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Old 01-01-2011, 06:24 PM
 
Location: Western Washington
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Me too! ^^^...well, with the exception of this...You need to leave these people alone, or you could be facing charges. Remember what I said about "harrassing messages being saved on an answering machine, to be used against you later"? Yes, OP, that could be you.
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Old 01-01-2011, 08:19 PM
 
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I believe the OP also posted here asking for advice on getting the children-- in whose home he will be a guest-- to obey his rules and what have you once he moves in.

Edited: I was close. Cousin moving in
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Old 01-01-2011, 08:30 PM
 
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In my case the urgency is that I need to know last minute answers to questions in regards to terms and agreements as the person who I've been trying to get in communication with is the only one that can answer those questions.



What I want them to resolve is the fact that their son should have picked up the first time and told me what I wanted to hear but inside he was being a little $%& and being rude to that person.

Do you call it harassment when the person that you are trying to reach is also someone that you are moving in with in a week and you needed answers as you are leaving in a few days and if you don't get those answers then you can't leave or find out half-way you are there that they changed their mind and don't want you to stay either?
Quite frankly your posts show that you have the problem with manners. Seriously scary that you cannot see your calling pattern as harrassing and selfish. Project much or do you simply not play well with others unless you get your way, when you want it and how you want it?
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Old 01-02-2011, 01:06 AM
 
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I couldn't figure out why I had this poster on 'ignore' until I got to this post. Now I remember. Talk about a brick wall! 5 pages and people are actually responding.

The cousin (not uncle) and his wife told him MONTHS AGO that he is not welcome and cannot move in with them and should make other arrangements. In addition to the ridiculous excuse above as to why he feels the cousin should take him in, this poster has also stated that because his cousin is now taking care of the poster's father, he is also obligated to support HIM. His mother told him to leave them alone, his aunt told him so too.

I hope the cousin has contacted the authorities in anticipation of the OP's attempt to barge into their home.

Thanks Kobber for the post and the reminder of what is REALLY going on here!
Barge nope not when I'm paying rent.
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Old 01-02-2011, 01:14 AM
 
Location: New York City
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Email works for me.
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Old 01-02-2011, 06:05 AM
 
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DH and I still screen our calls through the answering machine. Our friends/relatives know this, and they identify themselves right away when they call, knowing that if we are home we'll pick up. If it is a telemarketer, solicitation call, (or, sometimes, a bill collector), we don't answer. If they don't identify themselves, either, we don't answer. 75 percent of our calls turn out to be unidentified "hang ups".
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Old 01-02-2011, 07:02 AM
 
Location: Rogers, Arkansas
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Agree with the others that your behaviour in calling so often was out of line. Honestly, if I was 7, it would probably have scared me. I read your last thread- about moving in with the cousin- and in the rules you posted you were given, it clearly states that you are not to interfer ( 2) Don't smother the kids ... 4) What we say goes. If the kids ask us and we say "no" then it's a "no" if they say "yes" then it's a "yes".)l you are already breaking these rules and you haven;t even moved in yet!

One thing came to mind though... do you mind sharing what your cultural/ racial background is? Ie are you originally from a different country, even a generation or two back? Reading over these two threads, I just have a feeling you don't "get" American/ Western culture about parenting and social conventions.
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Old 01-02-2011, 07:29 AM
 
Location: Chapel Hill, N.C.
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whatever his culture, he just doesn't "get" anything, especially what we are trying to tell him.
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Old 01-02-2011, 10:29 AM
 
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Agree with the others that your behaviour in calling so often was out of line. Honestly, if I was 7, it would probably have scared me. I read your last thread- about moving in with the cousin- and in the rules you posted you were given, it clearly states that you are not to interfer ( 2) Don't smother the kids ... 4) What we say goes. If the kids ask us and we say "no" then it's a "no" if they say "yes" then it's a "yes".)l you are already breaking these rules and you haven;t even moved in yet!

One thing came to mind though... do you mind sharing what your cultural/ racial background is? Ie are you originally from a different country, even a generation or two back? Reading over these two threads, I just have a feeling you don't "get" American/ Western culture about parenting and social conventions.
My cultural background is Polish/American and I'm white. I'm from the Generation Y era. And how am I already breaking the rules when we haven't signed anything yet? I'm still waiting on a phone call and if I don't hear back from them then I will unpack my things. Keep in mind my cousin's wife said yes.
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Old 01-02-2011, 10:35 AM
 
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Keep in mind my cousin's wife said yes.
And you need to keep in mind that she has every right to change her mind. Which it sounds like she's done. I'm sorry, but just reading how you come across on here to us....I wouldn't want you living with me. You might want to evaluate how you come across to people. It's possible it's affecting you being able to find a job as well.
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