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Old 01-11-2011, 02:44 PM
 
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I think those who've grown up in California & gone to school & competed with Asian/Chinese kids know there's a kernel of truth to her parenting style, beneath all the hyperbole. But I'm kind of surprised that sociologists or educational psychs haven't chimed in to offer alternative explanations on why Asian/Chinese students excel and make up a disproportionate share at elite campuses like UC's or the Ivy's.

Of course Amy Chua would say it's all parenting & micromanaging your child's life to achieve certain goals from a very young age. However, other factors like peer pressure/expectations & maybe even lack of other outlets like organized sports programs could be factors.
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Old 01-11-2011, 02:48 PM
 
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My son plays piano, saxophone, and percussion so he is probably ruined for life due to being exposed to those inferior musical instruments. PLUS-he only practices for about 45 minutes a day and he LIKES PRACTICING.

As if all those inferior musical instruments were not bad enough my oldest son plays football and he wrestles. What a waste of life he is.
My daughter plays the violin, but I'm sure any good from that is canceled out by the fact that she acts in plays, horror of horrors.
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Old 01-11-2011, 03:13 PM
 
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My daughter plays the violin, but I'm sure any good from that is canceled out by the fact that she acts in plays, horror of horrors.
My son played the drums in the last school play. No wonder he is so useless! Can you imagine the horror we have to endure due to this terrible stain on our family.
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Old 01-11-2011, 03:47 PM
 
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My son played the drums in the last school play. No wonder he is so useless! Can you imagine the horror we have to endure due to this terrible stain on our family.
I soooo agree- my son decided to play the trombone this year. I can't even begin to describe my disappointment in him!
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Old 01-11-2011, 03:59 PM
 
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I soooo agree- my son decided to play the trombone this year. I can't even begin to describe my disappointment in him!
You can only imagine how I feel about guitar. Well, one's a drummer but we don't talk about him in public.
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Old 01-11-2011, 04:03 PM
 
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You can only imagine how I feel about guitar. Well, one's a drummer but we don't talk about him in public.
Basement child. I understand completely.
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Old 01-11-2011, 04:11 PM
 
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My uncle married a woman from China. They raised their kids in Chicago. Two of my cousins went onto earn degrees from well known schools. One went to MIT. All are doing very well now. They would come home from school and do homework and then do more homework. Interestingly my Uncle and aunt also took the boys on trips all over the world to see how it is somewhere else and to allow them to realize how fortunate that they are to live here.
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Old 01-11-2011, 04:11 PM
 
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You can only imagine how I feel about guitar. Well, one's a drummer but we don't talk about him in public.
Of course I do..I require my son to tell people he plays the piano if anyone asks. He's such an embarrassment to the whole family..

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Old 01-11-2011, 04:27 PM
 
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You guys are so funny! I'm LMAO at the instrument sarcasm!
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Old 01-11-2011, 04:52 PM
 
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Well, another perspective, I grew up next to a family from China, the kids were scared of their Dad, who would literally beat them if they did not get straight A's in school. Those kids screamed, my Mom called CPS several times. Those kids had to study all the time, while we were out playing in the sun, riding bikes around the neighborhood, those kids were studying. Yes, they are successful now...but so am I...and no one ever beat me, and I had a balanced childhood.
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