a good act through the internet, but I see no reason to do so. Next time you want to mean to someone you don't know, try putting yourself in their shoes for a minute and see how you would feel if someone said those things to you, your mom, your sister, or anyone close to you.
IMO you are one of the most honest posters I've seen in a long time. I understand that it's possible to love your boys and still wish you'd had a girl. I adore my daughter and appreciate all of her qualities (stubborn, indepedent, opinionated) but that doesn't mean that I haven't ever sighed and wished for a more compliant kid.
Having said that, I think that all the stereotypes about boys and girls are silly. The sex of a kid does not determine what activities they'll be interested in, or how they'll interact with their parents over the years. Those qualities vary with individuals, not by sex.
You are mean and VERY ignorant. And no need to feel sorry for my sons because I love them more than anything in this world, and they know it, AS I HAVE SAID NUMEROUS TIMES, but people keep interpreting it as I don't love my children. I would die for them. All I said was I always wanted girls my entire life and I am sad that don't have one and the connection mother's have with their daughters like the one I had with my mom. I feel that I am missing a part of me. Whether she was a tomboy or not, there is a connection that only mothers and daughters share. I played sports and climbed trees, had scraped knees, had guy friends, and was dirty constantly when I was little, but I also loved my dolls and playing house and being girly and wearing dresses. In fact I don't even like wearing dresses now, but am still a girly girl. The best friend I had for my entire life was and still is a complete tomboy.
My boys are happy, respectful, smart, funny kids. Do they drive me crazy sometimes? ABSOLUTELY. Do I love them any less? ABSOLUTELY NOT.
Instead of judging me and being so insensitive, try understanding. You are taking what I said out of context and reading into it more than is necessary. Everyone is entitled to their feelings and should not be belittled because of them. You don't know me or anything about me. I doubt if I were your sister or best friend you would be so demeaning. I'm sure you would lend a sympathetic ear and hug every once in awhile. I was truthful about myself and my feelings. I'm sure some of you put on a good act through the internet, but I see no reason to do so. Next time you want to mean to someone you don't know, try putting yourself in their shoes for a minute and see how you would feel if someone said those things to you, your mom, your sister, or anyone close to you.
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Originally Posted by Marlow
IMO you are one of the most honest posters I've seen in a long time. I understand that it's possible to love your boys and still wish you'd had a girl. I adore my daughter and appreciate all of her qualities (stubborn, indepedent, opinionated) but that doesn't mean that I haven't ever sighed and wished for a more compliant kid.
Having said that, I think that all the stereotypes about boys and girls are silly. The sex of a kid does not determine what activities they'll be interested in, or how they'll interact with their parents over the years. Those qualities vary with individuals, not by sex.
sure, kudos for honesty. However, it is one thing to say "I always wanted a girl." and completely another to say "I struggle every day because I don't have a girl." There is really nothing in life that should be a daily struggle. If it is, professional help should be sought. We all have ups and downs, good days and bad days. In a case like this, where it is what it is, and can not be changed, nothing is gained by dwelling on the negative. It's not good for one's mental health.
Btw, Mattie, if you want to play the stupid stereotype game, guess which gender child will actually be there to love and support you in your old age. Hint: it ain't the gender you've got.
Lol, I bowed out of this thread months ago. I make no apologies for my remarks. I'm pretty certain I stated if I had had daughters, I would have loved them just as much as my sons, who I am delighted with. But, like the OP, in the end I am happy with the way things turned out.
BTW, my BROTHER is the child most involved in my mother's care. I visit regularly, but he handles her finances and flies across the country almost monthly to do maintenance on her house. My other BROTHERS take her on vacation with them.
BTW, my BROTHER is the child most involved in my mother's care. I visit regularly, but he handles her finances and flies across the country almost monthly to do maintenance on her house. My other BROTHERS take her on vacation with them.
Who is playing stereotype games now?
So you're a misogynist and you don't take care of your parents?
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