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Old 12-15-2010, 09:48 PM
 
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If your teenage daughter didn't like to wear dresses, skirts, or wear makeup and prefered to keep her hair short or buzzed and wear boys clothes, would you still force her to dress feminine?

And if the family were going out somewhere that required everyone to dress nice, would you object to her wearing something like this?:

http://www.newmanindia.com/images/about_pic.jpg (broken link)
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Old 12-15-2010, 09:52 PM
 
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The link does not work.
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Old 12-15-2010, 09:58 PM
 
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The link does not work.

I'm not sure why it won't work, just copy and paste in another tab to see it.
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Old 12-15-2010, 10:24 PM
 
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The pic is of a man's outfit----dress shirt with tie.

I wouldn't require a daughter to dress any specific way for everyday wear, but I would require she meet me halfway for a formal affair, like attending a wedding.

I might not insist she wear a dress, but she would wear more appropriate clothing. For example, she would have to wear a suit, not just a dress shirt and a tie.

There are many women's pants suits that look masculine. I'm sure we could find a middle ground.
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Old 12-15-2010, 10:25 PM
 
Location: Northern California
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I see nothing wrong with a girl/woman wearing a nice shirt, pants, and a tie instead of a dress, so no objections here.
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Old 12-15-2010, 10:28 PM
 
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I see nothing wrong with a girl/woman wearing a nice shirt, pants, and a tie instead of a dress, so no objections here.
But why would a woman want to wear a tie. Most men hate them.
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Old 12-15-2010, 10:33 PM
 
Location: Northern California
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But why would a woman want to wear a tie. Most men hate them.
Because some women like ties? I'm not a tie wearer myself but I could care less what "most men" think of my clothing. I dress to make myself and my husband happy, not other men I meet.

Besides, this thread is about parents and their teenage daughters. How many parents are going to tell their 15 year olds "Sorry, you can't wear that; it's not attractive to men."
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Old 12-15-2010, 10:42 PM
 
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It would not bother me if my daughter dressed like that. I'm far more concerned with what is going on in my kids heads and hearts than what the exterior looks like. Forcing a girl to dress more feminine is such a subjective thing anyway.

By the way, if my teenage daughter was wearing men's suits, and buzzing her hair, I'd say it's time for ma and pa to get with the program, and have some meaningful discussions with their daughter. Just sayin'!
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Old 12-15-2010, 10:57 PM
 
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Besides, this thread is about parents and their teenage daughters. How many parents are going to tell their 15 year olds "Sorry, you can't wear that; it's not attractive to men."
I think she meant most men don't like to wear ties themselves but are forced to wear them but is perplexed because her daughter wants to wear them.

To answer the question. No, forcing a teenager to dress a certain way would be futile. For a formal occasion, make sure she dresses neatly and forgoes jeans, but forcing her into a 'costume' that she doesn't feel right in just so you will be more comfortable seems cruel. This just isn't an important enough issue for you to alienate your child over.
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Old 12-15-2010, 11:09 PM
 
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I think she meant most men don't like to wear ties themselves but are forced to wear them but is perplexed because her daughter wants to wear them.

To answer the question. No, forcing a teenager to dress a certain way would be futile. For a formal occasion, make sure she dresses neatly and forgoes jeans, but forcing her into a 'costume' that she doesn't feel right in just so you will be more comfortable seems cruel. This just isn't an important enough issue for you to alienate your child over.
Haha, that makes a lot more sense! Thanks for clarifying.

And definitely + rep for your post.
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