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Old 12-28-2010, 08:55 AM
 
Location: NW Montana
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I think you are missing the main point.
The op is providing assistance to his son in the form of housing.
Just as it is granted, it may be revoked.
OP do not feel guilt over standing your ground, you know where this may all lead. You do not have to support it.

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Well, I guess that is the domain of young adults isn't it? To make their own decisions no matter what their parents may think.

Responsibility to the son? No absolutely not. Wherewithal to realize that his son is an adult and has the right to make his own decisions when it comes to who he spends time with? Absolutely.

 
Old 12-28-2010, 08:59 AM
 
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I think you are missing the main point.
The op is providing assistance to his son in the form of housing.
Just as it is granted, it may be revoked.
OP do not feel guilt over standing your ground, you know where this may all lead. You do not have to support it.
I'm not missing any point.

No matter what the OP is providing, he does not have a right to tell his adult son who he may spend time with outside of his home. Period.
 
Old 12-28-2010, 09:02 AM
 
Location: NW Montana
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I'm not missing any point.

No matter what the OP is providing, he does not have a right to tell his adult son who he may spend time with outside of his home. Period.

So where do you draw the line? DUI, Drugs, Criminal activity?
Someone living in your household can make you liable for their actions in a court of law.
 
Old 12-28-2010, 09:03 AM
 
Location: Denver area
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Where did I say no rules? Oh that's right! I didn't!!! I said that as long as my kids were WORKING and WERE SAVING they could stay home for a few years to build a nice nest egg up for themselves.

OH THE UNHOLY HORROR OF IT ALL!!! ::faints::
Rules? For adults? Who are you to be demanding they save money? They are adults and should be able to make financial decisions for themselves. How controlling is that
 
Old 12-28-2010, 09:04 AM
 
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So where do you draw the line? DUI, Drugs, Criminal activity?
Someone living in your household can make you liable for their actions in a court of law.
Apparently, as long as they have a job, all is well.
 
Old 12-28-2010, 09:05 AM
 
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So where do you draw the line? DUI, Drugs, Criminal activity?
Someone living in your household can make you liable for their actions in a court of law.
DUI: I would allow them to live at home still.

Drugs: I would allow them to live at home but would tell them they need to seek therapy or they would have to move out.


We are talking about a kid sleeping with his girlfriend at her house. There is nothing in that scenario for which the OP would be held liable.
 
Old 12-28-2010, 09:06 AM
 
Location: NW Montana
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Apparently, as long as they have a job, all is well.
I cannot rep you but I sure wish I could
Love involves a bit of toughness sometimes.
 
Old 12-28-2010, 09:07 AM
 
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Apparently, as long as they have a job, all is well.
That isn't true. I'll thank you to stop misrepresenting what I've said along with outright lying.

 
Old 12-28-2010, 09:08 AM
 
Location: NW Montana
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DUI: I would allow them to live at home still.

Drugs: I would allow them to live at home but would tell them they need to seek therapy or they would have to move out.


We are talking about a kid sleeping with his girlfriend at her house. There is nothing in that scenario for which the OP would be held liable.
Well in some states if she is a minor that would be a big problem. If he is involved in anything criminal then the girl's parents can come back onto the OP being they would be the ones with assessments.
 
Old 12-28-2010, 09:09 AM
 
Location: Charlotte, NC
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So where do you draw the line? DUI, Drugs, Criminal activity?
Someone living in your household can make you liable for their actions in a court of law.
This discussion is about a legal adult having sex/sleeping with another person outside his parents' house. Those issues are red herrings, and have no place here. It is usually not helpful to discuss hypothetical situations, as every person and situation is not the same.
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