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Old 01-04-2011, 11:27 AM
 
Location: maryland
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I think it is time to talk to him. You don't need to get into graphic details, but letting him know that it's perfectly normal for adults to want private time together.

The bigger thing that I'm reading in your post is that he sounds jealous (not about WHAT you're doing behind closed doors), but that you are shutting him out. He is begging you to spend more time with him and obviously feels like he spends too much time alone. Plan some events (even just movie, pizza, popcorn nights where you ALL snuggle on the couch)... doesn't have to be expensive. Have a board game night. Sounds to me like he's trying to tell you how he's feeling... I don't think it really has much at all to do with the birds and the bees, but more about him feeling like he's alone and you and the wife get quality alone time together.

His parents having sex at night when he is asleep means that he is craving more time with his parents? Average sex doesn't last that long so unless mr cat is humping mrs cat 6-7 times a day doubtful this in really infringing on family time.
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Old 01-04-2011, 11:27 AM
 
Location: Chapel Hill, N.C.
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I've been called alot of things in my life but never a prude. Kinda funny really. It's just those terms are a turn off and rather crude and to me at least show a degree of embarrassment about what you are doing.
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Old 01-04-2011, 12:17 PM
 
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Am I the only one wondering if the 10 year old knows exactly what is going on?

Regardless, in today's world especially, if he's ten and doesn't know the facts of life he's way past due for "the talk". And why 3 nights a week structured "family time"? Don't you get together as a family every night and just hang? Watching TV or whatever? (Or do you work?)

One more: I don't think the term "get your freak on" brings out the prude in anyone. The use of the term implies a certain age/mentality/knowledge of use of words in the Urban Dictionary. When I was your age it was just, "Get it on."
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Old 01-04-2011, 12:22 PM
 
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Am I the only one wondering if the 10 year old knows exactly what is going on?

Regardless, in today's world especially, if he's ten and doesn't know the facts of life he's way past due for "the talk". And why 3 nights a week structured "family time"? Don't you get together as a family every night and just hang? Watching TV or whatever? (Or do you work?)

One more: I don't think the term "get your freak on" brings out the prude in anyone. The use of the term implies a certain age/mentality/knowledge of use of words in the Urban Dictionary. When I was your age it was just, "Get it on."

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Old 01-04-2011, 12:33 PM
 
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[quote=TheOriginalMrsX;17252199]Eww I don't know any adult that does the 'dirty dead'. It would be kind of stinky, no?

OP yes have the talk with your son and explain the birds and bees to him. Also speak to him about getting up at night and wandering about to your bedroom. I am a bit surprised that at the age of 10 he is just up and heading off to your bedroom when its late at night. Is he just being curious or is he just not sleeping at night and wants to come to talk?[/quote]


That was my first thought. He maybe having trouble with sleep, but is afraid to interrupt (not really understanding what going on), and having daddy yell at him when he needs comfort.
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Old 01-04-2011, 12:53 PM
 
Location: Wherever life takes me.
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I'll give some serious advice.
My brother went through this around the same age.

Its not jealously, its not curiosity, he isn't feeling alone and needing more mom and dad time, he isn't having trouble sleeping.

My brother when he was about 8-10 had a slight knowledge of what sex was, enough that he didn't like my mom and her then fiance sleeping in the same bed, in the same room or having sex, so he would do everything in his power to keep it from happening whether it was waking up and claiming to be sick or whatever, he would want to come sleep in bed with them, anything to prevent them from having sex because he was uncomfortable with the idea and didn't want them to have sex.
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Old 01-04-2011, 12:58 PM
 
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His parents having sex at night when he is asleep means that he is craving more time with his parents? Average sex doesn't last that long so unless mr cat is humping mrs cat 6-7 times a day doubtful this in really infringing on family time.
Clearly he's NOT asleep... he's standing outside their door.
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Old 01-04-2011, 12:59 PM
 
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I'll give some serious advice.
My brother went through this around the same age.

Its not jealously, its not curiosity, he isn't feeling alone and needing more mom and dad time, he isn't having trouble sleeping.

My brother when he was about 8-10 had a slight knowledge of what sex was, enough that he didn't like my mom and her then fiance sleeping in the same bed, in the same room or having sex, so he would do everything in his power to keep it from happening whether it was waking up and claiming to be sick or whatever, he would want to come sleep in bed with them, anything to prevent them from having sex because he was uncomfortable with the idea and didn't want them to have sex.
Isn't that jealousy? And he is having trouble sleeping. When children are having trouble sleeping it is usually due to illness or mental distress. In this case I do it agree that could certainly be because he doesn't want them to have sex, but then wouldn't he be interrupting instead of just standing there?
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Old 01-04-2011, 01:01 PM
 
Location: Back at home in western Washington!
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Maybe he's afraid to interupt because he'll get in trouble...
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Old 01-04-2011, 01:02 PM
 
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Isn't that jealousy? And he is having trouble sleeping. When children are having trouble sleeping it is usually due to illness or mental distress. In this case I do it agree that could certainly be because he doesn't want them to have sex, but then wouldn't he be interrupting instead of just standing there?
Maybe he's too scared to say something...idk.
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