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Old 12-23-2010, 01:11 AM
 
Location: Wherever life takes me.
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And the little keyboard which has never seemed so small until its the main way I type on the internet on my phone....its such a PITA

 
Old 12-23-2010, 05:46 AM
 
Location: Western Washington
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Did you ever imagine you'd have so many cybermoms who were looking out for you? LOL We really do care sweetie. Sometimes it's tough love, sometimes cushy (((((((HUGS))))))) but we're always looking out for you hon! Merry Christmas Txt!
 
Old 12-23-2010, 07:21 AM
 
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My first thought is there might be a good chance they won't use you any longer if you move out - or use you so little that it's not worth it. Have you talked to them at all yet?

I'm thinking this because for them it's a good deal that they get x amount of services from you each month to work off your rent before they start having to pay you. They won't want to pay you $10/hour for that same work. It's cheaper for them to have a nanny living there who needs to work off the room and board first.

Everyone has already brought up very good points. Signing the rental agreement is one thing - but I would also sit down with the potential room mates and talk about expectations, what's allowed, etc. and all sign something amongst yourselves as well. You may think that sounds stupid - you are all friends - but that's even more reason to do this. Not to mention, you didn't like the idea of a contract with the nanny family and look how that ended up.

Take everyone's advice this time!
 
Old 12-23-2010, 07:33 AM
 
Location: Brooklyn, New York
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Look before you leap, like the poster said above me they might not use you as often and if they do it wont be for $10 an hour. Their arrangement seems to include you being a live in nanny. Why pay you $10 when they could possibly get a babysitter for less than that. Basically don't count that money as a stable income.
 
Old 12-23-2010, 07:45 AM
 
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Ill be a live out nanny.
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My first thought is there might be a good chance they won't use you any longer if you move out - or use you so little that it's not worth it. Have you talked to them at all yet?

I'm thinking this because for them it's a good deal that they get x amount of services from you each month to work off your rent before they start having to pay you. They won't want to pay you $10/hour for that same work. It's cheaper for them to have a nanny living there who needs to work off the room and board first.
Exactly. Txtqueen, make sure you have a second job lined up. I doubt you will kept on as a part-time nanny. They are getting you for practically free with you living in their home working off your rent. They are not going to want to pay you $560 a month in cash. No way. If they do, it will only be for a few months until they find a new live-in nanny to take your place. Then you'll be without a second job to help you pay the rent. Definitely make sure you have a backup plan---another part time job.

This is one area where you need to trust your cybermoms. We know how people think. This family has been taking advantage of you by having you pay to drive their children around in their cars. They are doing that to you because they are cheap and don't want to spend money. They want a nanny who works off rent, not a nanny they have to pay cash.

Trust me on this! Even if you they say they will keep you, they will not keep you for long. You have to be responsible and consider that in your plans. You need to make sure you can afford this shared apartment without being their nanny. That means either get rid of luxuries or find another part-time job. Don't move until you've ensured that you can support yourself without the nanny job.
 
Old 12-23-2010, 08:25 AM
 
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AAAAArrrggghhhhh!

Once again, within HOURS of getting some absolutely fabulous advice, she has all the answers. No thought. No contemplation of anything said to her.

No "Thanks, guys for thinking of me. I really appreciate it."
 
Old 12-23-2010, 12:26 PM
 
Location: maryland
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Additional things to consider....

Remember you will now be paying for laundry too...
"Cable ready" is not the same as cable included. Are you all on the same page with what/if you can (or most likely cannot) afford WRT cable or internet services? You do realize it's possible to live without cable?
Heat and A/C can get pricey - consider which direction your windows face...and which floor you are on. That kind of stuff can make a difference in utilities.

Who gets the "master bedroom" - do they pay the same as everyone else?

How do you handle it when someone's friend or boyfriend "temporarily" stays...for a few months.
Utilities go up and now you're also paying his share too....

You may be required to pay "renters insurance"....if something happens to your stuff, the apartment complex is usually not liable...it's your problem.

These are all the kind of things that really happen. Make sure you are aware of all this.
That reminds me of a thing on passiveagreesivenotes.com in which one of 3 roomates had a gf who had unofficially become the 4th roomate *the non rent/utility/food paying kind he said lol" anyway he complained how that they never put the heat up until she moved in because like all apartments you get residual heat from everyone else so no need . Well she would constantly turn the heat up to 90 until one day the 2 un whipped roommates stole and hid the thermostat .
 
Old 12-23-2010, 12:27 PM
 
Location: maryland
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Not necessarily. Depends on the apartment. Some are included, some aren't. Some complexes are older and have less insulation etc and some are newer. You really can't paint with such a broad brush. Each situation is different. Txt, you need to look at how the lease is worded and what it means for each person if another one bails for any reason. Will you be able to keep babysitting or will they dump you if you move out? Read the lease carefully and understand what you are signing. Once you sign a lease, you are obligating yourself to paying rent for the term of the lease. Even if you lose your job, even if someone moves out, even if...even if you get into the police academy and can no longer work the two jobs it will take you to make all your payments.....it is a binding contract. They can and will sue you for the balance if you default (now, they are obligated to try to re lease it but if they can't or can't for the same amount of money, you are obligated to the balance. If you don't pay it, then your credit will be ruined. And bad credit looks bad on a job application. Especially ones where they want to be extra sure you aren't susceptible to...shall we say "nontraditional" income). Be smart. Know what you are getting yourself into before jumping this time.

I'm comparing them to md's out of this world electric bills is all macie...in that case they are dirty cheap
 
Old 12-23-2010, 12:29 PM
 
Location: maryland
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Not necessarily. Depends on the apartment. Some are included, some aren't. Some complexes are older and have less insulation etc and some are newer. You really can't paint with such a broad brush. Each situation is different. Txt, you need to look at how the lease is worded and what it means for each person if another one bails for any reason. Will you be able to keep babysitting or will they dump you if you move out? Read the lease carefully and understand what you are signing. Once you sign a lease, you are obligating yourself to paying rent for the term of the lease. Even if you lose your job, even if someone moves out, even if...even if you get into the police academy and can no longer work the two jobs it will take you to make all your payments.....it is a binding contract. They can and will sue you for the balance if you default (now, they are obligated to try to re lease it but if they can't or can't for the same amount of money, you are obligated to the balance. If you don't pay it, then your credit will be ruined. And bad credit looks bad on a job application. Especially ones where they want to be extra sure you aren't susceptible to...shall we say "nontraditional" income). Be smart. Know what you are getting yourself into before jumping this time.

Depends on the type of job really...unless she is dealing with a finance job or insurance they aren't going to likely check. Where it will be bad is when her car breaks down and she needs a loan to buy a new one and that little black mark comes back to bite her in the rump.
 
Old 12-23-2010, 12:56 PM
 
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Depends on the type of job really...unless she is dealing with a finance job or insurance they aren't going to likely check. Where it will be bad is when her car breaks down and she needs a loan to buy a new one and that little black mark comes back to bite her in the rump.
Lots of places check. Lots. Entertainment industry checks in CA. As does most of the tourist industry there.

(Yes, txt. I know you live in CO. Live as though every single potential employer checks.)
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