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How is the assumption that kids won't push the boundries unhealthy? It all depends on how you raise your kids and the balance you have.
You can raise your kids perfect and they will still do it. There are too many variables that a parent has no control over in that department. Very few kids will not buck somewhat....it doesn't mean they will all go buck wild, but your parenting style will determine how they get through it most of the time.
I pushed the boundaries because my mom never gave a reason that ever held any water.
Everything I wanted to do she made it out to be revolving around sex or something sexual, which always threw me off because it seemed pretty warped.
I once tweezed my eye brows too thin and she shat baby kittens over that one, accusing me of shaving my eye brows because I stayed in the bathroom too long and (this was all happening out in public at a school talent show after the show was over) and she demanded to know what else other then my legs or armpits had I been shaving. If I could have I would have dug a hole in the floor and died.
I wanted to use tampons at 13 so I could go swimming, while living in texas and it being 100 degrees out but that turned into her asking me if I was ready for sex because only women who had had sex used tampons.
I wanted to wear make-up at 12 and that turned into make-up only being for women who were trying to get a man to have sex with them, not because every girl in my grade was already wearing make-up and I already still looked 10 at 12 and was tired of looking like a child and it was damaging my maturity and self esteem.
She ripped her credibility to shreds herself. I followed my own path and did things when I was ready because when the one person who can veto that doesn't seem even slightly sane you tend to have to go it on your own a bit.
I pushed the boundaries because my mom never gave a reason that ever held any water.
Everything I wanted to do she made it out to be revolving around sex or something sexual, which always threw me off because it seemed pretty warped.
I once tweezed my eye brows too thin and she shat baby kittens over that one, accusing me of shaving my eye brows because I stayed in the bathroom too long and (this was all happening out in public at a school talent show after the show was over) and she demanded to know what else other then my legs or armpits had I been shaving. If I could have I would have dug a hole in the floor and died.
I wanted to use tampons at 13 so I could go swimming, while living in texas and it being 100 degrees out but that turned into her asking me if I was ready for sex because only women who had had sex used tampons.
I wanted to wear make-up at 12 and that turned into make-up only being for women who were trying to get a man to have sex with them, not because every girl in my grade was already wearing make-up and I already still looked 10 at 12 and was tired of looking like a child and it was damaging my maturity and self esteem.
She ripped her credibility to shreds herself. I followed my own path and did things when I was ready because when the one person who can veto that doesn't seem even slightly sane you tend to have to go it on your own a bit.
Not yet, but I am fairly suspicious that those joys await me. You know what they say about karma? I was a devillish teen, and I suspect I will be repaid in kind by my spawn!
I pushed the boundaries because my mom never gave a reason that ever held any water.
Everything I wanted to do she made it out to be revolving around sex or something sexual, which always threw me off because it seemed pretty warped.
I once tweezed my eye brows too thin and she shat baby kittens over that one, accusing me of shaving my eye brows because I stayed in the bathroom too long and (this was all happening out in public at a school talent show after the show was over) and she demanded to know what else other then my legs or armpits had I been shaving. If I could have I would have dug a hole in the floor and died.
I wanted to use tampons at 13 so I could go swimming, while living in texas and it being 100 degrees out but that turned into her asking me if I was ready for sex because only women who had had sex used tampons.
I wanted to wear make-up at 12 and that turned into make-up only being for women who were trying to get a man to have sex with them, not because every girl in my grade was already wearing make-up and I already still looked 10 at 12 and was tired of looking like a child and it was damaging my maturity and self esteem.
She ripped her credibility to shreds herself. I followed my own path and did things when I was ready because when the one person who can veto that doesn't seem even slightly sane you tend to have to go it on your own a bit.
Wow! That's extreme. I can understand why you went against her. My mother was similarly unreasonably strict, and I also responded through rebellion and sneaking. I wouldn't want to see a 12 y.o. in heavy make-up like dark eyeliner, but I think a few basics are definitely okay at that age.
Not yet, but I am fairly suspicious that those joys await me. You know what they say about karma? I was a devillish teen, and I suspect I will be repaid in kind by my spawn!
Really to make it fun you should buy a blue wig now so when she comes home with it you can put it on and say "Look were twins!"
Oh you have no idea of my vast bank of parenting knowledge i can impart to you
Sure. For example, you could teach me a story about some goats and a bridge.
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, though remember that in 6 months if you come on here saying "my daughter used Sun In 
