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Old 01-05-2011, 02:56 PM
 
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Thank you. I am determined to continue forward with our thus far beautiful relationship despite Jena's behaviour. I have and will continue to respect Jena as much as I respect her mother.

My GF and I have continued discussing Jena's behaviour since I first posted this thread. We both agree that while her behaviour is a bit cumbersome, it is something we can deal with. Afterall, there is little Jena can do to cause a rift between us.

When one is in love and committed, there is very little that can get in the way.
That sounds almost like a challenge.
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Old 01-05-2011, 07:23 PM
 
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More exchanges with her daughter, she is your daughter in the future. Understand why she is not willing to accept you, the future father.
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Old 01-06-2011, 06:05 AM
 
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More exchanges with her daughter, she is your daughter in the future. Understand why she is not willing to accept you, the future father.
At this point, she is 22. They met when she was 20/21. He is not a future father. He is the man dating (or down the road, married to) her mother. There is a distinct difference.
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Old 02-28-2011, 09:21 PM
 
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Every generation has it tough. CowGirl UP and make something of yourself and not off your parnets backs. If your 18 they owe you NOTHING!!!

Whoever left this in my rep comment^^:

You baby boomers can all so straight to hell. Your generation was the WORSE. All you people did was drink, do drugs, and sunk this country into major debt. And now that you're on your way out, you're leaving all your kids with the bill!
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Old 03-02-2011, 09:15 AM
 
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If the daughter is basically respectful towards you, try to let that be enough for now. Maybe she'll warm up, maybe you two will never be buddies. I guarantee you if you get in the middle or make her aloofness a big issue in you and your girlfriends relationship, that would be a mistake. If your uneasiness with grown daughter forces a mother-daughter rift, your girlfriend may never forgive you. Tread carefully.
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Old 03-02-2011, 10:38 AM
 
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It just be that she's feeling akward. I am a college student living with my Dad. Intellectually, I think it'd be good for him to get out and maybe date at some point. On the other hand, the house is small and when I'm at home I usually want to be left alone. I am not sure how well I'd cope with Dad bringing home a strange woman that i would have to socialize with. I suspect I might react by avoiding her and hiding in my room or spending as much time as possibleaway from the house.

The fact that she opened up a smidge when you were helping her out is a good sign. I'd just give her lots of space and time. If she's reading, working, or on the computer just give her space. If she initiates conversation of any kind, don't jump in too much. Keep it light and let her lead when possible. With a lot of time and patience on your part, she'll eventually open up a bit more.
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Old 04-16-2011, 11:49 AM
 
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Every generation has it tough. CowGirl UP and make something of yourself and not off your parnets backs. If your 18 they owe you NOTHING!!!

Whoever left this in my rep comment^^:

You baby boomers can all so straight to hell. Your generation was the WORSE. All you people did was drink, do drugs, and sunk this country into major debt. And now that you're on your way out, you're leaving all your kids with the bill!
Please. . .spare me the BS! You Gen Y kids are scared sick of life's common challenges. We may have drank and done drugs, but at least we weren't mooching off our parents until the age of 30 like so many of you now a days.
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