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No. YOU are focusing on that. We have discussed this as parents. This is a parenting forum. We exchange ideas. We share feelings and experiences. YOU choose to focus on YOUR life and what YOU want. (Which, I've become convinced is some sort of Pony Express way-station where you can come in, have something to eat, a shower, then flop on the mattress for a nap on the nights you have nowhere else to go.)
You don't want to participate in a discussion. You want to cry about your life as a 22 year old with no responsibilities. Mattie is right. Take it to Relationships. I have an idea you will get a ton people saying "Poor girl. My mommie is mean too." Seriously. There's a forum for that.
What is so wrong with explaining to me WHY you think it is wrong?
If no one tells me WHY it is wrong and offers up some sort of explaination and backing to it....then how will I ever know WHY parents think the way they do?
Enlighten me, teach me, show me your perspective and open my eyes to the other side of the argument quit telling me my house my rules.
I have a lot of responsibilities.
And my mom doesn't prohibit me from staying at TG's. So I haven't been whining about it.
What is so wrong with explaining to me WHY you think it is wrong?
If no one tells me WHY it is wrong and offers up some sort of explaination and backing to it....then how will I ever know WHY parents think the way they do?
Enlighten me, teach me, show me your perspective and open my eyes to the other side of the argument quit telling me my house my rules.
I have a lot of responsibilities.
And my mom doesn't prohibit me from staying at TG's. So I haven't been whining about it.
Why WE think you are wrong doesn't matter. Since you still live largely at home, the only opinion that should matter to YOU is that of your mother.
What is so wrong with explaining to me WHY you think it is wrong?
If no one tells me WHY it is wrong and offers up some sort of explaination and backing to it....then how will I ever know WHY parents think the way they do?
Enlighten me, teach me, show me your perspective and open my eyes to the other side of the argument quit telling me my house my rules.
I have a lot of responsibilities.
And my mom doesn't prohibit me from staying at TG's. So I haven't been whining about it.
This thread isn't about you, though. It's about someone else's specific problem with a disrespectful teenager. "But why why why" is irrelevant.
What is so wrong with explaining to me WHY you think it is wrong?
If no one tells me WHY it is wrong and offers up some sort of explaination and backing to it....then how will I ever know WHY parents think the way they do?
Enlighten me, teach me, show me your perspective and open my eyes to the other side of the argument quit telling me my house my rules.
I have a lot of responsibilities.
And my mom doesn't prohibit me from staying at TG's. So I haven't been whining about it.
Txt- I don't understand why this is so hard for you to understand. I am paying the mortgage, the power, the water, for the carpet, tile, wood floors that you are wearing down, the bed, the food, the wear and tear on the doors that open and close, the wear and tear on the driveway, and a million other things in MY house. I get to set the rules. I could set a rule that everyone has to crab walk inside the house every Tuesday. The rules don't have to make sense to you. They are MY rules. If you don't like it, you don't have to live in MY house. When you have your own place, you get to make the rules.
Why WE think you are wrong doesn't matter. Since you still live largely at home, the only opinion that should matter to YOU is that of your mother.
No, dammit. *Sighs*.
I want to know WHY parents are against their adult children who still live at home spending the night at boyfriend/girlfriends house. This has nothing to do with what I do. I just want to know WHY some parents are against it.
Is it a religious thing?
Against premarital sex?
Is it against your beliefs?
What is it?
Help me understand.
Please don't make me turn to Yahoo!Answers.
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Originally Posted by JustJulia
This thread isn't about you, though. It's about someone else's specific problem with a disrespectful teenager. "But why why why" is irrelevant.
And I am not trying to make it about me.
I am trying to understand WHY sleeping at a SO's house while you still live at home is viewed as inappropriate to some...
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Originally Posted by num1baby
Txt- I don't understand why this is so hard for you to understand. I am paying the mortgage, the power, the water, for the carpet, tile, wood floors that you are wearing down, the bed, the food, the wear and tear on the doors that open and close, the wear and tear on the driveway, and a million other things in MY house. I get to set the rules. I could set a rule that everyone has to crab walk inside the house every Tuesday. The rules don't have to make sense to you. They are MY rules. If you don't like it, you don't have to live in MY house. When you have your own place, you get to make the rules.
I understand you can make any rules you want....
But I want to know WHY, why is it viewed as inappropriate, why don't some parents allow it..
Why are you prohibiting it?
What's your reasoning behind it?
I am trying to understand this.
Seriously, we're focusing on the act of spending the night with an SO while living at home with your parents.
What about that is wrong?
If I get another half-assed answer that doesn't address WHY it is such a horrible thing that should be forbidden I am pretty sure I am going to explode, those of you colorado people will see a giant explosion in the DTC area.
Promise?
Parents get to set the rule of their house.
If adult children don't like it.... JustJulia will help you pack!
Exactly, we did not just step off the mayflower, this is not little house on the prairie, I don't see why we still need to be so conservative and prudish.
exactly. i already lived in my then bf's apartment at 17 and i turned out just fine, i dont know what slbailey has hangups about, but it sounds uptight and 18th century.
Really? Spending the night with someone then going back home to mommy and daddy's? Either be a child or be an adult- You can't choose to be both.
People often enjoy the bonding of sleeping in the same bed. I fail to see how living at home but sleeping occasionally at ones mates house is the barometer of adulthood or not.
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exactly. i already lived in my then bf's apartment at 17 and i turned out just fine, i dont know what slbailey has hangups about, but it sounds uptight and 18th century.