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Old 01-19-2011, 06:18 AM
 
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We got a baby coming, and concluded that it is in our best interest to have a live-in nanny for the first 2 years. This is not because we're not around a lot, but more because our work schedules are to sporadic that we can't do the typical 7-5 day care thing.
Anyways, for those of you have have a live-in nanny, how did you do it? family friends? advertisement? internet?

I have done my due diligent with the online search, but I have much reservation about random internet search. I'm hoping to heard from others that have gone down this path. How did you go about it? what would you do differently?
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Old 01-19-2011, 07:06 AM
 
Location: Chapel Hill, N.C.
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my friends who use professional services for household staffing say it is worth the peace of mind to know all candidates have been thoroughly vetted, are bonded, etc. I don't think I would want to have to research every single candidate. I would rely on a professional nanny search and somebody who knew from training or experience how to properly interact with the family.
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Old 01-19-2011, 07:54 PM
 
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Have you looked into au pair programs? This has worked for many people and especially if you want your child exposed to a different language.
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Old 01-20-2011, 09:19 AM
 
Location: Orlando, Florida
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Old 01-20-2011, 10:09 AM
 
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I would troll the City Data forums and try to find the most angst ridden 20-something I could who just can't wait to get out from under their mothers roof. This way I could make their life a living hell and be very demanding, but it is most likely better than the situation they left, at least in their mind.

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I'd contact a professional agency and go through them. It is important in the situation to have the bases covered and a professional with a complete background check and references along with being bonded and insured is what I would be after. They may be more pricey, but this is your kid we're talking about.
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Old 01-20-2011, 11:25 AM
 
Location: Georgia, USA
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When we did it thirty plus years ago, we put an ad in the local newspaper. The first person hired was a disaster with creepy mental health issues. Then we found someone who became more like family. She was like an extra grandmother and stayed with us until the kids were old enough to not need her any more. She even moved with us.

These days, I would concur with the idea of using a nanny service.

I would expect to see more turnover than we had, as you will probably end up with younger candidates who will eventually want to move on. I do not know whether you pay the nanny directly or pay the service and they pay the nanny. If you pay directly, you have to do payroll and workman's comp taxes. Using a service would reduce the risk of hiring someone who is in the country illegally, also.

You may be eligible for a child care tax credit that will recoup a good portion of what you pay as the employer's share of taxes.

Whomever you hire, treat her well. Both of you should have a clear understanding of hours and responsibilities. Will she do just child care or also cooking, laundry and house cleaning, for example. Our nanny started out just doing child care, cooking, and laundry. She offered to do cleaning, too. She got a raise when she did. You may find it better to just hire a cleaning service.

We also provided a vehicle for her to use.

It was expensive, but when we were home, we could spend time with the kids, not doing household chores.

It was definitely worth it.
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Old 01-20-2011, 11:43 AM
 
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I would troll the City Data forums and try to find the most angst ridden 20-something I could who just can't wait to get out from under their mothers roof. This way I could make their life a living hell and be very demanding, but it is most likely better than the situation they left, at least in their mind.

or

I'd contact a professional agency and go through them. It is important in the situation to have the bases covered and a professional with a complete background check and references along with being bonded and insured is what I would be after. They may be more pricey, but this is your kid we're talking about.
Ha! No comment.

I agree with NJGOAT. Even more that that, though, is that I'd take a very good look at myself an my spouse's lifestyle and personality, and make sure I had a very good idea of what TYPE of nanny I wanted for my kid.

For example, as this is your first child, you might want somebody older and very experienced in baby care, but consider the type of parents you think you'll be. If you are planning to breastfeed and co sleep and babywear, then you'll need a nanny that's up on attachment style parenting and shares a similar philosophy.

If you want the baby to sleep in a crib and be on a strict schedule, then you'll need a nanny who knows how to implement this and can help you out in that way.

The worst thing, IMO, would be to have a nanny with the best references and the most fabulous credentials who is nonetheless completely at odds with your parenting style. I think it's surprising how many parents don't take this into consideration when hiring someone to help raise their kid. I think people would save themselves a lot of stress if they really knew exactly what type of nanny it is they need, and not just that the nanny is of good repute.
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Old 01-20-2011, 11:56 AM
 
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I would troll the City Data forums and try to find the most angst ridden 20-something I could who just can't wait to get out from under their mothers roof. This way I could make their life a living hell and be very demanding, but it is most likely better than the situation they left, at least in their mind.

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couldn't rep you but this is too funny. Wanna bet she'll find this
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Old 01-20-2011, 12:35 PM
 
Location: maryland
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We got a baby coming, and concluded that it is in our best interest to have a live-in nanny for the first 2 years. This is not because we're not around a lot, but more because our work schedules are to sporadic that we can't do the typical 7-5 day care thing.
Anyways, for those of you have have a live-in nanny, how did you do it? family friends? advertisement? internet?

I have done my due diligent with the online search, but I have much reservation about random internet search. I'm hoping to heard from others that have gone down this path. How did you go about it? what would you do differently?

give txtqueen a call.
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Old 01-20-2011, 12:36 PM
 
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I would troll the City Data forums and try to find the most angst ridden 20-something I could who just can't wait to get out from under their mothers roof. This way I could make their life a living hell and be very demanding, but it is most likely better than the situation they left, at least in their mind.

or

I'd contact a professional agency and go through them. It is important in the situation to have the bases covered and a professional with a complete background check and references along with being bonded and insured is what I would be after. They may be more pricey, but this is your kid we're talking about.

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